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Who decided to stop having babies?

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codswallop · 29/08/2003 18:39

IME it is generally men who cant stand more than two.

However Mr Cod fancies himself as Pa Walton and would go on forever if finances allowed - and he is an only child!

So...fess up - who said - NO MORE in your household.

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scottiebabe · 30/08/2003 10:34

Sorry age gap between kids not me and hubby !!!

kmg1 · 30/08/2003 18:14

I couldn't say which of us feels most strongly that we don't want any more! We love our 2 boys (close in age), but our family is complete. We planned ds2, but from the moment I knew I was pregnant, I knew that would be the last - I just don't want another, and have never doubted that. ds2 starts school next week, which is a wrench, but it certainly doesn't make me want to go back to the baby stage and start again!

marthamoo · 30/08/2003 19:13

Me. Two's enough. DH would go along with trying for more or he would have stopped at one. He has no mind of his own and is totally under the thumb

I always wanted three, but like others on this thread I don't do conceiving, pregnancy or new babies particularly well. It took two years for me to get pregnant after DS1, then I miscarried at 8 weeks, and it took another 6 months before I was pregnant with DS2. I can't face that heartbreak again, or the PND which I feel would be fairly inevitable after having it twice.

The only thing which I do feel a little sad about is that I'll never have a daughter...but as I'm so blessed to have my two boys, that's only a fleeting regret.

dinosaur · 30/08/2003 20:24

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Hughsie · 01/09/2003 11:00

We said while I was pregnant with number two that if is was a girl (I already had a boy) then a third would be likely but two boys seems complete so we probably wont have another.

Never say never though!

Abbey · 01/09/2003 15:58

I decided on two because having kids has sent me loopy (PND). DH is not coming anywhere near me until he agrees to a snippy snippy.

Blu · 01/09/2003 16:36

DP was broodier than me in the first place but he decided in advance that one alone it would be! I would have gone for another, but feel his decision has let me off the hook as I am knocking on A LOT: 43 when ds was born!

Hello Dinosaur....my ds has talipes and a bit more complication further up his leg...

gosh2 · 01/09/2003 16:59

Slink - What?? My goodness, your grandmother gave one away. did I read that right. How did the one that was given away feel? Oh my goodness I am almost in tears.

dinosaur · 01/09/2003 21:15

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anais · 01/09/2003 21:30

Not really applicable to me as I am a single Mum, and I'm only 23, so I have time yet, although there are complications that mean it's not straightforward to have another

I have 2 (dd 2 1/2 and ds will be 5 tomorrow!), but my ideal number would be 8!

I have 1 older sister, but my parents are both from big families and I have always craved a big family.

Once we have moved and settled I plan to adopt.

Metired - apparently Brad wants 7 children!

motherinferior · 01/09/2003 22:04

TBH I think government decisions not to subsidise childcare have halted the Family Inferior at two kids...

Coddy · 03/02/2004 12:10

here it is

lazyeye · 03/02/2004 12:22

I'm pg with no3. I am youngest of 2 but hubs one of 6....I hope I feel finished after this one - always wanted 3, but can't guarantee it. Am lucky, have hubs who would probably go along with what I want (esp if it entails bonking as someone else said)

Sonnet · 03/02/2004 13:43

Right..who can help me? - how "expensive" is it really to have another??

kaz33 · 03/02/2004 14:05

Iim got two boys - neither me or DH have ruled out another one, i'm one of two and he is one of three.

Coddy · 03/02/2004 14:06

s have posted on other thread

aloha · 03/02/2004 14:21

Sonnet, it depends. If you work and don't get fully paid maternity leave then it costs you what you would have earned, plus the cost of childcare if you go back or the cost of lost earnings if you don't. If you don't do paid work then having a baby is cheap. It's the loss of earnings and the cost of childcare that means it is incredibly expensive.

Sonnet · 03/02/2004 14:46

Aloha - you're right and you articulated brilliantly what was in my mind..
I do work part time - and fortunatly/unfortunatly it is for a good salary plus comp car. I would not receive any special maternity package other than statutory mmp. This has increased though since DD2 was born (just 3 yrs ago!!.). This is a short term issue - I suppose I'm looking long term..
Going through my mind is also the thought that with three I'd have to return to work part time as I am now OR drastically change our life. The drastical change of life style would be to change to a state school for DD1. I am reluctant to do that as she is so so happy at school and I would feel dreadfully guilty...hence I'd have to come back to work and then I worry how I'd cope (wimp I know as so many people cope with more thanthat and I stand in awe of them!!)....

me thinks I need to dosome hard thinking/talking with DH

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