do you notice peer pressure in nursery re. clothes?

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I'm not sure if I'm imagining it!

Do you think nursery kids feel pressure to have the same/ equally good accessories and clothes as their peers?

The girls in my DD's nursery seem to have so many accessories and new clothes and I noticed my DD shows her friends whatever she's wearing as soon as she arrives. Seems so young

My ds and his cousin will usually show each other their clothes or comment on new socks or pants. If they particularly like something they will ask to have the same. I've never heard any negative comments though that sort of thing needs to be nipped in the bud.

I think I agree with the previous post which suggested I might be projecting my own insecurity onto DD re clothes so I'm consciously not doing that now.

Everyone here has said any comments kids this age make about clothes are positive, which I think is probably true of my DD and her little pals.

I'm not sure how to describe DD's confidence. She's really chatty and friendly and used to talk non-stop to everyone but for the last term of nursery she's developed a really bad stammer and she's a bit quieter, and it seems to take her a lot of effort to chip into a conversation (though she still wants to chip in). She used to love nursery and playing with other kids and now she doesn't want to go. She just wants to play in her bedroom.

If she gives an opinion on something and if you respond with surprise she immediately changes her mind. Like she wants to say what she thinks you want to hear.

It is so sad to hear of a very young child suffering from low self-esteem. It does sound like something isn't quite right at nursery, as if the social dynamic is a bit skewed and maybe the staff haven't picked up on it?

There is lots of information on things you can do to boost your child's self esteem and reslience.
www.familylives.org.uk/advice/primary/health-and-development/helping-your-child-build-self-esteem/

I remember other children pointing out that I was wearing a different colour item of clothing when I was at preschool in the 1970s so I couldn't play with them. It wasn't a particularly good preschool. Did not notice anything like this in the preschools my dc went to.

There was one playgroup we went to where one child often turned up in designer clothes which looked too nice to do anything messy in but her mum did not seem to mind when she got involved.

Thank you for the link, PerspicaciaTick. It's very helpful

Yes I agree with the other posts, it's more a favourite clothes/characters/colours thing. It's common with the boys where I work too, especially if they have superhero tops on, and the girls have a thing about hair clips and handbags. I don't think it's a bad thing, they're just proud of their things and excited if they get new ones.

DS compares injuries and bits of leaves/sticks/spiders he found on the way in.

Sometimes he'll be in a dress which occasions the odd comment but only in an offhand way.

Bit different as they're still in nursery at 5 where I live but apparently now there's peer pressure for the 5 year old girls to wear bras! My DD comes home saying this girl and that girl were wearing bras and begging to get one for herself. FIVE YEARS OLD!!!

Thankfully our preschool has a uniform so none of this nonsense yet - bit competitive on dressing up days but that's about it

Never experienced this and still don't now and dd is 7. I love the fact that she wears what she likes and doesn't care what others think - but she isn't a stereotypical "girly" girl so maybe that helps. You need to help her with low self esteem.

It's all about Spider-Man in my dd's agegroup. Girls and boys. Dd shuns more expensive clothes in favour of primark and supermarket Spider-Man tops and jeans.

I've had to donate designer outfits unworn before. Pretty dresses and hairstyles are deeply uncool.

DD loves dresses. Like people say, it's all about the sparkles and decoration rather than design: a flimsy, much-washed Disney dress passed down from her cousin which I tried to hide has been the biggest hit so far.

Recently, she saw a little girl all dressed up, with a filmy scarf, movie-star sunglasses and big pink bows in her hair. She murmered 'that girl is so pretty' to herself with so much longing it really took me aback. She's 3.