He drifts along, does no homework/practice for any of the clubs he begged to sign up for/prep for tests. He's a perfectly pleasant child but just wants to spend all day watching YouTube videos about video games. That's all he talks about, that's all he wants to do. We had been coaxing/supporting/encouraging/shouting/making him do homework and practice etc and as a result, school thinks he's great. But we're exhausted from the constant lack of effort, zero appreciation for anything and total fixation on bloody gaming.
He also keeps losing things - since Xmas, he's lost trainers, a scarf, a Nike tracksuit top, headphones x 2, a bag etc. Makes zero effort to recover them and doesn't seem overly bothered, even when we don't replace them.
At wits' end - we have tried being supportive and encouraging and helping him to put a homework schedule in place or systems to remember his things etc. We have tried shouting and threatening to remove things, he now only has screens at weekends once his homework is done (he just drags the homework out, whinges and complains and sits there staring into space so what should take 1 hour takes all weekend), we've even, in a moment of disbelief and anger at him once again saying he's done no homework all week, told him we will move him to a different school next term if he doesn't grow up a bit. Nothing gets through.
Any suggestions - how can we help him to be accountable/more responsible/grow up a bit?! Keep thinking it's an immaturity issue but he's always been like this to a degree and we're starting to wonder if this is his actual personality/approach to life, how can we help him understand this is not the way to behave?!