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Support and advice for Irish/Northern Irish women seeking abortion

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Enormouse · 29/01/2015 11:05

Having had a search, I don't think a thread like this exists. (Apologies if it does and I've missed it)

Resources and practical advice for women needing to travel as well as reassurance and non judgemental support.

I'm hoping this will be a safe place for Irish/Northern Irish women to talk.

Flowers
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Enormouse · 20/02/2015 17:30

glastoSmile. It must be awful having to take the ferry over. At least the flight is quick. I can't imagine how hard it must be to have a termination sandwiched between a ferry journey.

Well, it's almost a month on from my termination and I got my first period. I guess that's it. Over. For some inexplicable reason, I was worried I still might be pregnant but this means I'm definitely not.

I've now hit a different obstacle, trying to get contraception. My gp only offers the pill, and the family planning clinic is only open 1 afternoon a week.

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Enormouse · 25/02/2015 12:26

Ok following on from my last post. Contraception and NI related -

The nhs family planning clinics are completely backlogged. The phone line is only open from 9am - 1pm. And my local clinic itself is only open one afternoon a week. You can pm me if you need the number for the booking line Flowers

I've spent a morning trying to get through and have gotten a consultation for mid March. Apparently, I was lucky to get one so soon.

Alternatively, Marie Stopes in Belfast can provide contraception. But it does cost. Marie Stopes contraception fees

I know it's probably going to be the last thing on the minds of women travelling but if Long acting contraception is offered at bpas, please consider taking it. It's at a much reduced rate (£15 for the coil I think, at Bpas). The bpas price is only available at the time of the termination procedure. I didn't take it because I thought I'd be able to get contraception easily when I got back and tbh I just wanted to get out of there and go home.

The family planning clinics may not offer all forms of LARC - my nearest doesn't offer the coil, and gps may not offer all forms of contraception - my gp only prescribes the pill.

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GerbilsAteMyCat · 07/03/2015 08:53

Great idea for a thread!

snowglobemouse · 10/04/2015 00:56

thanks for making this thread

Southerngirl4 · 13/07/2015 21:40

I'll post here as well... Has anyone from Republic of Ireland successfully used the Poste Restante service in NI for a women on web delivery? They aren't currently delivering to the Republic and it's near impossible to get information on a post office. Thanks

wickedlazy · 22/08/2015 14:34

I'm in N.I, and the wait for contraception is awful. Had to argue with gp to give me a prescription for the injection. I had been to family planning (health centre) and next available slot for implant was 11 weeks, and I wasn't risking the pill for that long. After implant ran out, I had a mini argument with the family planning lady to get the injection (and implant 11 weeks later again so overlapping). They just want to chuck the pill and condoms at you. Do they get commision? Mum has had a bad time with the coil, waiting ages for appointments to see if it has wondered somewhere it shouldn't. And GUM clinics are overflowing, I tried to get an appointment (had just gotten back with dp and had what turned out to be a uti but wasn't leaving it to chance) you have to ring between 8.00-12.00. I tried to get through every morning for a week but gave up and went to gp who was able to test me then and there! Which i've never heard off before?

JacobFryesTopHatLackey · 22/08/2015 14:41

I had to spend ages waiting to get an appointment at Carrick as the local clinic doesn't fit the coil. It really is truly dire here.

So sorry you had to go through that wicked. It just angers me so much that they are so pro baby but anti women here.

I'm enormouse under a name change post jeffrey.

hedgehogging7 · 08/10/2015 16:16

warning: post containing potentially upsetting information at the very end so please read only if it applies to your situation

NC to add to this thread but just wanted to add a little bit of extra information I've gleaned having had the fairly devastating experience of a diagnosis of fatal fetal abnormality recently. This will really only apply to people who want to bring the products of the pregnancy home for burial- I'm sorry, I don't know how to word that more sensitively.

I organised everything myself via the wonderful BPAS website and helpline and travelled to Liverpool. The staff there were amazing and even the cab drivers to and from knew where we were headed and were just incredibly kind and sensitive- we even had a few laughs on the short journey from the airport, which I never expected. The Liverpudlians did their city proud that day and I'll be forever grateful to them for it.

One of the practicalities I worried about was bringing the pregnancy remains home. I appreciate this is only an issue for women with a similar diagnosis to ours, and that it might not be for everyone so sincere apologies if this upsets anyone.

The lady at the clinic had mentioned they would package it all up for travel but that she was unsure whether we would need to make a declaration to customs given that we were flying home. Either way it would have to be transported as checked in luggage (this part is definitely correct). This would obviously not be an issue if you were taking the ferry home.

I scoured the customs regulations and could find nothing to say we needed to declare our little package (it's labelled as Category B Biological Substances for anyone who wants to check it out more formally). I would have found it too hard to declare anything just for the sake of clarifying the rules so we just went through the green channel and there was no problem at all from the time we checked in our bag to the time of getting out of the airport with bag in tow and heaving a sigh of relief.

If anyone has more formal confirmation that we did the right thing here I'm sure it would help others to know, but I just wanted to post my experience to reassure those who wish to bring remains home but may not have the option of coming home by ferry.

The final thing I wanted to add is sensitive and regarding the contents of the package and its layers, so apologies and please don't read this bit if you'd find that upsetting-

the cardboard box/package contains a white but sort of semi-opaque plastic container surrounded by bubble wrap. It doesn't look biodegradable. The pregnancy contents are directly within that plastic container so please take care not to open even the cardboard box if you don't want to see anything. It's not totally see-through as I say but it's definitely not completely opaque. I imagine a funeral director would sort everything or maybe there's someone who could help if you wanted to have everything biodegradable but, like I say, just take care if you'd rather not see anything. Sorry for even mentioning this but I would have liked to know this in advance, though I'm not particularly sensitive.

Hope this all helps someone. x

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