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Preteens

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£120 each month for DD2

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biankia · 19/09/2018 16:49

Hello, I'm wondering if the amount of pocket money that i'm currently giving my daughter is too much? She's really sensible, and only really spends it on books.

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MintySweets · 21/09/2018 22:18

What does she pay for with it?

Tentomidnight · 25/09/2018 12:35

My 13 yr old gets £20 per month.

JiltedJohnsJulie · 25/09/2018 16:05

I don’t think the OP is coming back.

MissWimpyDimple · 07/10/2018 08:36

It depends what she pays for i guess.

My about to be 12 yo gets £3 a week but only after she has hoovered and dusted the whole house.

BUT, she gets a phone contract for £9 per month, a music subscription for £8 per month AND I buy her clothes/toiletries etc. I would probably pay if she needed to take the bus somewhere or go to the cinema. But within reason...

I suppose if she is paying for all of the above from the £120 then that's ok, if it's just her money to spend then it's FAR too much

MarshaBradyo · 07/10/2018 08:37

That is loads

Can you list what she spends it on?

Talonofthefox · 07/10/2018 08:39

Perfect amount. It’s really not very much broke down weekly.

Ignore the people saying their teenagers get about £5 a week 🙄 what use is that to anyone?

OhFlipMama · 07/10/2018 08:40

I remember when I was young, a few friends used to be given the entire child benefit (although it wasn't called that then). They were deemed sensible enough to buy their own clothes, shoes and other items. My own mother was shocked.

Weenurse · 07/10/2018 08:46

Mine got $50 Aus a week once they started high school.
Other parents were gobbsmacked but they paid for phones, outings etc.
My girls had to pay for phones, school lunches, hair and makeup, transport, clothes, outings, presents etc.
We paid music lessons and sporting costs.
They have learned to budget very well as a result.
Both now have savings, have bought their own cars and have been on overseas holidays.

Weenurse · 07/10/2018 08:47

They also had chores to do to get the money

MaryBoBary · 07/10/2018 08:49

Is this just a massive boast? You’re an adult, surely you know what’s appropriate and what you can afford?

IMO it is far too much money for a child of any age living at home and will make life harder for her when she moves out and suddenly doesn’t have all this extra money to spend on herself. What on earth does a 12 year old need to spend almost 1.5k on per year? It’s quite a gross waste of money to me. But if you can afford it then I don’t know why you’re asking.

buscaution · 07/10/2018 08:50

My 12 year old gets £20 a MONTH. It's plenty. Parents should be meeting all their needs at that age anyway, how much could they possibly need to spend on sweets, pop and crisps?

It depends on the 12yo I should think. By 12 mine was going into town/cinema/out for tea with friends. So much more than sweets, pop and crisps. She outgrew that stage long before 12.

I gave her 20 a week. It wasn't much, after paying for the bus to the town and buying lunch it left her under £10 to spend in primark! She is a great saver now, still goes out and does all those things, but she earns her own money now and has learned how to stretch it out well.

DrMadelineMaxwell · 07/10/2018 08:51

Ignore the people who say their teens get £5 A week? Why? Mine gets £20 A month in to her bank account and she's 14. Phone is £5 on top which I pay. It's her fun money so no clothes or toiletries are bought from it.

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 07/10/2018 08:54

Like everyone keeps saying, it al depends on what she buys with it. If it includes phone and (non school) clothes, and she can’t come to you for more because she has spent it all and still wants to go to the cinema then it’s fine I think.

I don’t know why people are saying it will set her up for disappointment later on. Surely she’ll know more about the value of money that way than if her mum buys all her clothes etc and she gets used to having nice new things without any idea what they actually add up to each month?

But if it’s £120 for fun money and you still pay for clothes, phone, bus, cinema etc then it’s a huge amount and would be better being put into savings for her for driving lessons or whatever when she’s bigger.

albert92 · 07/10/2018 08:57

@biankia I wouldn't give her that much, I used to get £10 a week the max my friends got was £20, I would put £10 a week in a ISA for her when's she 18/21 what teen needs £30 a week x

MumUnderTheMoon · 14/10/2018 02:27

My dd gets the same and is 11. However she saves 20 a week for anything "big" she wants usually Lego but recently a tv and saves spending money for holidays. She uses the rest for magazines or mini figures and other wee bits. It actually works out cheaper then when I was doing these things.

VimFuego101 · 14/10/2018 02:31

For that I would expect her to cover a bill - school lunches or clothes, say - rather than just having 120 pounds to spend on herself.

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