Baby blues - what is normal?

[Chivari]

Hello mummies!

My baby is now 10 days old and we love her to bits. I'm breastfeeding which is going great.

I had a long and difficult labour and have also just spent 2 nights in hospital with an infected uterus. Finally back at home but seriously struggling with the baby blues today.

They started around day 3-4 where they would start around 5pm in the evening and last until around 9pm. However, the last 2 days I seem to be getting them in the day time too and today I have had them all day. I feel like I want to burst in to tears. I feel so lonely (evening though my DH is around) and also anxious. My DH returns to work next week which I'm dreading and because my friends baby has it, I have also got myself in a worry about my baby getting colic and crying all the time. I just generally feel down and miserable.

Is this normal so late after birth? When does/should it lift? Did anyone have it peak at day 10?

Take it easy you got this!x

Thanks @Danielle1371 I will have a read! Hit 5pm and seriously struggling now ☹️

*low moment

Also there’s a great little book called “The Little Book of Self-Care for New Mums” that I highly recommend to read when’s you’re having a lol moment!x

I was absolutely terrified of getting postnatal depression as well but it’s important to understand that even you if you do have it’s doesn’t mean you don’t love your baby it doesn’t meant you don’t want your baby it doesn’t mean you have failed as a mother it just mean you may need help and time to adjust to this change because it’s a massive life change it’s wonderful but it’s hard and challenging! Think if it as grieving, you’re a different person now because you’re a mummy you’re gonna need time to adjust and people grieve differently! Postnatal depression is common and it’s easy to get help for but it’s also really important to really focus on self care it’s easy to forget about yourself right now! Take a bath, go out for lunch do things you enjoy! I hope talking with the health visitor goes well! Just remember YOU GOT THIS! x

Thanks @Danielle1371

It definitely feels worse today as I've had it all day and it's not lifting. I feel like I just need a break and some serious me time. HV is coming tomorrow so I will chat to her. Really don't want PND

First things first is you’re not alone in this feeling and it’s okay to feel down it’s totally normal! However if you feel like it’s getting worse you need to let your health visitor know, it also helps to talk to people around you! I totally relate to feeling lonely even though you have people around you helping you I felt so lonely and I was surrounded by help, your hormones are crazy and if you had a long hard labour you’ll be exhausted and you may think about that a lot which is understandable, if you talk to your health visitor or even you gp they will steer you into the right direction so please contact them and tell them exactly how you’re feeling! I hope everything goes okay you’re doing an amazing job congratulations on the baby new mummy :-) x