Teacher humiliating reception child for wetting pants

[TalkingToTheWoodlice]

In front of the whole class. It's always wrong isn't it? However often the child does it and whether or not the teacher thinks it was avoidable. I know the answer really but I need galvanizing to report it.

[Catsdontcare]

Tbh I would be tempted to shame the teacher face to face and loudly at school pick up and then march off to the head.

[GhoulWithADragonTattoo]

Thanks wheresthebeach - I've asked for the posts to be deleted but MNHQ say they are fine

[hoodoo12345]

I would go fucking mental if this happened to one of my kids because you never forget it, the humiliation.
I would be banging on the headmistresses door, demanding further action taken!
Takes me back in time 32 years to myself as a five year old and i can remember VERY clearly.
I hope you are dead Mrs Townsend.

[ScalesAndMirrorsLie]

I would let shit fly if this happened to any of my dc

Not necessary at all

Yes, speak to the head. I would be making a complaint about the teacher and making sure the parent is informed too.

[Fizzylemonade]

It happened to my child in year 1, if they requested to leave a lesson to go to the stinking of piss toilet then their names were written in big writing on a board on the wall to humiliate them into staying in class. I thought it may have been for fire alarm reasons, alas, no

It worked, my son wet himself on several occasions. She was an NQT and I was fuming when I found out. I only found out because my son refused to go to school one day. Luckily we have an amazing head teacher who told my son he could go to the toilet whenever he wanted to.

Please report the teacher.

[colditz]

Actually I was not joking. I really don't think I'd be able to restrain myself from violence if my child was abused in this way.

[TalkingToTheWoodlice]

Spoke to head this morning. He asked me to "leave it with him to think about". I think I'll send an email recapping the conversation so there's something in writing. And then I'll hide from the teacher concerned in the playground.

[HelenMumsnet]

@GhoulWithADragonTattoo

Thanks wheresthebeach - I've asked for the posts to be deleted but MNHQ say they are fine

Actually, we've had a change of heart here. We've deleted those posts: bit too soon after Sandy Hook and all that...

[TheNebulousBoojum]

Apologies, bad taste.

[Pozzled]

OP, well done for talking to the head. Please do follow it up, the teacher needs to know it's not acceptable. My DD1 is in reception, and has had several wetting incidents recently, we think because of UTIs. Luckily her teacher and TAs are very kind and discreet and do the 'quick change and quiet chat with parents' that a poster above described.

I'm not sure what I would do if my DD was treated like the OP describes, but I would certainly lose any respect for that teacher.

[TreadOnTheCracks]

Yes you must report.

You may never find out if anything happens though. I imagine the teacher would be spoken to. Tricky.

[ledkr]

Report her how date she?
My ds poohed in reception and ds 1 happened to go into the loos for a wee and saw the nursery nurse scrubbing his skin with a paper towel and berating him. He was half naked in full view. Ds went mad and cleaned him up himself.
I complained but head wasn't bothered so I took all three if mine out.

[Dozer]

[Wolfiefan]

Children do have accidents. These should be dealt with discreetly and without humiliating them. There are safeguarding issues (eg one adult taking a child off to clean up) but this should not be dealt with publicly.

Vicar. That's awful. Lovely to "see" you about BTW!

[educator123]

This is awful my dd1 was only jsut four when starting in reception and had several accidents, i would have been so sad and angry if this had happened...to the point of considering movings schools.
Thank goodness the teachers were supportive at the time.

Poor child, its so sad that we leave our children at a school trusting them to be looked after and supported and there is a risk of this unreversible damage!

[pluCaChange]

Poor child! My DS's reception block has showers: that's how set up they are for accidents.

Leaving them wet - NOT ok, especially in this weather.
Leaving them crying - even worse.
Berating them - absolutely not.

The fact that it's not your child should make your position easier with the head.

Good luck.

[snowybrrr]

It depends.You were only there as a helper.You don't know the whole story wrt this child.

[cory]

snowybrrr Mon 21-Jan-13 12:45:40
"It depends.You were only there as a helper.You don't know the whole story wrt this child. "

And what could the whole story be? Even if the child does have behavioural issues regarding toilet training, who with any insight into child behaviour would believe that those could be solved by public humiliation?

[wheredidiputit]

I agree with Cory, nothing the child has or has done can condone the teachers actions.

At dc school we have washing machine and tumble dryer so we can clean the children's clothes before they go home.

[elliejjtiny]

That's awful, definately report it. Accidents happen in reception, DS2's teacher comes out with 2-3 carrier bags with wet pants in every day to hand out to the parents.