I think that's a how long is a piece of string question.
We finished a listed and uninhabitable 3200 square foot house about 6 months ago and spent more than double the per square foot estimates on this page (W London). Our builder has said if we were starting today, costs would be at least 1/3 higher. To be fair, we had to do literally everything as the house was a shell (worse than a shell) and we were dealing with lots of constraints on materials due to it being listed.
We did borrow for the mortgage and construction, but it was hard going to find a lender willing to take it on. In the end, we took a short term, high interest bridging loan for the mortgage, then moved our banking to a private bank and they lent to us for the mortgage plus build. It was an endlessly complicated procedure that involved surveyors, valuers, engineers, architects, builders, a project manager, a planning consultant, party wall surveyors (even though it's detached) and two QS's (the loan excluded professional fees, so those were out of pocket). We had to get 3 estimates on the value of the finished house and the bank lent to that. The build was assessed by our QS and the bank's QS at intervals and the bank paid the builders directly for that phase of construction. We had an additional side contract with the builders for things we wanted done that were above what the bank was willing to lend, which our project manager and QS oversaw.
It was 4 years from start to finish, partly as planning permission can be a slow process. Ours involved going back several times before everything was signed off. Materials are slow at the moment and one delay can end up in a stack of other delays, and even very full-service contractors are struggling for reliable labour--particularly electricians, plasterers and decorators.
Other things to think about are
-Interest rates - due to the nature of the loan, we couldn't get a fixed rate.
-Insurance (it was very expensive to insure an uninhabitable property during building works and they were very concerned about flood risks during construction).
-Can you really live there during the build? It sounds like it could be challenging.
-How easily and quickly the 'we're in this far, so why not?' bits add up. Both additions to the initial scope and higher end finishes.
-The professional fees were high, but without the QS and project manager keeping things on a tight reign, both the timetable and costs would have spiralled out of control
We stayed in our old house throughout and then sold it and paid off the loan. I'm honestly not sure we could have survived otherwise, not to mention that the rise in interest rates would have been crippling now.
Have I talked you out of it? 😂
The upside is that it was almost as exciting as it was stressful, and we love the house we ended up with. Good luck with your decision!