Is it strange that Y7 DD's classmates are setting up a "sorority"

[moonball99]

DD is in Y7 in a single sex school. Two of her classmates have sent the whole class an email (on the school email system) to tell them they are starting a "sorority" and that anyone who wants to join will need to go through "an initiation". Most? all? of the class including DD have signed up, although DD reluctantly as she's not really a social type and none of them know what the club will be doing, but DD felt she had to because her social standing is pretty shaky as it is. The "founders" have now sent round an email stating that the "initiation" will be (a) writing and performing a song about the sorority, or (b) an "artistic response" to the animal totem, or some kind of a fashion collage. These are to be brought into school to be "judged" by the two founders. The two founders are obviously taking this quite seriously.

Is it just me that finds this extremely weird? To me it seems that these two girls are just exploiting the insecurity of the masses (including DD's) to put themselves in a position of power, probably making at least some of them (likely DD) feel miserable and excluded along the way. Or is this the kind of thing that happens regularly in sec schools these days and I should relax?

Obviously my concern is that DD will try hard and perform a song and they will reject her because they never liked her anyway, and she'll be the only one in the class who isn't in it and she'd feel wretched. But it could happen to anyone and I don't want DD to be part of anything like that.

Anastasia - agree that could be ugly. DD told me not to contact the school in case the other girls found out that it was her parents who told them. When I wrote to the teachers, I explicitly asked them to keep my identity confidential and I think they totally got that, they must be so used to these situations. DD reported that the teachers have now pulled the two founders aside and told them to stop, and gave the impression that they discovered it through routine checking of the school email system. So I think it's really OK now. Thanks!

Nope I had you completely right

These groups that exclude groups of people are rightly not encouraged in uk schools they are not in any way cute which is what you said it's also not a laughing matter which is also how you started the thread!

The answer to exclusion is not to start another group that excludes others.

I meant to actually say you said after all there's loads of sororities in college not in the uk there's not. We don't have sororities and frat houses. We have the Student union which every one is entitled and encouraged to Join and they run leisure groups and clubs but it's not done on this intition/audition process.

I agree that my worry was that the girls might find out it was the op who reported it and take it out on her daughter which is why I said I'm glad her DD is relieved. But I also knew the school had to treat the report confidiality so it was very unlikely they would