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What was one thing you couldn't live without when you first had a baby?

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BabyCJuly · 25/04/2020 16:55

Hi all,

I think I have got most things for baby arrival

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MamaFrey29 · 26/04/2020 06:55

Spritz for bits. I healed in 2 weeks on that stuff.

Two plastic water bottles - refill constantly
Paracetamol
HWB
Sleepyhead
Muslins
White noise
Water wipes
Luxury pjs
Luxury light weight dressing gown
Under eye masks
Collagen face sheets
Decent feeding bras - get 3 minimum
Lanisoh- amazing

Take LOADS of photos and order to snap fish daily. You will thank yourself in 6 months

A cleaner

MamaFrey29 · 26/04/2020 06:56

Lavender baths too!

Have plenty of baths. Don't look at your tummy!

keentohelp · 26/04/2020 07:00

Playmat- not useful for newborns but life saver as soon as they start batting at things
Perfect prep machine
Baby Bjorn bouncer and toy bar
Babyzen pram- if you want an easy life it's so much better than a travel system (and I also own the bugaboo fox, so have very much tried both)
Little portable nappy caddy to take from room to room
Zip up sleepsuits from baby Mori
The captain calamari Lamaze toy Smile

Yester · 26/04/2020 07:01

Ear plugs to get some daytime rest when DH took the babies.

A musical mobile that moved.

keentohelp · 26/04/2020 07:02

Oh also:
Spritz for bits (best stuff ever)
Sleepyhead for day naps
Babybjorn mini carrier for first few months

keentohelp · 26/04/2020 07:03

AND (I rely on lots of things)
A cheap disco light for when baby's having a complete meltdown- good for distracting them so can calm them down.

TriangleBingoBongo · 26/04/2020 07:05

Lanisoh

keentohelp · 26/04/2020 07:07

And loads of muslins
Baby sleeping bags

Also like a previous poster said, permission to formula feed if necessary. I had an epidural that went very wrong and effectively paralysed me for a week after birth- couldn't even sit up or raise my head. That and my baby's tongue tie meant I had no choice but to switch to formula after the first 10 days when my baby has lost too much weight. Beat myself up about it and wish I hadn't.

SmileyCloud · 26/04/2020 07:08

Our gro egg room thermometer, my house gets really really hot in the summer and it’s nice that at a quick glance you can see the temp and dress them accordingly for bedSmile I second all those that said sleepsuits and a carrier/sling for all those days they just will not be put down!

BertieBotts · 26/04/2020 07:09

Bubblesbebe

The soft (stretchy) cloth tying ones are really easy to use as you tie them before you put the baby in, meaning no risk of dropping them or squishing them and you're not worrying about it. You can leave it on all day and pop the baby in and out which is brilliant! Although I got on better with slings with DC1, not sure why DC2 just didn't seem to take to them. These slings are cheap and easy to find, you can even make your own (without sewing) from a length of jersey cotton. The downside of this type is that it doesn't last once the baby is about 9-10 kilos, it gets too heavy and uncomfortable because the stretch in the fabric is too much. You can also only do a front carry with them and they tend to be pretty hot as lots of layers on you. Which come to think of it was probably the issue with DC2. Maybe I'll have another winter/autumn baby to try one out with!

You can also get woven fabric slings, which are similar but not stretchy. These are fantastic because they are so versatile - can use right from newborn up to toddler or even preschooler if you can lift them! I've seen photos where people demonstrate the strength of these things by carrying another adult in one - obviously not for long, but it shows how strong they are. You can do so many different carries with these - back, front, hip. And even turn it into a hammock when you're finished carrying babies. IMO these are the most beautiful as well (hippy vibes, if that's your thing.) The downside of this type is there is a strong learning curve, you have to tie around the baby/toddler which takes practice and confidence, and they are expensive.

The type with buckles can be broken down into two main types - ergonomic and non-ergonomic. Ergonomic carriers have a thick waist belt to transfer the baby's weight to your hips, they will often have a clip to connect the two shoulder straps, like the chest clip on hiking backpacks, and the seat of the carrier is wide, supporting baby's legs from knee to knee. The non-ergonomic ones tend to hang all the baby's weight off your shoulders, which is fine if you're a man and/or the baby is very young, again, under 9-10kg or so, but otherwise it will become uncomfortable very quickly. And some of them especially the generic ones that you find in places like Lidl are extremely poor quality and you never really get a secure carry with them at all.

Ergonomic carriers tend to be made by baby carrier specialists and examples include Ergo, Rose & Rebellion, Boba. Non-ergonomic tend to be made by companies that make lots of baby things like Chicco, Cybex, etc. There's also a company called Baby Bjorn who for years were infamous as the non-ergonomic baby carrier specialist, but they have now brought out some ergonomic carriers as well, so just make sure if you look at baby bjorn to get the newer models, not their classic ones.

Pros of buckle carriers is that they are extremely easy to use and the idea of operating buckles and straps is more familiar to most people than tying long pieces of cloth. They also have a more modern/mainstream kind of look, indeed, you can get an enormous variety of designs, anything from flowery and hippyish to batman themed and everything in between, also of course plain colours like black, navy and grey. (If you're interested in a custom made one, BTW, can I shout out to www.pouchlings.com/custom-made-baby-carriers.html - as a bonus you'd be supporting a small business in corona times :) )

Cons of buckle carriers is that they tend not to be suitable from newborn as you need some degree of head control from the baby to use them, there are "newborn inserts" for some of them, but they don't work particularly well, and aren't as supportive as a cloth type carrier. Buckle carriers by their nature as well aren't as adjustable as cloth carriers - you can of course change them for different people wearing them, but you would have to manually adjust the straps each time. You can generally only do a front carry and a back carry, some claim to offer a hip carry but it's unwieldy. They don't cover a wide range of child ages - you have to buy a carrier sized for baby (2-24 months), toddler (6/9m-4y), or preschooler (2-6+y), because they can't be that adjustable. If you (or DH) are larger or very slim, very tall or very short, you might find that standard ones don't fit your own body correctly, it's worth googling to find the waistband lengths of different carriers.

Then there are the less commonly known types of slings - ring and pouch slings, go over one shoulder, can be used from newborn across the chest (great for breastfeeding) or with a baby who can sit on the hip - I found this again, for some reason great with my first, tricky with my second (perhaps he does not like slings??)

Mei Tais (with various spellings as it's transliterated from different Asian languages) - generally a rectangle of cloth with four long straps which you tie. The versatility of a wrap, without the masses of fabric.

Hybrid slings - things like Caboo, which is a stretchy wrap using rings to support parts of the fabric. You have to look at the individual one to see if it's any good.

The vast majority of people get on best with a stretchy wrap from newborn until about 6-9 months or the baby's first summer, if they were born in any month except March-August. Then move on to an ergonomic buckle carrier.

DrMaryMalone · 26/04/2020 07:24

Lucozade sport - drank loads of the stuff with DS to stop me getting dehydrated breastfeeding
A vibrating bouncer/swing combo thing
A snuzpod bedside cot
A slow cooker (2 winter babies)
So so many muslins
Those gel hand warmers which I put in my bra when going outside in subzero temperatures to help with painful spasms

AmeliaE · 26/04/2020 07:34

A baby video monitor. An absolute godsend. We have the Philips Avent one, worth every penny.
The Groegg is brilliant as it doubles as room thermometer and dim light.
MAM dummies.

feelingverylazytoday · 26/04/2020 07:39

Electric steriliser.
Dummies.
Avent bottles.
Shawls.
barrier handcream.
Baby wipes
Rocking chair for the baby.

DJBebe · 26/04/2020 08:25

Following

Bubblesbebe · 26/04/2020 08:52

Thanks for th clarifying @Megan2018 and @ludicrouslemons!

Did anyone find that having a comfy chair for feeding was a must? I live in a one bedroom apartment and wasn’t thinking of getting one, but maybe feeding on the bed or sofa isn’t as easy?

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 26/04/2020 09:04

@Bubblesbebe, I've got a snuggle sofa in ds room that I feed him on, it's basically a slightly larger armchair. Very comfy as I can just curl up in it with ds across my legs. But while he was in our room, I used to just sit on the floor against the bed and feed him there, as long as you don't mind a numb bum if the feed is taking ages, it's as good a place as any. Bed was the only place I found hard.

A couple of friends had rocking chairs that they used.

Bubblesbebe · 26/04/2020 09:08

@BertieBotts
Wow thats an incredibly detailed explanation! I am taking a screenshot so that I don’t forget... super helpful! big thanks

MBM18 · 26/04/2020 09:16

Nursing pillow, even if you're not planning on breastfeeding.

Blanca123 · 26/04/2020 09:26

Amazon Prime, Sling, Lanolin nipple cream, coffee, witch hazel pads, sanitary pads, nipple pads and your favourite snacks and biscuits I'd also recommend if you don't really have anyone around to help out cook meals you like and freeze them trust me this saved my life!

YummyInMyTummy · 26/04/2020 09:32

Thank you @Megan2018 and @Noti23 - really appreciate it!

Great detailed post @BertieBotts !

Newcornishmama · 26/04/2020 09:58

I wish i had a next to me and sleepyhead from birth (some people won't agree). My baby would not settle in moses but slept 5 hours in sleepyhead at 2 weeks old. I think if i had this from beginning my bf journey may have been more successful x

Yesterdayforgotten · 26/04/2020 10:21

Oh yes and a next to me, highly recommend

Fudgewhizz · 26/04/2020 10:51

Sling (we used a Connecta but I now have a Manduca too which is brilliant)

Muslins and dribble bibs

White noise app

Tripp Trapp chair with newborn attachment- meant baby could be on a level with us at the table and kept her away from the dog!

Yesterdayforgotten · 26/04/2020 11:07

I would hold off on a sling until baby here or buy one second hand and inexpensively as my first baby didnt like one and a baby that liked to be worn or so it turned out and it was a waste.

Yesterdayforgotten · 26/04/2020 11:08

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