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Postnatal health

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Is this prolapse? Feel suicidal.

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Dimestorediamond · 28/03/2017 23:32

I gave birth to my second child last week and within a few days became aware of something stringy hanging down from my vagina, sort of like a thick grayish tampon string. It has got progressively worse to the point that it looks like a thick piece of tissue which tapers to a string and hangs about 3 inches below my vaginal opening. My gp was very dismissive and said to do pelvic floor exercises for 6 months but I can't bond with my baby and would probably have just ended it by now if it wasn't for my older child. Is this a prolapse or something else? I just feel so alone.

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Nodowntime · 29/03/2017 00:35

It is not prolapse, or not according to your description. Whatever it is, it can be dealt with. I'm fuming at your GP.
Your DD will not be affected by not being picked up for a while, lots of mums have surgery etc or even during pregnancy become unable to pick up their elder children, it doesn't damage them. Anyway, she could always have a cuddle with you sitting down.
Usually a week or two after the birth is when the hormonal crush happens, all the happy hormones suddenly all flooding out, and the father goes back to work, baby realises they are not in the womb any more and stops sleeping, so it's often the darkest moment of the first year, even without the health worries... Just hold on, it will get better eventually

TupperwareTat · 29/03/2017 06:46

Keep posting, we are always here.

Things will get better, are there any local mumsnetters to you on MNlocal?

robinia · 29/03/2017 06:54

I second all the pp. I had exactly those feelings of letting down my older dc when subsequent dc were born. Always kicked in about 4-8 days post birth with feelings of devastation that I'd got it so wrong about having another baby. But it didn't last.
As for prolapse, I don't think the GP would have dismissed it if it was although it would have been helpful if he'd explained what it was. I'm sure it's nothing to worry about and hopefully the cmw will reassure you today

RapidlyOscillating · 29/03/2017 06:57

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MrsELM21 · 29/03/2017 07:00

Concentrate on you today, if you're not sorted out then you'll not be able to sort things out with the baby either, your priority just now needs to be getting yourself fixed, it's only just happened, it's all very new and I bet your hormones are all over the place, let us know how you get on x

ImsorryTommy · 29/03/2017 07:01

Your description doesn't sound like a prolapse at all.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 29/03/2017 07:07

Did you have ragged membranes? It sounds like some of the membrane left if you did. Please try not to worry, it really doesn't sound like a prolapse to me, and if it is leftover membranes it's easily cleared away

OllyBJolly · 29/03/2017 07:22

I'm sure it's a prolapse and I'm going to have to put up with it for a long time

No you don't. I had a prolapse. Horrible - I felt like a freak. TMI but couldn't poo without a bit of manipulation. My GP told me it would get better by itself. (to be fair, she examined me lying on my back and it was only an issue when I was standing) Saw another GP who was horrified and referred me immediately to gynae. I had an op two weeks later. Seriously, it was like someone gave me my life back. Baby was 6 months old at time of op and I don't think I really enjoyed her until after I recovered. I wish I'd been a bit more assertive first GP visit.

Hope you get a good response from the Midwife.

OllyBJolly · 29/03/2017 07:24

Should have said, what you describe sounds nothing like my symptoms but just wanted to make the point that you don't have to put up with it.

WipsGlitter · 29/03/2017 07:29

I had a prolapse and that sounds nothing like it. However even if it was a prolapse isn't the end of the world. You're reaction isn't normal though so best to get some help.

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Dimestorediamond · 29/03/2017 08:07

I think I probably do have a stage one prolapse because there is some bulging at the entrance to the vagina. But I think when gp examined me the hanging tissue was pushed up behind this as I was lying on my back. It is at its most noticeable when I sit on the loo- I am going to take a few pictures this morning, much as I'd rather not, so I know the midwife is seeing what I see. I realised this morning that it seems to be TWO strips of tissue hanging g down. Does this sound less like a prolapse or more so?

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whoknewitwastrue · 29/03/2017 09:36

Take photos always helpful to see what the worry is.

What type of deliver did you have?

I had lots of bulging after my second DC but six months in and loads of physio and pelvic floor exercises later it's gone.

It's horrible realising your body has changed. I had no issues after DC1 so was shocked but It's very early days for you. Get it looked at until your happy with the plan and be kind to yourself

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Dimestorediamond · 29/03/2017 09:39

My delivery was straight forward but fast. 4 hours start to finish. Emotionally I do feel a bit better today. DS finally went to sleep and I was able to stop obsessing about it. I rely appreciate all the support here. I will update you after the midwife has been.

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Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 29/03/2017 09:44

I'm pretty confident it is ragged membranes, I've had this twice. The first time I panicked when grey, stringy stuff came out of me whwb my baby was around 5 days old, the second time it happened I wasn't worried as I knew what it was.

The midwives examined me, made sure there weren't any more and that was it.

Please try not to worry!

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Dimestorediamond · 29/03/2017 14:41

It IS retained membranes. The community midwife removed what she could herself and said she thought the rest would now pass on its own. I can't believe I hadn't even heard of this before . There may still be a small prolapse too but I'm less concerned about that because I think some pelvic toning will make a big difference. So relieved and so grateful for all the advice and support I have got here. Hopefully I'll be able to begin enjoying my baby now.

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ShuttyTown · 29/03/2017 14:52

Just read the full thread. I'm so pleased you got it sorted OP and are feeling better today. Your GP sounds like he/she was quite useless and have made you continue your worry unnecessarily until the midwife helped you today.

Hope you continue to do well and enjoy your baby

AssassinatedBeauty · 29/03/2017 14:55

So glad you've had some proper help from the midwife today. Do keep talking to people either on here or in rl if you still feel low.

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Dimestorediamond · 29/03/2017 15:01

I will. I have suffered from anxiety quite badly in the past so will take on board what people have said about PPD and when to seek help if it becomes needed.

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pinkopal · 29/03/2017 15:05

Anxiety is awful OP. I'd have panicked too. Congratulations on your baby
Sorry your GP was so dismissive. Hope you get the help you need.

llhj · 29/03/2017 15:06

God love you. It's a desperate time those first few days. Great to hear you're brighter today.

Mammatojack17 · 29/04/2017 22:53

I had a 3rd degree episotomy that got infected after birth which caused me all kinds of psychological issues. I couldnt bond with ds either and im so relieved to read this isnt only me. Im only 11 weeks pp but now my bits are healing its getting easier. Make sure you seek the help you need ti sort yourself out hun. The midwives can help or ask for another gp. Then you will find the bonding comes xxx

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