Does your nearly 11 year old go to sleep later than you?

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I'm finding it so frustrating that my son is still bashing about at 11pm and beyond! I could scream. I go to bed about now and he's awake. He thinks it's normal but I beg to differ. My dd wasn't like this at his age unless she had a friend staying over. I'm actually getting so frustrated. He was asking for food at 11pm ffs!!!!! He should be fucking well asleep!

You can't make anyone go to sleep if they don't want to, but you can stop him getting distracted. All screens out of room from a certain time, and he can't get up for food or a drink. Give him a glass of water and he can stay in his room and read.

We carve out nights where there's no curfew as a foil for those that do. On these nights, my 11 year old can easily stay up until midnight - so yes, I do go to bed before him!

I don't really see a good reason to not be more lenient about bedtime during the summer. This week he's in rugby camp so it's a 9.30 pm bedtime but last week it was midnight several nights running.

My DS is now 13 and has always been a terrible sleeper. He would be playing Lego or making up stories. I am always asleep before him now but he is fine and never tired - I was just like this until recently - now 48

DD is 15y and is still in bed before us most nights, and at the latest the same time as us. n school or work days probably around 10-10:30 latest.

No TV/tablet/phone allowed in bed. No Tv in room. Tablet and phone are on charge, but not next to bed.

If she's not feeling as tired she will read (Kindle but not tablet version) with a night light type light on. When we go up, if she is still awake, we remind her to settle down to sleep, esp if a school day.

Even if she has a sleepover by the time I go to bed she is expected to be IN bed, quiet and proper lights out.

Although she is naturally more of a night owl, she does need to get up at a sensible time most days - on school days, by 6:45am and even in holidays I'd prefer her not to be in bed all day.

Oh - and no food in bed at night either. Water to drink, but nothing else. But thats just common sense I think.

Oh - and no food in bed at night either.

I would have thought this goes without saying?