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Tell me great things about having two boys...

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BeeBread · 21/09/2011 18:55

I found out at my scan today that I am having a boy.

I already have the loveliest DS in the world and normally feel uber-sneery about the threads where MNers express a preference for girls. I know that I am lucky to fall pregnant and have healthy children, and my DS is fab so why would I be anything other than delighted?

Except, when I heard today, I felt a twinge of disappointment. I hate myself for it. But my mind seems to be spinning the news so as to focus on the things I will miss out on (I'm 99% sure that this is my last DC). Like not having a daughter's wedding to plan, DH not giving her away, not being a maternal grandmother and most superficially, not being able to shop for all the gorgeous girls things.

This is so stupid. And vapid. And disloyal to my gorgeous son. I want to start feeling genuinely happy about having another little boy. So please can you tell me good things about having two sons?

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TheMitfordsMaid · 22/09/2011 22:27

I have two boys, and I am so happy watching their love for each other. My poor DS2 is missing his big brother terribly as he has lost him to reception. They look for each other first thing in the morning but are usually fighting by bed.

I am very happy with my two boys, and life is so easy as they generally like doing the same things. I do like the fairly muddy, stick-gathering life that we have. So long as I keep them fed, watered and exercised, they are happy.

lollystix · 22/09/2011 22:45

Yes my ds2 has taken ds1 starting school a couple of weeks ago badly. It's weird cos I worried about ds1 and didn't consider how ds2 would be affected. He cries when he has to leave him - total hero worship going on

m1nn1em0u5e · 22/09/2011 22:48

Tell me about it lollystix!..Its started already, some people have actually tutted when they have said 'I bet your hoping for a girl this time'...I have replied, oh this is another boy!...More football socks for me!....to which they have tutted, rolled their eyes, said awww....or said fingers x for a girl next time!..What is it with people & their insistence that a family isn't balanced unless you have a boy & a girl!.....grrrrr

lollystix · 22/09/2011 23:00

With this one I've just been very upfront:

Yes I am pregnant again

-yes it is another boy

No I'm not bothered - I'm actually quite pleased
No I'm not mad - he was an accident (sorry bump - you are very much wanted now)

-yes Dh is going for the snip

yes we are going to stop now (not that it's any of your business!)

DoTheStrand · 22/09/2011 23:15

I am in a similar position to the OP - one 2 year old DS and another boy on the way. Definitely my last pregnancy (I am ancient and feel terrible for the first few months when pregnant). I also felt a momentary sadness when I heard I was having another boy, so I love hearing about or speaking to mums of two or more boys.

I am also going to be VERY outnumbered as DH has two teenage boys from his first marriage who we see a lot. But I also see how well the older two get on and I would love my DS1 to have that with soon-to-be DS2. (DS1 adores his big brothers but there is a large age gap so realistically he will see less of them as they get older / get jobs / move away etc).

Just accept the fact that they will be very noisy and talk about their willies a lot :) (Although DS1 did tell me today that as I didn't have a willy I should buy one from a shop).

Also as people have said on the thread there is no guarantee your boys will want to do traditionally boys' stuff or that a girl would have wanted to go shopping with you - DS1 adores my make up, loves baking with me and can often be found parading round the house wrapped in some item of clothing of mine saying "I'm off to a wedding in my pretty dress!"

Good luck with your pregnancy and birth too.

sunshinestate · 23/09/2011 06:06

I just wanted to add that once your baby is born he will no longer be "it's a boy" he will be a person, full of his own ideas, humour and love. I think the boy/girl thing will then fade from your thoughts and be replaced by a lot lot more good stuff!

sunshinestate · 23/09/2011 06:09

lollysticks would love to know what stock comments you have for rude grannies. I'm getting fed up of being polite!

TheyCallMeKipper · 23/09/2011 08:04

I have two boys and they are just gorgeous together, and are only 4 months and 2.10. The younger one's eyes light up when his big brother comes in and follow him around the room. The older one is so tender and gentle with the baby, kisses his head, and tells everyone about his baby.

I'm under no illusions that they won't fight when they are older, but I hope they'll also be great friends. Loving the comments above by other posters.

frazzled74 · 23/09/2011 10:06

I may be generalising but , women who dont have daughters usually enjoy much better relationships with their daughter in laws, so you will still get to do girly wedding/ shopping things and enjoy grandchildren. I have boys and girl , boys are loving and easy to look after. congratulations.

ConstanceNoring · 23/09/2011 10:27

I have two teenage stepsons, my DH's from his first marriage, so when I was expecting first DC there was an unspoken wish for a girl but when DS came along naturally I was instantly in love with him and any thoughts of girls literally vanished in a flash.

When I was pregnant with DC2 I was sure it was a girl as I felt so different but when DS2 arrived (I guess DH can only make boys ) - again not a second thought - instant adoration.

And Oh My God, I am so, so happy with my lot. They are 7 and 4 now and are great friends, they share everything, they know whose toys are whose but they are very much mix and match. They adore and care for each other and are overwhelmingly loving and thoughtful to me and their Dad.

My boys, I just love them.

SamsungAndDelilah · 23/09/2011 10:36

If you have only male children (and more than one):

You will never have to wrestle an angry toddler into a pair of tights. Don't underestimate the impact this will have on your life.

You are unlikely to break your neck on anything made of pink plastic.

The school run is easier, as you don't have to do anything to your sons' hair except ruffle it as you tell them to put their shoes on and behave themselves :o

Your children will amuse themselves, for hours on end, without adult intervention by telling poo and fart jokes.

hubbahubster · 23/09/2011 10:44

DS's room is all owls and squirrels, OP. I love this thread - I've always assumed that DH and I would just produce boys, as it's all boys on his side. So when we buy pets I insist that they're girls so I'm not outnumbered :) personally I can't stand girly nonsense and can't wait for DS to have a brother to roll around and wrestle with.

ConstanceNoring · 23/09/2011 10:44

Samsung - so true.

This morning, as every morning I sprayed the boys' hair with water (and tea tree oil ahem) ruffled it around a bit "gorgeous" - check

Then it's "ok, give us your face" swift wipe around with wet flannel "beautiful" - check , big kiss, - done, off out the door.

DoTheStrand · 23/09/2011 11:10

Samsung I think your point about the tights is the best reason I have ever heard for having boys :)

BTW what it is it with owls and squirrels - is this a phase I need to look out for??

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BeeBread · 23/09/2011 12:06

Aren't you all lovely! With lovely boys too by the sounds of things.

The owls and squirrels phase isn't something of DS's - it is mine! I have never managed to outgrow it. I think DS2 will have to have a few imposed on him whether he likes it or not.

If either DS takes after his father the morning routine will be a little more convoluted. Sigh. For DH it normally involves mousse, the hairdryer, and plenty of time in front of the mirror. . Mind you, DS1 woke up with hair like an emperor penguin today and seemed unconcerned, so perhaps there is hope yet!

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Bearcrumble · 23/09/2011 12:44

I thought I was the only one with an owl obsession. My DS has at least 4 tops with owls on, 'Ow[l]' is one of his 30-odd words and I think MIL is currently knitting him an owl jumper. He has an owl puppet and likes to read Owl Babies every night.

I am pregnant with number 2 and they will only be just over 2 years apart - I hope/think if it is another boy they will be so close and really good friends to one another.

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