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Spoo · 27/08/2008 20:02

My DS1 is 3 1/2 and obviously left handed. Neither my DH or I are. DS is generally quite clumsy and not very confident when drawing or writing and often asks me to colour in for him. He still holds his pencil in a grip like fashion and is starting to develop a hook like hold over the top of the page. According to a self help 'my child is left handed' book, I am trying to gently encourage him to hold his pencil in a normal way with his left hand but he complains that it hurts. Should I continue with this? He also struggles with all small actions that require micro dexterity.

Has anyone else got any words of advice on how I can make his life easier please? Should I leave him to it? Should I keep trying to encourage him to hold his pencil correctly. Any success stories would be greatly appreciated.

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Threadwworm · 28/08/2008 12:29

Lh people constantly have to use equipment deigned for rh-ers, and I like to think that the unconscious challenge of this provides a bit of extra brain stimulation.

Aniyan · 28/08/2008 12:30

me too jura - I'm left-handed but write 'normally' and just turn the paper sideways.

Had to learn the hard way how to write without smearing ink all over the page/my hand! No-one else in my family is left-handed but I seemed to cope okay.

ib · 28/08/2008 12:33

I'm left handed. Was made to hold the pen 'properly' and so now can only write when the page is at 90 degrees from straight (I write vertically upwards).

Was a nightmare at school because I could not write on the board and suspicious teachers always thought I was positioning my page to make it easier for my friends to copy my work during exams!

jura · 28/08/2008 12:37

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LittleMyDancing · 28/08/2008 12:41

I'm a leftie and do the hook grip too - have appalling handwriting but it used to be much better before I started typing everything!

Find RH scissors much easier, don't have any problems with general dexterity, but have always smudged writing when using ink. Not sure a 'normal' grip would help though, as it's more about the direction of travel of the hand, imo.

Lefties are very very good people

IndigoMoon · 28/08/2008 12:49

i am left handed and turn my paper. people have told me how nice my writing is as well. i know other lefties that hook so i think its up to him really.

i have never had a left handed gadget in my life but would have loved a left handed ruler at school.

fishie · 28/08/2008 12:58

i am leftie too and use rh stuff (inc scissors) no problem. but one that people often miss is computer mouse, it is really really hard to use it right handed as it requires quite fine movements. several lh adults i know who use rh mouse are as a consequence pretty shit at computing.

Spoo · 29/08/2008 18:32

Really interesting read. THank you everyone for the advice especially the adult lefties. We did some cutting and sticking today with another child same age. He used his leftie scissors really well but again struggled with 'writing' resorting to scribbling and using a grip rather than a hold. He lasted 5 minutes before he was bored. He seems to have no patience to sit and draw. I know he is a 3 1/2 year old boy so running and jumping is his thing but his little friend was really happy to sit there for quite a long time and she did a beautiful drawing of a princess stuck with feathers and then wrote her name. I don't like comparing but does this lack of patience relate to him getting frustrated being not able to hold his pen with control or is it just a boy thing?

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Spoo · 29/08/2008 18:32

P.s. how do you write verticall upwards when you are left handed - I thought it would be downwards??

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Idobelieveinfairies · 29/08/2008 18:40

My son is ambedextrous...or however you spell it....he only writes with his left hand, everything else he does with his right...eating, playing golf, tennis...when i watch him write i want to keep shaking my hand as they way he holds his pens makes my hand hurt......but thats my problem.

My geography teacher was a lefty..she had the most stunning writing.....she was called Miss Hook.

tamarto · 29/08/2008 18:40

Sounds like a boy thing, my ds2 is a leftie and i've just left him to it, at the advice of his teacher. He really dislikes left handed scissors and actually is worse using them than right handed ones.

He's the only member of either side of the family who is left handed, so it took us by surprise.

mrz · 29/08/2008 18:45

At 31/2 it probably does hurt because he hasn't got the muscle development to support writing. I would forget about pencils/colouring in and do fun activities to help him build up wrist finger and shoulder girdle strength. Apart from left handed scissors I would steer clear of other gadgets.

tilt paper remember letters are formed in almost the same way right o left handed it is only the horizontal strokes that need to be made right to left rather than left to right.

Idobelieveinfairies · 29/08/2008 18:46

oh..i forgot to add we have never had to buy anything special for him to use-well actually that is a fib...we bought him left handed golf clubs but he couldn't use them- so we had to buy right ones.

ib · 29/08/2008 19:52

I'm now sitting here trying to figure out how you would write vertically downwards and not getting it

ib · 29/08/2008 19:55

I used to have every gadget under the sun, including lh scissors which I used with my right hand!

IndigoMoon · 29/08/2008 20:00

i dont turn the paper totally more at a slant.

Spoo · 29/08/2008 20:00

ib - do you mean upwards or downwards. I understand downwards but not upwards??

Mrz - you sound like you know what your talking about - what activities do you suggest to build the strength up in his wrist and girdle (?!).

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mrz · 30/08/2008 10:14

For shoulder girdle strength playing on monkey bars, swinging on a rope, climbing ladders or scramble net (park type activities) wheelbarrow races, crab walking and wall push-ups.

all fun things he won't mind doing I imagine. Using an upright surface rather than a table is better initially so a blackboard or paint easel or even paper blue tacked to a wall or door (indoors or out)

Rolling play dough into tiny balls (peas) using only the finger tips.

Scrunching up 1 sheet of newspaper in one hand. This is a super strength builder.

Using a plant sprayer to spray plants, (indoors, outdoors) to spray snow (mix food colouring with water so that the snow can be painted), or melt "monsters". (Draw monster pictures with markers and the colours will run when sprayed.)

Picking up objects using large tweezers such as those found in the "Bedbugs" game. This can be adapted by picking up Cheerios, small cubes, small marshmallows, pennies, etc., in counting games.

Lacing and sewing activities such as stringing beads, Cheerios, macaroni, etc.

Using eye droppers to "pick up" coloured water for colour mixing or to make artistic designs on paper.

Rolling small balls out of tissue paper, then gluing the balls onto construction paper to form pictures or designs.

Turning over cards, coins, checkers, or buttons, without bringing them to the edge of the table.

Making pictures using stickers or self-sticking paper reinforcements.

Playing games with the "puppet fingers" -the thumb, index, and middle fingers. At circle time have each child's puppet fingers tell about what happened over the weekend, or use them in songs and finger plays.

Using a screwdriver

Locking and unlocking a door

Winding a clock

Opening and closing jars

Rolling out dough or other simple cooking activities

Making fringe on the edge of a piece of construction paper.

Cutting play dough or clay with scissors.

Cutting straws or shredded paper.

Clapping games (loud/quiet, on knees together, etc.)

Catching (clapping) bubbles between hands

Pulling off pieces of silly-putty with individual fingers and thumb

Drawing in a tactile medium such as wet sand, salt, rice, or "goop".
Make "goop" by adding water to cornstarch until you have a mixture similar in consistency to toothpaste. The "drag" of this mixture provides feedback to the muscle and joint receptors, thus facilitating visual motor control.

Picking out small objects like pegs, beads, coins, etc., from a tray of salt, sand, rice, or putty. Try it with eyes closed too. This helps develop sensory awareness in the hands.

Spoo · 30/08/2008 18:35

Thank you so much for all the advice. DS obviously loves alot of these activities. He mmoved along the monkey bars for the first time today. I am gonna keep trying with the grip and see how I get on. A litte bit of practice each day. Thanks to everyone for advice and links.
Spoo
xx

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ib · 30/08/2008 19:40

I mean upwards. As in if I write on a board start at the bottom and end at the top. If you were standing to my right it would look straight to you.

Still not getting the downwards though. Is your hand underneath what you are writing?

ib · 30/08/2008 19:47

I'm feeling like a bit of a weirdo now....

My mum is also lh and she writes with the page straight and her hand underneath what she writes, so come to think of it it would be downwards if she had the page at an angle...

Two of my sisters, one lh one rh, write with a hook.

We were all tortured about our handwriting in school, fortunately my mum having been through it stood by us and told the teachers to let us find our own way. We all did, and have perfectly reasonable handwriting.

dilemma456 · 30/08/2008 22:35

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piratecat · 30/08/2008 22:38

i'm a leftie so is dd, i am proud!!!

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