15m old cries when doing potty

[MrsNT]

Hello
Im not officiall potty training but since my DS was 1yr old, Ive been putting him on potty when he wakes up in the morning as thats when he passes stool and rather than doing it in nappy, I thought would be good idea for him to do on potty. Which he does almost everyday. However he cries a lot when hes about to pass stool. I hold his hand and tell him Im there. But he gets so upset. He isnt constipated and has plenty of water , fruits and veg in his diet but cries alot. Cries for a min or so after hes done. Then he is ok.
He also cries if he ever does it in nappy unless its a tiny bit.
Not sure what to do.

Are you sure he’s not constipated? My eldest’s constipation started around the same age and he got really distressed with it.

@BowiesJumper just read above that weetabix can cause issues and mine does have weetabix most days for breakfast with banana. Will try to eliminate that and see if it helps

Try something for stool softening. Continue with potty as usual :) I used to do that and saved loads of effort later !

@Agii thankyou . Trying to get prunes or figs in his diet

Lots of drinking water is your best bet.

My daughter was similar at about 18 months, took her to the GP and she had an anal fissure, so I would definitely get him checked out just in case, they can be incredibly painful.

Just wondering if you've got this sorted/ seen a gp yet? Hope it's getting better!

What treatment did the GP do?

Not sorted yet although trying. Adding prunes and figs to diet. If that doesnt work then will go to GP

@NellyTimes how was ur little one diagnosed by GP for a fissure? Did they do an internal exam?

Are you able to tell whether his poo is soft or hard?

@Sensoria its hard :/

I have booked an appt with gp now

So sounds like it’s more of a constipation / painful poo issue rather than anything to do with the potty itself.

Lots of children have constipation at that young and need support to soften the stool so it’s easier to pass through. As PP said increase the fibre and water in his diet but I would also suggest going to the GP.

I wouldn’t mention the potty per se, but rather the issues he has when he poos, just so the GP doesn’t focus on the potty as the issue.

Just to say my youngest had her 9 month check with HV recently and we were told the advice has changed to actively start using the potty from when they can sit independently - about 6 months old. Babies are programmed to learn and research shows that starting earlier reduces issues of withholding later on. Can't believe the amount of grief you've got for using a potty!

Hope the GP can help with the actual issue

@potplant19
Not surprised that the advised has changed. Decades ago mums were putting little ones on potty as soon as they could sit independantly.

On a separate note..went to gp and was prescribed lactalose for the hard stools as thats the main issue. Sitting on potty isnt the issue.

Thankyou. Yes I didnt mention the "potty" to GP as thats not an issue at all.

Potty has been a life saver in this situation tbh as when he does the hard poo in nappy he cries a lot more after aswell compared to when he does it in potty as its not "touching" him or making him uncomfortable . He cries when passing in both situations but in a nappy he keeps crying after passing for those few seconds/min it takes to open and clean

It's known that children don't have control of their bowels until at least 18m. why are you trying so young? I'm sorry but I'm not surprised he's upset. Just wait until he's ready.

@Z1hun uve not read the 1st post have u? He cries because he has hard stools not because he sits on potty. Ive written he cries when he does it in nappy aswell. And cries more when its in nappy as no one wants it touching them. I dont get why ppl are so judgemental whenever someone mentions potty. Many cultures let their little ones sit from a young age. Its not a british thing but it is normal in other cultures. Similar to how british ppl use tissue after doing number 2s while everyone else including many european cultures use water!

Before anyone comes at me again..let me clear this.. constipation or doing hard stools is not related to potty neither was my question related to that. If one can time when their little one goes potty and rather than soiling in nappy little one happily sits on potty ..then whats the problem? My question was regarding the painful stools. And some lovely parents answered and guided me to go to gp which Ive done. So thankyou to those.

Wont need anymore support on this topic for now.