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Is anyone else watching the Midwives programme on BBC?

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ItsMyLastOne · 14/08/2012 21:53

The MW dealing with this 18 year old girl is really annoying me. She's being so patronising to this girl. So what if she came in to be checked when she was 3cm, and so what if she asked for an epidural at 6cm. Loads of woman have an epidural earlier than that. Grrr!

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ItsMyLastOne · 15/08/2012 12:57

I think this episode was quite positive, apart from that one mw. Although luckily she wasn't quite so rude to the woman's face as she was when out of the room. But then I think you get mw's like that everywhere. I certainly came across one!
I think each episode is a different hospital too so you could always watch the others without it worrying you.

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Zhx3 · 15/08/2012 13:03

I posted this on the thread in Telly Addicts:

Teared up at Rachel at the end.

Arrowe Park sent me home when my contractions were 3 or 4 minutes apart, and told me to call them when my waters broke. I had my baby in my bathroom 10 minutes after my waters went (to be fair, 14 hours later). My poor husband had to deliver him!

Luckily there were no problems, but it could have all gone so wrong. Took the paramedics 10 minutes to reach us after baby was born, and the midwife 20 minutes.

elizaregina · 15/08/2012 21:06

i have to say i didnt like way MW laughed at rachel about an epidural....

they dont laugh at you when asking you if you thought of pain relief before...

its like " ha ha ha.....another one been duped! I am not letting you have one....its not your choice anymore its....MINE...HA HA HA HA"

very sad about lady whose children were taken away - to keep having them was her human right - but what about rights of hte babies?

also didnt understand why child was in pushchair in living room all the time in the other couple - with the reallly really annoying man...the ones that didnt have a cooker - ....

TheCrackFox · 15/08/2012 22:07

Yes, I noticed the middle child was always strapped into the buggy - very odd.

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ItsMyLastOne · 15/08/2012 22:13

YY to all of that Eliza!

I thought the same thing about the boy, why was he strapped down constantly. I hope it was just because of the camera crew being there, to stop him playing with wires, buttons etc so for his safety as much as anything. Hopefully!

They said the reason the woman's children were being taken was because of serious allegations against the dad. There obviously has to be more to the whole story and you'd hope SS didn't take the decision lightly, but if it was allegations and no conviction over the time it's taken her to have several children then it seems a bit strange. Maybe there is a lot of evidence but not enough to do anything more than remove the children. It's very very sad for the mum though.

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whatsonyourplate · 15/08/2012 22:17

Well I recorded it and switched it on to watch it, but turned it off and deleted before the opening credits were over as the midwife holding the baby up to the camera and saying 'hello world' really annoyed me. Call me hormonal (I'm 31 weeks pregnant..) but it wasn't her baby to wave around like some cute toy.

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ItsMyLastOne · 15/08/2012 22:21

That annoyed me too! Hand the baby to the parents FFS!

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TheCrackFox · 15/08/2012 22:26

Ha ha, that annoyed me too. My first thought was "he's not a bloody toy, give him to his mum".

strugglingwiththepreteenbit · 15/08/2012 23:22

I think you lot are being a bit hard on the old trout of a midwife! I really liked how laid back she was! And the fact that her "coaching" in the 2nd stage was actually a lot of softly spoken reassurance about finding your instincts. She can look after me any day and I'd probably have a good laugh at myself with her afterwards.

tunecedemalis · 16/08/2012 00:56

I wasreally interested to see this as I had my DS 3 at this unit- it was awful but they'd had a refurb etc and I hoped it had improved. Really sad to see midwives still laughing at women in pain and not honouring women's choices ie Rachel requested an epidural - no-one can really know how someone elses pain feels. They have a rep for sending labouring women home- I'm afraid two of my friends have given birth in the carpark. Community midwives seemed v positive though- so at least some progress is being made.

bronze · 16/08/2012 01:16

Just seen this
I started a thread in telly addicts

Am now watching the one before

BuntyCollocks · 16/08/2012 08:09

Also booked into Arrowe park. Had my ds there as well. Have met some of those midwives - they're actually a lovely bunch up there and the facilities are excellent. Was a bit at the refusal of pain relief for Rachel, as I was offered everything under the sun (complicated labour from the outset).

I will say, though, that Arrowe park wouldn't even let me come in until my waters broke, despite my contractions being every 3 minutes, lastin a minute, for hours. It was a relief when they went and I could go!

strugglingwiththepreteenbit · 16/08/2012 09:21

from what we saw Rachel's first request for an epidural was met with "not yet." Any good midwife will try and get you to do without at first. Had she reapeated the request more forcefully during the first stage I'm sure it would have been honoured.
The second time we saw her ask she was pushing. There's no point to an epidural then.

Hevaniceday · 16/08/2012 09:29

I had my booking in appt with my midwife yesterday, she had asked if i'd seen anything of it and hadnt so watched them on IPlayer last night, watched the first two through tears mostly (im quite emotional at the minute). Tried to watch last nights show twice and ended up turning it off in frustration, I thought the first two episodes were much better.

elizaregina · 16/08/2012 09:44

whats

saying 'hello world' really annoyed me. Call me hormonal (I'm 31 weeks pregnant..) but it wasn't her baby to wave around like some cute toy

yes that irked me too....i wondered if the mum had given permission for that...

elizaregina · 16/08/2012 09:48

"Really sad to see midwives still laughing at women in pain and not honouring women's choices ie Rachel requested an epidural - no-one can really know how someone elses pain feels."

Exactly, and for me it wasnt so much the refusal - it was the "way" she refused too...that laugh!

Thanks to my mw - steering me away from one I am now having an ELC!!!!

Sort of like...." oh yes dearie - here we go - an epidural eh? not for you lovie....not for you...your going to do it the hard way....."

The little boy strapped in his pushcahir just made me think of Baby P.

There were also shots of him sucking on an empty bottle.

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ItsMyLastOne · 16/08/2012 19:31

Bunty if they don't let people stay till their waters have gone, what happens if your waters don't go? I pushed mine out whole after about 2 hours of pushing. I wouldn't want to have had to wait that far into labour!

All of this is, along with other stories I've read etc, are just making me think I might want a home birth after all!

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BuntyCollocks · 16/08/2012 21:00

itsmy - god knows! I did wonder that myself. They have to allow you in f they go, but no idea what their criteria is if they don't .

It's a good job we did, DS was having decels :(

Zhx3 · 16/08/2012 23:30

I wanted a home birth after my experience with dc2 plopping out in the bathroom, but husband was so stressed at the thought we might end up delivering dc3 again on our own, that I relented and had dc3 in hospital.

See, I think Arrowe Park would have given me excellent care (experienced by dais) if they'd have bloody let me in!!!

Zhx3 · 16/08/2012 23:32

I mean I wanted a planned home birth because it seemed like the surest way of actually getting a midwife in attendance!

BuntyCollocks · 17/08/2012 08:06

I don't think the care at Arrowe park was anything less than excellent. Everyone is lovely - but they obviously have strict rules about when to accept women in labour, which I wish I'd been warned about, because as a first time mum, when all the books said 'go to hospital when your contractions are 3 mins apart, lasting a min', but the hospital tells you to stay home, it's rather frightening.

Will be there for DD at the end of this year/beginning of next, and looking forward to another pleasant experience - and hopefully a wbac!

Zhx3 · 17/08/2012 09:33

Dsis obviously, not dais. Damn you, autocorrect.

whatsoever · 17/08/2012 12:28

Ah, sounds like it wasn't my hopsital after all - I'm going to St Mary's in Manchester, and I thought the whole series was there.

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