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Neighbour died and home has not been cleaned since

210 replies

Frogponder · 11/05/2025 07:56

Our elderly next door neighbour who lived alone died last month.

We and other neighbours noticed we hadn’t seen him about and his lights were on all night so we called the police who sent in a paramedic who found him. They took the body and told us he’d died a week earlier, which was shocking and sad.

Since then nobody seems to have been into the property, and we’re getting worried about rotting food, flies, rodents etc.

Another neighbour has written to the council and put a letter through the letterbox for the Executor (hoping there is one).

That neighbour is now suggesting we could all go in and just clear out the rotting food ourselves as the back door is unlocked.

Though this would be the quickest way to prevent a possible pest problem my instinct is that we should not go in, it would be trespassing (and unpleasant) and should be dealt with by the council. But the council may not deal with it quickly as they are over-stretched.

Any advice?

OP posts:
Reallybadidea · 11/05/2025 09:25

Frogponder · 11/05/2025 08:55

I’m surprised at the accusatory tone of some of the posts on this thread.

I didn’t realise that helping a neighbour over many years, reporting their suspected death and then being concerned for the health and safety implications of their abandoned unlocked property next door makes their neighbours busybodies…

Edited

It doesn't. But there are a lot of posters on this site trawling the boards for an opportunity to put the boot into someone. Don't take it personally, you sound like a good neighbour x

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 11/05/2025 09:25

What horrid people you are.

DisforDarkChocolate · 11/05/2025 09:25

I wouldn't go in but I think the example of contacting your local councillor is a good one. They'd be able to find out if someone at the local council is going to be left to organise clearance. If their needs to be a post mortem or inquest I can't imagine it being cleared before that.

shewasasaint · 11/05/2025 09:26

Zanatdy · 11/05/2025 09:04

With respect, most families wait until after the funeral / few weeks after that. My close friend died 15th March, her daughter and I went in last weekend. There was still food in the fridge and washing up on the side, but certainly no flies etc after 2 months. The fridge was still on and things were obviously inedible (been there since Jan 1st when she was admitted to hospital. It’s a tough job. Don’t enter the property.

Are you saying that your friend's daughter waited nearly two months before entering her late mother's house?

Surely this isn't usual?

NetZeroZealot · 11/05/2025 09:26

Going against the grain here … but I think that as a neighbour who knew him quite well and was trusted and invited into the house to help out sometimes this would not be unreasonable.
Will you go to the funeral OP?

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 11/05/2025 09:30

shewasasaint · 11/05/2025 09:26

Are you saying that your friend's daughter waited nearly two months before entering her late mother's house?

Surely this isn't usual?

I wouldn't have thought so. I certainly wouldn't be waiting that long. My mother would be turning in her grave to think of washing up undone and milk going off in the fridge!

faerietales · 11/05/2025 09:31

NetZeroZealot · 11/05/2025 09:26

Going against the grain here … but I think that as a neighbour who knew him quite well and was trusted and invited into the house to help out sometimes this would not be unreasonable.
Will you go to the funeral OP?

This poor man was laying dead in his home for a week before he was found - the house will (in the nicest way) be incredibly unpleasant and will require specialist cleaning teams - not well-meaning neighbours.

StMarie4me · 11/05/2025 09:33

The coroner will organise everything. Leave it alone. You would be breaking and entering.

SirChenjins · 11/05/2025 09:34

BobbyBiscuits · 11/05/2025 09:22

This is mind boggling?! You are so obsessed with the notion that a rotten fruit bowl could cause potential vermin, in your house(?) that you're prepared to break into someone's property? How the fuck would his family feel? How unbelievably self absorbed.

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How the fuck would his family feel? We would have been very grateful - because I can assure you, going into a house where someone had lain dead for a while is not a nice thing to do. If my dad’s neighbours had gone in before us and cleaned the food so we didn’t have to deal with the flies and maggots then we would have thanked them profusely.

DyslexicPoster · 11/05/2025 09:35

My mum died and was un contactable this time of year. She had possibly been dead a week before I got the police to check her. There's was nothing disgusting to see. Smell of death yes. Gore no. Flies no.

Police secured the property and billed us.

Also there was a recluse living in our road who hadn't been seen for weeks. I didn't notice because in three years I'd had never seen him even once. I never saw or met him or caught a glimpse since we moved in. I never saw his car move. He ignore us when we put notes through his door for our extension and tree cutting. His gardener was contacted by another neighbour when they noticed the garden was getting wild. It was summer. He had been dead over a month. Maybe two or more. The police dealt with the body and the house was cleared about 18 months later. No vermin and no flies.

It was broken into once word got around. But that was years later.

Ghosttofu99 · 11/05/2025 09:35

Longhotsummers · 11/05/2025 08:11

When you say rotting food, what do you imagine? At worst the fridge will have some that is off in it but that will be shut. There may be some fruit and bread out but I dont know what else you’d be concerned about.
it’s awful someone has put a note through - imagine being family and being greeted by that from over-invested neighbours.

Yes.

Poor neighbour was dead for a week but if food might be rotting everyone in the street is desperate to get in there.

researchers3 · 11/05/2025 09:37

LavenderFields7 · 11/05/2025 08:30

If it is classed as a suspicious death there may be an investigation, I wouldn’t go near the house in case they need to gather evidence. For example the person may have got food poisoning and died from that, they may want to see what they ate before they died (food packets, food in fridge etc). I would stay out of it.

Edited

Good point.

Etaerio · 11/05/2025 09:38

StMarie4me · 11/05/2025 09:33

The coroner will organise everything. Leave it alone. You would be breaking and entering.

The legal position will depend on the jurisdiction but 'breaking and entering' isn't a crime in England at least.

stichguru · 11/05/2025 09:38

Frogponder · 11/05/2025 08:25

It’s not a council property.

Yes the fact that the paramedic thought he had died about 7 days earlier makes me think that specialist cleaners are needed.

We don’t think he had any family as he never seemed to have visitors, in 20 plus years of us living next door he always used to ask us neighbours for help with any problems with fixing things in his very run down home, no relatives were ever around to help him.

As others have said, just leave it alone. If no family are forthcoming there may be legal issues determining who is now in charge of the property. Or there may be family who aren't local who have to say work out a time they can take off work and take the kids out of school to have time to come over from abroad. You don't know what the state the property is is and what cleaning is needed and it isn't your business to do anything.

Mylegishangingoff · 11/05/2025 09:39

Realistically speaking how much food would an elderly man who lived alone have in his house? I can't imagine it would be enough for any kind of concern. Elderly people aren't exact known for their huge appetites. It's really a non issue.

OneBadKitty · 11/05/2025 09:42

You're being dramatic! Most food will be sealed in the fridge. A few apples or bananas or a loaf of bread out aren't going to cause a neighborhood 'vermin' infestation. Even if a mouse and a few flies are in there it won't affect anyone else.

faerietales · 11/05/2025 09:44

DyslexicPoster · 11/05/2025 09:35

My mum died and was un contactable this time of year. She had possibly been dead a week before I got the police to check her. There's was nothing disgusting to see. Smell of death yes. Gore no. Flies no.

Police secured the property and billed us.

Also there was a recluse living in our road who hadn't been seen for weeks. I didn't notice because in three years I'd had never seen him even once. I never saw or met him or caught a glimpse since we moved in. I never saw his car move. He ignore us when we put notes through his door for our extension and tree cutting. His gardener was contacted by another neighbour when they noticed the garden was getting wild. It was summer. He had been dead over a month. Maybe two or more. The police dealt with the body and the house was cleared about 18 months later. No vermin and no flies.

It was broken into once word got around. But that was years later.

Even if the home isn't unpleasant, we don't know the cause of death, whether it's being treated as suspicious or whether the police need to do further investigations. Going into the property uninvited is just not a good idea.

Tbrh · 11/05/2025 09:44

Ghosttofu99 · 11/05/2025 09:35

Yes.

Poor neighbour was dead for a week but if food might be rotting everyone in the street is desperate to get in there.

💯 no one noticed the poor man was dead, but now they're concerned with a few rotten bananas 🤨

tripleginandtonic · 11/05/2025 09:45

If the door is unlocked you're not committing a crime. If you go in and empty the fridge and any inside rubbish bags and switch off any sockets.

Nominative · 11/05/2025 09:46

tripleginandtonic · 11/05/2025 09:45

If the door is unlocked you're not committing a crime. If you go in and empty the fridge and any inside rubbish bags and switch off any sockets.

Edited

Yes they are. If they remove anything, it is still technically theft.

mumda · 11/05/2025 09:47

The property should be secure. However you know it isn't you should contact the local police through an email.or 101.
Squatters are a bigger problem than flies.

Do not go in.
They may be appealing for next of kin.

faerietales · 11/05/2025 09:49

tripleginandtonic · 11/05/2025 09:45

If the door is unlocked you're not committing a crime. If you go in and empty the fridge and any inside rubbish bags and switch off any sockets.

Edited

They shouldn't go and disturb anything - we don't know if the police need to do further investigations or whether the death is being treated as suspicious.

Cherrysoup · 11/05/2025 09:50

Blimey, some of the responses on here are way over the top! When my neighbour’s dog barked all night, we knew something had happened to her. We were close but despite this, we still called the police to come in case someone needed to break in. Her German shepherd was a big girl and very intimidating for the police officer! Luckily i accompanied him and just shoved a handful of treats in her gob. The neighbour had had a stroke so the paramedics took her away and I used her phone to contact her ds to come and secure the property.

Etaerio · 11/05/2025 09:53

Nominative · 11/05/2025 09:46

Yes they are. If they remove anything, it is still technically theft.

Removing perishable food from the kitchen and putting it in the bin would be unlikely to qualify as theft under Section 1(b) of the Theft Act 1968. In any case, the CPS would need to conclude that it was in the public interest to pursue a conviction for throwing out a half-empty box of porridge oats without the permission of the executors.

Letstheriveranswer · 11/05/2025 10:00

I'd contact the police and report that the back door is unlocked so property is insecure. And leave it at that.

Hopefully that will stop your other overly invested neighbour from going in.

Also, since he died alone without being seen by a doctor the house is potentially a crime scene until post mortem done, so do not go in!!

Although if there was any real suspicion of there being a crime there would be blue tape, but the principle still applies, leave well alone.

There are countries where it would be normal for neighbours to help to this extent, but the UK is not one of them.

Also, I would hate the idea that neighbours (even friendly ones) were in my house after I'd died seeing how I lived and checking my food!