himynameisfred - I'm so very, very sorry that you lost your beautiful baby.
I had an ECV for my second baby, who was breech. I didn't like the idea, so I had a long discussion about it with a doctor at the hospital and was told that a caesarean was far more risky than ECV. She wouldn't endorse the idea that a breech baby could be born naturally either and said that if I didn't have the ECV I would have to have a caesarean.
I had the ECV and it felt very odd, although it didn't hurt. Nobody gave me a scan before, during or after it.
I went on to have a very odd birth - I was later told it was called a 'silent labour', as I never went into proper labour . When I finally went into hospital, because of bleeding, the midwives were surprised that I was already 10cm dilated. My baby's heartbeat was dipping every time I had a contraction and they were very concerned. He was born soon after and needed to be resuscitated, but, thank god, he breathed.
The midwives told me that he had the cord wrapped three times round his body and twice round his neck. I have always worried that it was the ECV that did this to him and that I had a lucky escape.
I'm so very, very sorry it ended badly for you, op.