Pushy first time buyers

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I accepted an offer from a first time buyer on my ex rental home around 9 weeks ago and my gosh they have been so pushy and impatient.

Is this normal for first time buyers? Excitement I guess and keen to move in?

4 weeks to complete initial forms? A week to reply to queries? You sound like you are being deliberately slow. If I were them I'd probably pull out.

Seems a good thing! Surely better than dragging their heels.

Yep
We nearly list our buyer because our seller went to Spain for 10 days !!!
This is people's lives
How would you feel if you were trying to buy your dream, forever home and the person selling swan off on holiday for a fortnight?
It can take 6 weeks chain free to complete.

Seems op did not get the responses they wanted and have left the building.

I wish they were my buyers!
It's now been 5 months since I accepted their offer!

Agree the 4 weeks to fill in the first forms is the problem here. Thing is by taking so long to do that you've given the buyers the message that when left to your own devices you are going to move very very slowly on everything. I think it's natural and sensible for them now to chase, chase, chase because it's the only way to keep it moving. Hard to see why you wouldn't have answered queries in a week either - it's usually just a case of replying to an email and if it's a request to find a document that will take longer, all you have to do is confirm that situation and start looking for the document!

I'm a first time buyer as well, and I was impatient!

I had my offer accepted at the end of April, hustled HARD to get my bits of paperwork done, and then sat around waiting for the vendor.

We're completing today! Just waiting for the call.

I would be anyoned if it took you 4 weeks to complete the forms. It should've been a priority once you'd accepted the offer.

A three week delay on the very first task could mean an extra £1000 to them if they're renting!

Most people would do more than "nag" (if by nag you mean send one or two emails to save a grand!)

If the searches had come back with issues they would have been back to the drawing board with a month of time and rent wasted. Perhaps they chose your house over another because yours was chain free and they wanted to move quickly whereas if they'd known you'd take this long they would have chosen a different house.

I mean I think 6 weeks as the first poster suggested is probably the absolute quickest I've ever heard of the process taking, so if they were expecting that as a standard they were being a bit optimistic, but in your circumstances it sounds like there's no reason for both parties not to want to move quickly.

If I was your purchasers I would be looking at other properties. I would assume you are not serious about selling.

No. You are the problem here. Week 4 to receive the initial forms. That's shit.

It took our sellers 14 weeks to do the form. I don't think 4 weeks in the context of you being on holiday for some of that is so bad.

Yeah this. ^ At this point I would be pulling out if I was the buyer. The seller pissing me about/dragging their feet would not impress me. They might have a rental contract that they need to give notice on.

We pulled out of a sale some years ago. The seller agreed a price, then when we were 2 weeks from completion, and everything was good on our buyers end (as they were just living with parents,) the sellers said they want £2500 more from us to leave the nice fire surround in. (And the nice coal fire.) If we didn't pay it they would take it out, remove the fire and brick up the fireplace!

We asked the estate agent to speak to them and tell them to not be ridiculous! They wouldn't budge. So we pulled put of the sale. Found another house a week later, and were happy there for 6-7 years, then moved to downsize to our smaller home we have now.

The buyers who owned the house that OUR buyers were buying, weren't impressed, but that wasn't our problem - it was theirs (the people whose house WE were buying.)

The house we pulled out of was on sale for another 9 MONTHS before it sold. And the one at the top of the chain - (not the ones we were buying off - the ones who they were buying off,) sold straight away afterwards as there was someone else who wanted it.

If I had been your buyer @Scout9 I would tell you where you can stick your house!

They aren't pushy, you are too relaxed.

Double check they aren’t imminently expecting a baby! We couldn’t understand why our very pushy first time buyers got more and more agitated over a period of a few weeks, only to dramatically threaten to pull out if we didn’t move immediately as - SUPRISE! - they were expecting, and it was their baby’s due date that day!
We ended up moving our entire house into storage and living at the in laws for just 5 days, til our new house completed, to save the sale 😅 definitely gained a few grey hairs over that period.

4 weeks to fill out the initial forms? Yeah, sod that, they're getting twitchy about wether you are a committed seller or not.

This.

You should be delighted someone wants to complete asap.

An 'ex-rental property' (so presumably empty of anyone living there?) being sold to ftb ought to be the dream in terms of a quick, smooth move.

A thread from them complaining about you would be understandable, but You complaining about them is completely out of order.

They are't pushy. You are slow and disorganised.

I sold my flat last year chain free and to a cash buyer. I moved out so it was empty.

offer accepted in March. We completed in mid July. Delays from land registry due to leasehold. But I went on 2 holidays and had all paperwork in order so everything could complete in my absence. I got organised and pre warned. I didn’t want to lose my buyer

You are slow. They're not pushy at all.

Absolutely agree! Totally rude of you OP.

Their solicitor sent enquiries just over a week ago and they've already rang the agent and asked when can they expect to receive a response from us.

Are you saying you haven't answered the enquiries yet? We did ours the same day we received the request. Why so slow to respond OP?

I could just about understand someone who had a v high powered job and had been really full on till the moment they had to leave for the holiday. But then that type would probably fill in the forms on the plane.

I don't think they are being pushy either. They are probably worried it will fall through. You know you are a serious seller but they don't know that!

You seem like an absolute nightmare to deal with. I’d walk away for sure. You have inconvenienced the buyers. 4 weeks is unacceptable.