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10 year old with a very small penis

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SquarePeggyLeggy · 22/10/2020 05:12

My son is 10, he’s very tall and wears adult size shoes, he’s 41kgs. So overall growth, he’s on the large side. Athletic build. Clearly has testosterone happening, have had to buy deodorant, voice occasionally cracks, etc.
He has showered on his own for the past two years, so I don’t usually see him fully naked. He has a towel on. We aren’t a prudish family, we are naked in front of each other but it’s just circumstantial.
His penis is very small. I think it’s the same size as when he was little when it was normal baby sized. It hasn’t grown in proportion to the rest of him.
Is this normal?! My husband thinks yes and said that puberty brings a huge change. He has no worries about it, and the last thing I want to do is embarrass him or give him a complex. It’s not a topic you can google.
What should I do if anything and can anyone of older boys feedback? Thank you.

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SquarePeggyLeggy · 22/10/2020 05:15

That wasn’t well expressed. I saw him naked for the first time in a long while and I feel it was noticeably small and not in proportion to the rest of him.

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TheAirbender · 22/10/2020 05:51

My 10 yr old is exactly the same. Tall, big build etc. Interested to see what advice you get here.

grumpypug · 22/10/2020 05:58

I'm a parent to 2 teenage boys. Their bodies change very quickly as they get older. I could have written you post for my 13 year old last year but there's really no need to worry just yet. His body has caught up now and is in proportion.

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SquarePeggyLeggy · 22/10/2020 07:23

That’s good to hear! It’s just hard to imagine such a change suddenly happening. I guess that’s what boobs are like though.

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HopeMumsnet · 22/10/2020 18:43

Hi all,
This is just to say that while we do understand that quite a few of you are dubious, we're inclined to give the benefit of the doubt.

We're very grateful for your reports, and for not having troll-hunted on the thread.

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Leimarel · 22/10/2020 18:54

Why are my 10 year old daughter's breasts so small?
That would raise eyebrows wherever it was voiced.

This thread is uncomfortable reading - I know you are coming from a place of concern, but discussing your son's genitals and progress through puberty will be a magnet for less desirable people. If you are genuinely worried he may have some kind of abnormality, then speak to the practice nurse or GP.

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SquarePeggyLeggy · 22/10/2020 23:44

Oh god! It was a genuine question. This is the problem- and the reason it’s not something to google! Or discuss in real life. I apologise, but this is the whole problem!
I do not want to take him to the GP UNLESS there is something to be concerned about. He is old enough to remember and understand and be incredibly embarrassed. And if it’s normal I would have done that for no reason.
What i was hoping for was other Mums of older boys to either say: my son was the same, but after puberty was fine OR that’s not normal, take him to the dr, in which case I would then of course do so.

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SquarePeggyLeggy · 22/10/2020 23:46

I do see the issue but that’s why I posted on an anonymous forum for parents.

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ArnoldBee · 23/10/2020 00:34

Like all things they are different shapes and sizes and in teens sprout at different times. The issue is making sure your son doesn't have an issue about and can talk to someone about his changing body.

OldLeatherSuitcase · 23/10/2020 01:36

I had the same concerns with my teen DS, but that was years ago and I'd forgotten all about it until this thread. I've not seen him fully naked as he's got older so no idea if he's more in proportion now or not. But I doubt there's much that can be done medically even if it was too small? Best not to worry about it.

DC3Dakota · 23/10/2020 01:48

Whatever you do OP, don't mention anything about it to him!

AmICrazyorWhat2 · 23/10/2020 01:57

My DS’s ( 12) body has changed a lot over the past year, including in that area. I wouldn’t worry about it.

Time40 · 23/10/2020 02:00

This thread is uncomfortable reading - I know you are coming from a place of concern, but discussing your son's genitals and progress through puberty will be a magnet for less desirable people

The OP sounds genuine to me, and her reasons for posting on a forum for parents are entirely legitimate and sensible. Have you people who post comments like the one above ever considered how horribly upsetting it could be to someone genuine to have her motives questioned? Wouldn't it be better to just report any concerns you have to the mods, rather than risking upsetting a genuine poster?

TeenMummy · 23/10/2020 04:49

Have you through about taking him to the GP and telling him it's a routine check up to ensure everything is growing as it should. Like a yearly physical exam or at at age of 10-11 like I have had with my two. Then maybe he doesn't need to know your worry

FixItUpChappie · 23/10/2020 05:32

I've wondered this regarding my own 10yr old....Doesn't seem like such a crazy question on a forum for mums? Confused

Aridane · 23/10/2020 05:55

Not a crazy question at all. Why wouldn’t you post of your child’s physical development isn’t as you would expect? and post on a parenting board to see what’s ‘normal’?

TobblyBobbly · 23/10/2020 06:08

This is normal OP (I have a teen DS and a pre teen DS).

SelkieQualia · 23/10/2020 06:14

It's a perfectly legitimate medical question - I imagine the OP is concerned about potential endocrine issues. Fwiw, OP, the adolescent penile growth spurt starts at an average age of 12.5 years.

stillfeelingmad · 23/10/2020 06:40

Some people are single mums as well so maybe don't have all the answers to the questions their sons have!

Before children I was asked to watch a friends toddler (boy) as an emergency when a family member went in to hospital.
I had spent lots of time with them but this was my first time alone.
He needed the bathroom while I was there and I suddenly panicked. I didn't know what they did at that age Smile did I follow him in? Did I help him hold? Did I help him wipe? DO BOYS EVEN WIPE IT?

I was only about 21/22 and it was all stuff I couldn't google "shall I follow a young child into the toilet and touch him" is a search that gets you in trouble fast.

Sometimes people need to ask genuine questions like this!

Sorry I can't help op my own son is still pre puberty so not got to this yet!

haba · 23/10/2020 06:48

10 seems young for puberty for a boy to me? Has his leg hair changed to more coarse? The problem is that the process is spread over so many years, and little changes happen all the time.
E.g. DD needed deodorant in Y4...but didn't start periods until Y9.

CatbearAmo · 23/10/2020 06:58

So based on what other posters have said this is probably something quite normal.
BUT the op shouldn't feel uncomfortable about asking a question or caring about her son's health.
I say this because my dh had a problem with his penis but because his parents were too embarrassed/prude/reserved it never got fixed until he was 18.
It was an incredibly painful procedure as an adult and it also meant he couldn't really masturbate and definitely couldn't have sex until it was fixed.
I don't think that anything like that is wrong with your son but I do think as a mother it's okay to be concerned about the health of your child's genitals to the same extent you would about any other part of the body. And asking other parents questions is okay.
Side note: I've met men with micro penises so they do exist but they still find a way to get the job done

DC3Dakota · 23/10/2020 13:07

@TeenMummy

Have you through about taking him to the GP and telling him it's a routine check up to ensure everything is growing as it should. Like a yearly physical exam or at at age of 10-11 like I have had with my two. Then maybe he doesn't need to know your worry
Pretty sure they don't have them take their underpants off for one of those checks Hmm