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Tips for parents of this years reception kids

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roseyposeysmum · 10/07/2012 13:11

Just that really - it is a bit of a minefield.

How many items of uniform, packed lunch or school dinners ? Any tips to make it all easier ?

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Tgger · 11/07/2012 20:24

When you hear from another parent (via their child) that your child has been crying at lunchtime during the first week or so, do not stress, it will pass. It did....but I did stress, inwardly at least for a while! Not nice to hear, but one of those things- DS likes a routine and once he was used to it he was fine. Also do not stress if they have the odd accident having not had one for about 2 years! This I believe is quite common and does not mean they are about to regress into nappies, just that they are adjusting to the new routine.

Tgger · 11/07/2012 20:30

Sorry if that came across as a bit negative, just want to add that DS has had a fab Reception year and enjoy all those starting in September! It is a big change for them and you so remember that, and if you start to get more crying than normal during the first term then an earlier bedtime is very helpful! I remember DS going to bed at 6.15 for a couple of weeks at one point, and he is an older one, October birthday!

MrsShortfuse · 11/07/2012 20:42

When buying school shoes ask what's their bestseller then get something different, unless you want them coming home in another child's shoes.

Don't get the soft insulated lunchboxes, they are impossible to clean - get a hard plastic one.

Label clothes with a permanent marker, nametapes will be ripped out by a determined thief.

When things get lost go and look on pegs and in lost property yourself - schools are keen on saying they've searched high and low when they've only had a quick glance.

lilibet · 11/07/2012 21:36

From somene who's youngest is going into Y11 Sad, take photo's all the time, not just of their first day in the morning, but of them at home time looking messy and trying on things, I know it's often said but it really does fly, think how quick it's gone since they were born and that's nothing comparedto the next few years.

And on a practical level, half a smiley face in each of their pump bottoms so that they can match the face and get them on the right feet.

div22c · 11/07/2012 21:55

Aw lilibet, you made me well up...DD (only child) starts reception this year and am already feeling quite sentimental :(

Seriouslylovemylife · 11/07/2012 22:01

Shall i go for school lunch or packed lunch? DS starts Reception in September and I want him to have lunch as everybody else...

Helpful thread and tips btw

amck5700 · 11/07/2012 22:15

I sent them for school lunch for the first week as that is when they will get most help and into the routine of it so that if you decide on packed lunch later they still know how to have a school lunch if you need them to some days. However, neither or my two really ate anything and they didn't like it so never had a school lunch again! My youngest is about to start P7 and the eldest goes to High School this year.

mumnosbest · 11/07/2012 22:20

School dinners are more filling and warm on a cold day. They take no thought or preperation on your part and are more varied no matter how imaginative you are. You dont need to worry about running out of bread or keeping things cold/fresh on hot days. In the first days/ weeks dcs seem to not always like/eat school dinners but soon get used to them and eat things they wouldnt at home. For a lot of children it is a chance to experience eating as a social activity, learn etiquette and manners not always evident in our dining hall. There are special dinners when i think packed lunches miss out a bit (xmas, jubilee).

The only downside i see is the cost.

mumnosbest · 11/07/2012 22:22

Dont know why my strike through didnt work

myBOYSareBONKERS · 11/07/2012 22:29

Reception help list:

The summer before my August born boy went to school we started practising on preparation ? here is my list of helpful hints!

Velcro shoes ? unless they can do laces up with no help and very quickly

Make sure you contact your school to find out how to obtain the uniform. Sometimes it has to be ordered via the school and when they close at the end of July its means you won?t have a uniform for September!!

Find out which days P.E is on and on those days don?t button up the polo shirt ? with a jumper on over the top it won?t be noticed anyway!

If they have to wear proper shirts with lots of buttons that are really too difficult to do up quickly - unpick the buttons. Sew them on the "hole" side where they would end up if they were properly done up. Then get velcro and sew that onto the shirt - so when its put together it looks just like a proper done up shirt.

Or just do that to some of the buttons, so they get to practice them still (or just wear the Velcro shirt on PE days!!)

Personal care ? ensure can wash hands, sort clothing out. My son couldn?t wipe his own bottom and so I ensured he got into a ?routine? of doing one before bed so I knew he wouldn?t run into difficulties at school.

Put half a smiley face in each shoe so that when they are placed together the correct way round they form one big happy face ? helps to get the shoes on the correct feet.

Practice with a lunchbox and different wrappings. I realised that I just hand my son a plate of food (as does nursery) and so he never had to undo anything!. He found a zipped lunch box easier than a velcro one. He found cling film to fidderly and so I get cheap food bags and put his sandwiches in them and wrap them over. He then puts all his left over?s in the bag so the lunch box comes back in a decent state!

Put a slit in the top of packets so they tear open easily or open them and fold them over and seal with a sticker (children can ALWAYS get a sticker off things!).

Fromage frais makes less mess than runny yogurt. Don?t forget to pack a spoon.

Sport top on bottles easier than screw tops or cartons (it all comes home in the lunch box so think of less spillage)

Label everything unless you don?t want it back. I got some really good stickers printed with just our surname on so all the family could use them for different things. They are dishwasher proof too. Marks and Spencers do socks that have the size in them and space to write a name ? great if you have more than one child (but with different sized feet) in the same coloured socks (or is it just me who finds figuring out which socks belong to which family member a challenge!!).

Small icepack for the summer.

Some foods are not allowed in lunches so check with the school.

Before my (very young and clumsy)son had school dinners I brought a tray plate (from boots) that the food gets put directly on as that is what they use in school so he could practice carrying it to the table without dropping it. (was terrified he would drop it at school and everyone would laugh).

If they are a very small or slow eater don?t give them too much otherwise they will spend their whole lunch break eating and not outside playing. Some schools insist they eat everything. Just take a snack for on the way home if they are hungry.

Elasticated skirts and trousers to make it easier to get on/off.

If there is a 'school' coat, and it's not compulsory DON'T BUY ONE. If 30 children all have an identical coat it's a nightmare to sort them out.

Show your child how to hang their coat on a peg, using the loop. Otherwise the coat will live on a muddy cloakroom floor.

Tie something distinctive on your child's bookbag and PE bag, so they can recognise their own among many identical ones - a keyring or something is ideal

Putting his clothes back on when they are inside out and back-to-front (ie as they'll be after he's taken them off after PE). My DS could dress himself so it never occurred to me that his clothes were always presented in a nice "sanitised" manner

Some children found the sheer noise and busy environment very stressful when they first start school and I wasn't prepared for that with my son who found lunchtimes in the hall with a hundred or so other children all chattering, clanking cutlery, scraping chairs and clinking plates really intimidating and scary.

Not much you can do (unless you have a massive home and a hundred children to invite round) but by going to busy places with him beforehand and telling him that school might get noisy sometimes but it's nothing to be worried about he will at least be able to remember your words when faced with increased hustle and bustle.

My son was sometimes a bit nervous about going in and ?being alone? all day without me, so I filled his pocket with ?kisses? and told him to reach in for one if he felt a bit sad. He still asks for them if going somewhere new (eg Beavers for the first time)

Teach your child to stuff their hat/scarf/gloves into the sleeve of their coat when they hang their coat up - stops them from getting lost and reminds dc to put them back on when they go out to play as they automatically find them when they put their coat back on!

A top tip I was given was that school shirts come in packs of three so you buy 2 packs, that gives you 6 shirts, one for every day of the week, plus 1 you put aside for the school christmas show, prize giving or whatever.

If you are a working parent, as soon as you find out your allocated school you MUST sort childcare. Childminders and after school clubs get booked up very quickly. The school office may have a list of childcare establishments.
I sewed back the bottom bit of the material away from the zip on my DS's coat when he started Reception (to make it easier to do up).

If they wear proper shirts (as opposed to polo shirts), don't bother with long sleeved ones - the cuffs will get so grubby you'll only get one day's wear out of them. Short sleeves are better!

School uniform does go missing ? be it misplaced or stolen. If you don?t need to get logo?d uniform then don?t as this is what tends to go easily. Also make your uniform more distinctive so when the children leave school you will be able to spot a piece of your Childs clothing on another child. Eg put a small key ring on the zipper of the school coat/jacket. Will make it easier to pull up as well.

Write in permanent ink inside the collar or sleeve ? any where it can be easily seen and can not be cut out (like labels). Sew a small colour co-ordinated flower/star/circle (whatever is appropriate) on the collar ? again is small but distinctive.
Phase out any after-lunch naps - they don't get this at school and it will be much harder for those who are still used to this.

Buy a nit comb and tie long hair back.
Find out where the lost box is you will be a regular

If any allergies check epi pens write in dates they need to be replaced and have a treat box at school for when children hand out cakes on their birthdays.
Checking the school bag for letters party invites daily and dealing with stuff as soon as possible such as writing the dates down and getting stuff organised for it.
Keep unsuitable xmas and birthday presents for the various donations that the school ask for throughout the year (i.e summer and xmas fetes).

I also think it's good to ask the child themselves if there is anything they are worrying about - with DS he wanted to know the "routine" was so he could mentally tick it off during the day, so I found this out and let him know. He was also worried that no one would play with him so I suggested friend making strategies e.g. saying "My name is X, what's your name, do you want to play with me?"

Hassled · 11/07/2012 22:32

Make sure they can and will wipe their own bottom.
Elasticated waists etc for PE days. Don't make it harder than it needs to be.
Expect them to be overtired and bloody awful for the first term, really. they adjust.
Label everything and despite this stuff will vanish. It's just what happens. So don't ever send them to school in clothes you really care about.
Open the bookbag each and every day.
Bring something carby and/or made of sugar for pick-up. It makes getting them home a lot easier.

Gumps · 11/07/2012 22:36

Don't bother with long sleeved shirts. Most classes are really well heated and they usually leave their jumper on too. Also when they do art/mud/baking fun you don't need to worry about sleeves being rolled up or cuffs ruined.
Have a setroutine to get you out of the house in the morning. I used to stroll up to pre school quite relaxed but felt the pressure of being on time going to school. We have a no tv rule in the mornings which is great as come 4pm when all are knackered i can put it on guilt free.
Teachers quickly become like god and you will get a lot of but Mrs x said so and therefore it is law.
If your child is going to a Catholic school be prepared for your child becoming the holiest thing every and totally obsessed with death, particularly at Easter. This has caused amusement (our front room was renamed the prayer room for a while) and an emotional rollercoater when i tried to discuss how to discuss death with the teacher and then cried...
Also ds has develoved an end of reception swagger. I am hoping this will be beaten out of him in yr 1.

skyebluesapphire · 11/07/2012 22:41

My friend used attachatag to label all the clothes, which was about £25 for the gadget and 50 tags. If you shared the cost of the gadget with a friend and just bought tags it would be cheaper. 50 tags were about £13. She said it was very easy to use and you just add tags to all clothing.

Our reception teacher said practice getting dressed, easy to put on clothes, Velcro shoes. Tie hair back(nits). Early nights, calm things after school.

Seriouslylovemylife · 11/07/2012 22:52

Brilliant list myBOYSareBONKERS. Thanks Thanks

About the proper shirts.... Amazing idea (thank God for polo shirts though)

Hassled · 11/07/2012 22:54

Oh blimey yes - nits.
Your child will get nits. Take it seriously and do the right things, but don't waste time waving your hands in the air because you think this means you're a slattern. You're not.

redwhiteandblueeyedsusan · 11/07/2012 22:54

old fruit shoot sports bottle for lunch box. scerw caps leak when not tightened enough by a four year olds little hands... and they put the drinks cartons back in the lunch box to leak on everything else. packed lunch, you can use ordinary lunch boxes and an icepack. if you put the lunch in the fridge overnight it stays fairly cool anyway.

buy at least 2 lunch boxes. lots of little pots too.

ideas.. strawberries, blueberries, melon, water melon, fresh pineapple, (@79p!) raspberries, raisins, pumpkin seeds, dried apricots, apple, pear, satsuma, grapes, cherry tomatoes, cucumber, large tomatoes, mango hedgehogs, cherries, plums,

sandwich fillings: cheese, ham, tomato, soft cheese, tuna and sweetcorn smart price smoked salmon bits (does several sandwiches over a couple of days) cucumber, pickle (egg allergy so no mayo) all in various combinations

wholemeal bread/pitta bread/rolls (on offer Wink ) seeded bread white/whole meal pasta with various

ds will have spring onions, pieces of raw cauli and carrot added to the list.
(all at different times when they have been on offer at the local greengrocers)

5 sets of uniforrn, plus a spare shirt kept for photos concerts. buy in july it will all be gone by august. label with biro. if they say logo'd polos, check as often plain from the supermarket are ok. if you have a girl first, you can buy the non frrilly polos to pass on to a boy. dd has worn hers for 2 years and most are suitable for passing on. get a cheap coat from tesco/asda. they get muddy and the cheap ones dry over night on the airer, even in winter.

can they wipe their own bum, wash hands, blow nose?

do they know not to play with their willy in school, nor pick their nose?

can they put on their shoes on the right feet by matching 2 halves of a picture inside?

you will know what day they have pe when they start getting changed for this sometime in january by the insideout back to front t shirt, dress and jumper and shoes on the wrong feet.

smile and wave when you say goodbye. if you need to cry do it round the corner. the school will ring if your child is distressed, or hoik an older sibling out of class to come and play with him/her. children usually settle down after 5 minutes anyway.

DewDr0p · 11/07/2012 22:55

Ds3 is just finishing reception, his big brothers Yr1 and Yr3.

My top tips would be -

  • Go school dinners if finances and small person fussiness allow
  • Befriend parent of a child in Yr1 or above to explain all the stuff you don't understand
  • Make sure they can dress themselves and wipe their own bum!
  • Don't be scared to talk to the teacher if you have concerns
  • Get 3 of everything for uniform to start with - you can always buy more in the autumn if that's not enough but I think you are unlikely to need less (but don't be afraid to do a bit of judicious sponging with a baby wipe either!)
  • "I played on my own" nearly always means "there was a brief moment where I was on my own" - our school absolutely does not leave children standing on their own
  • You might be lucky and they will breeze through but tiredness is common, esp after a couple of weeks - it is more full on than nursery too

And remember the staff have done all of this before and know what they are doing even if you don't! Before you know it you and your child will be old hands too. Enjoy!

Halbanoo · 11/07/2012 23:03

Does anyone know of any fully elasticated boys school trousers??? Bought some from M&S (half-elastic waist) and DS is having a hell of a time pulling them up without a whole lot of grunting and whinging effort.

Stupid me just decided "They fit!" because I was putting the blardy things on him in the changing room without letting him have a go. If I send him to school in these, he'll either have tantrums every day in the toilet or walk around with his pants on display and his trousers sagging down his bum.

He spends a lot of time in jogging trousers at nursery, which has been a tremendous help with his massive-delayed toilet training successes....but I fear I've set him up for disaster with his school uniform requirements.

ilovedarthmaul · 11/07/2012 23:12

Loving all the tips - My August born DS is starting Reception in September. It has felt like ages away but he finishes Nursery next week so im starting to worry!!!

Thanks to the tips im going to work on him wiping his bum (he currently puts his hands on the floor & bum in the air whilst shouting "Mam - will you do my bum!") and zipping up his own coat.

mumblecrumble · 11/07/2012 23:41

Stuff that has worked for us this year (DD was the youngest in her school. had parents evening this year and her first year at school has been lovely)

  • Got adjustable skirts in a big size so they actually cover her bum..... they all seeem to be really short. Also, I can now adjust them and use next year :)
  • Buy uniform that is the easiest to get on. I really liked those little dersses but they failed the 'can EMily get them on' test.
  • I very rarely bring DD's book bag in the house. We drive to pick her up most days (I pick up either on way home from work or from pciking up DH) and we do reading in the car. I know it seems daft but once she is in the house she suddenly becomes starving, thirsty, tired and desperate to run about out side. So we have a special cushion and blanket in the car so she can sit in the middle snuggled up while we do erading and any homework in the car. She is also much more likely to chat about her day. i go through her book bag and only take inot the house what needs to be in the house.
  • Ask if school will let them wear trainers and if they do, wear them - much easier to buy and keep clean
  • We did school dinners at first as I was working and felt packed lunch might be a faff. But packed lunch is not a faff! We have 5 things in lunch box: Mummy or Daddy make a quick sandwich and drink in refillable bottle. Then DD chooses 1 fruit from fruit bowl, 1 treat from her treats box (crisps/flapjack/cheesy scone or something) and 1 squeezy yogurt or cheese snack thing from freezer. She chooses these each day for variety and so she's not under my feet while making sandwich.
  • Vosene nit shampoo and a box of full makrs head lice stuff has been useful. As has tying hair back everyday
  • Chat wuth Mums of older kids - they have VALUABLE knowledge!
  • get invovled with what you can - but feel comfortabel saying no if you are asked to do stuff you don;t have time for.
  • Make best best friends with office staff
  • Assk about a free breakfast club - they have been a life saver..... even on some mornings when DD wakes at 6 and by 8 I am going mad.....

Make sure kids can:

  • get dressed and un dressed them selves
  • toilet stuff. Checking toilet roll that all poo is gone....
  • taking turns
  • eating meal
  • looking after their bag

But really the teahcers will be prepared to help with all that, at east at first, anyway.

Enjoy it - it has been a lovely year. This time last year our 3 year old couldn;t read, write and new numbers up to 7. Now she can read, write allsorts, count to 100, do adding, takaway, tells us all;s sorts of stuff and has seen a little of the world through her lovely teachers eyes.

Enjoy :)

HalfSpamHalfBrisket · 12/07/2012 00:35

As a reception teacher HURRAH for all you lovely parents saying label everything - you would not believe the hassle this avoids.
Label socks, label vests and t-shirts, label pants and knickers (yes really).
Shoes too - there are only a certain amount of styles of boys black school shoes available .

Also, tubes of yoghurt are the work of satan. Please don't send them in!

And don't worry - we will do our absolute best to look after your precious little 'uns; I adore my job and no early years teacher* is going to want to see a distressed child when then can possibly avoid it.
*that I've ever met.

NoComet · 12/07/2012 01:29

Don't believe anyone who says your never goes to bed before 8pm child will be tired, she won't be!

But she will be starving.

Willsmum79 · 12/07/2012 06:42

I haven't read the entire thread so apologies if it has been mentioned. My time is limited as my 6 month old will be waking anytime now!

As a teacher I would say this:

  1. Ensure they are toilet trained (sorry - but getting more and more kids who are not!)
  2. They can wipe themselves.
  3. Know how to flush a toilet and wash their hands.
  4. Can dress and undress themselves for PE - don't worry about sweaty socks and tights and shoes. We still do help them! And also we would NEVER not help a child who cannot, but it makes it easier for us teachers to then get on with the next lesson rather than spend 45 minutes helping 30 x 4 year old getting ready!
  5. They can put their own coat on and fasten it.
  6. They can open and close their own drink bottle and lunchbox.

Don't panic if during the first term they are teary, angry, tired, stroppy and HATE school. Give them at least the first half term to settle in.

If they cry when you drop them off, a confident kiss goodbye and see you later with a wave as you walk away is best. If they see you are happy to leave them, they will settle quickly. But PLEASE don't walk away from a clingy child until they are held 'firmly' but gently by a staff member otherwise they'll end up running after you and clutching your leg! In my experience EVERY child has stopped crying by the time they sit on the classroom carpet. Oh, just read that back - makes it sound like EVERY child cries. Meant to say, those who do!

Do not be surprised if the teacher says your LO fell asleep. Especially if they are used to being at home or half days at nursery. At our school at least, as long as they are in a safe place we leave them to sleep where they drop!

Also go to every school meeting that you can. Especially if the school holds phonic sessions for parents. Every teacher's nightmare when children come back to school and put the sound /u/ on the end of every sound as in /cu/! It holds them back with reading, spelling and writing.

Willsmum79 · 12/07/2012 06:43

Oh God yes - LABELS! LABELS! LABELS!

Some parents blame us teachers for lost clothing. We ask if it has their name inside and get the answer no - but still expected to know which jumper belongs to their child!!

cinnamongiraffe · 12/07/2012 07:46

Loads of good tips, the attatchatag mentioned sounds good, I usually use a marker pen but this washes off after a time.

I bought x5 of everything so that if it all went wrong through the week I could just wash it all at the weekend (I had a baby and a toddler when DC1 started).

I also found buying a random selections of styles worked well as DD still get a bit of choice over what she is wearing.

The blouses I bought were were a pain as they took too long for her to do up, polo shirts were best, same for zip up pinafore dresses rather than ones with a button.

Not sure if I will buy clarkes shoes again, they didn't wear well and a lot of people had to replace half way through the year even if the shoes were still the correct size.

Chat to a selection of parents at pick up/drop off, don't stand with the same people every day and definitely talk to the parents of older children (or just walk up and ask them something if you really need to know...).

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