Teacher humiliating reception child for wetting pants

[TalkingToTheWoodlice]

In front of the whole class. It's always wrong isn't it? However often the child does it and whether or not the teacher thinks it was avoidable. I know the answer really but I need galvanizing to report it.

[3birthdaybunnies]

*resign

[3birthdaybunnies]

Poor child, yes we don't know the whole story which is why we haven't all marched down there demanding the teacher resgin immediately (though we might like to). As a parent helper it is not the OP's place to be disciplining the teacher, but it is her duty to report to the head teacher, they can then discuss with the teacher the 'full situation' and devise an appropriate plan of action. As she has done, well done OP.

[cory]

snowybrrr Mon 21-Jan-13 15:49:48
"You don't know the history of the child.Some kids wet because they can't be bothered to go to the toilet or because they want attention.The teacher may bw working with the parent/HV oe paediatrician and have been told to give no sympathy or positive attention to the child. "

In that case she is hardly following instructions if she is ranting to the child about germs in front of the whole class. The paed will be fuming if he finds out. Is it possible that a teacher could be so stupid as to think this if carrying out instructions about not giving positive attention? I wouldn't like to think it.

[Wheresmycaffeinedrip]

That's true no one does know the history but I think it is possible to not give positive attention without humiliating the child. Surely it would just involve not giving any attention at all. A quick clean up- no talking kind of thing.

[snowybrrr]

You don't know the history of the child.Some kids wet because they can't be bothered to go to the toilet or because they want attention.The teacher may bw working with the parent/HV oe paediatrician and have been told to give no sympathy or positive attention to the child.

[Moominsarehippos]

What a shame! I peed my pants in year 1 all over my chair. It was at the end of the day and I very very carefully put my chair up on my table (as we did at the end of the day). No one ever told me off for it though!

[Wheresmycaffeinedrip]

That's awful :( poor child. Teacher in wrong job if she can't handle the odd accident it happens. Report!!!

[steppemum]

my poor dd1 ws always having accidents in reception. The TA was lovley and looked after her and reminded her about going to the loo etc. I would have been heartbroken to have this humiliation for her. A child who repeatedly wets themselves needs help not telling off

[torychicetc]

Awful really awful could put a young child off enjoying school

[elliejjtiny]

That's awful, definately report it. Accidents happen in reception, DS2's teacher comes out with 2-3 carrier bags with wet pants in every day to hand out to the parents.

[wheredidiputit]

I agree with Cory, nothing the child has or has done can condone the teachers actions.

At dc school we have washing machine and tumble dryer so we can clean the children's clothes before they go home.

[cory]

snowybrrr Mon 21-Jan-13 12:45:40
"It depends.You were only there as a helper.You don't know the whole story wrt this child. "

And what could the whole story be? Even if the child does have behavioural issues regarding toilet training, who with any insight into child behaviour would believe that those could be solved by public humiliation?

[snowybrrr]

It depends.You were only there as a helper.You don't know the whole story wrt this child.

[pluCaChange]

Poor child! My DS's reception block has showers: that's how set up they are for accidents.

Leaving them wet - NOT ok, especially in this weather.
Leaving them crying - even worse.
Berating them - absolutely not.

The fact that it's not your child should make your position easier with the head.

Good luck.

[educator123]

This is awful my dd1 was only jsut four when starting in reception and had several accidents, i would have been so sad and angry if this had happened...to the point of considering movings schools.
Thank goodness the teachers were supportive at the time.

Poor child, its so sad that we leave our children at a school trusting them to be looked after and supported and there is a risk of this unreversible damage!

[Wolfiefan]

Children do have accidents. These should be dealt with discreetly and without humiliating them. There are safeguarding issues (eg one adult taking a child off to clean up) but this should not be dealt with publicly.

Vicar. That's awful. Lovely to "see" you about BTW!

[Dozer]

[ledkr]

Report her how date she?
My ds poohed in reception and ds 1 happened to go into the loos for a wee and saw the nursery nurse scrubbing his skin with a paper towel and berating him. He was half naked in full view. Ds went mad and cleaned him up himself.
I complained but head wasn't bothered so I took all three if mine out.

[TreadOnTheCracks]

Yes you must report.

You may never find out if anything happens though. I imagine the teacher would be spoken to. Tricky.

[Pozzled]

OP, well done for talking to the head. Please do follow it up, the teacher needs to know it's not acceptable. My DD1 is in reception, and has had several wetting incidents recently, we think because of UTIs. Luckily her teacher and TAs are very kind and discreet and do the 'quick change and quiet chat with parents' that a poster above described.

I'm not sure what I would do if my DD was treated like the OP describes, but I would certainly lose any respect for that teacher.