Hi - Ponyclub girl here, with the name that comes up on my MacBook - legacy account, old password.
I'm glad to hear your daughter was OK at Oxford; high-risk pregnancies can be stressful. And no, people often do not come away with horror stories, in part of course because the patient doesn't always have the training to understand what is going on. Until I qualified as a doctor, which I did (as a mature student) six years after I had my child, I had no real idea of how poor the medical care at Stoke maternity had been.
I didn't realise, for example, that a competent surgeon would not have cut straight into an artery on C-section: with the knowledge that I had already had two previous C-sections, they would have been careful to check for displacement of pelvic organs caused by scar tissue, and judged the point of incision correctly.
Likewise - when the artery re-ruptured in the middle of the night, pooling blood into the interior of my upper leg, the midwife on duty - had she not been negligent - would not have laughed and dismissed me, saying "hah, motherhood is pain". A well-managed and competent midwife would have been briefed when she came on shift that I was a patient at risk of re-rupture, and so would have immediately checked blood pressure and referred for an urgent scan.
Naturally, when I applied to the hospital for copies of my notes, and my baby's notes, they were "lost".
But - don't take my word for it. Read the most recent (2023) report by the CQC, summary attached. https://api.cqc.org.uk/public/v1/reports/61c87d2d-579d-46e3-bd8d-00e2ec0cbcae?20231025080039