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CantThinkofFunnyName · 11/06/2010 09:48
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Newbeginning1 ·
27/06/2010 22:33
ali - how is Jacob doing and how is your DD? I long for the day that Jack doesnt want to be held to sleep.
mama2moo - biting sounds lovely 
How are you feeling about tomorrow potentially being your last feed?
swh - i'm loving that you're loving the warm weather so much 
Where is everyone else? Do you all have actual lives and things to do?????????
Well, i need a rant. DS is doing my head in with his sleep at the moment and i cant cope with the fact he fights sleep and me so much now. He's started slapping and pinching me and i'm sure he doesnt know he's doing it but it's really getting me down. I just want 1 thing to be simple with him so that I can leave him with someone and have some time to myself.
Anyway, ignore my rant as it's nothing compared to a lot of the things everyone else has going on in this thread.
crumpette ·
28/06/2010 06:16
I'm sorry I haven't read thread since I was here last. I hope you're all OK..have been up all night 
very sad about DD and also have concrete evidence that P has been having an affair since at least 2008. I wish I hadn't found it. I feel really sick! 
Sorry to rant, nowhere else.. he was having sex with someone else while DD was well but also then while she was dying in the hospital! And even after she had died
will go have coffee and try not to let on that I know hugs to all xxx
ali this is nothing though compared to any health problems so I hope your DD and Jacob are OK at the moment.
crumpette ·
28/06/2010 07:01
Well, at least I'll be ''allowed'' to make your meet-up when you have it, look on the bright side eh
CantThinkofFunnyName ·
28/06/2010 08:09
Firstly Crumpette - . So sorry to hear this about P. Despite everything else you feel about him, something like that totally rocks your core. And on top of that, your reminiscing about DD. Please come on here and share with us. Do you go to the bereavement section at all? Have you found it any use if you have?
Now a question. Why are you not going to let on that you know? Surely you want to give it to him with all guns blazing, show him how hurt and angry you are and tell him to get the hell out of your life. At the same time, be speaking to a solicitor about financial commitments from him for James and perhaps even an injunction? Come on my lovely, it's really time to stand up for yourself now. And you must speak to someone about it in RL. If someone in your circle - or even a neutral lawyer who can help you on legal aid knows the ins and outs, if he does threaten silly stuff about taking J away from you - they will know everything and be able to fight tooth and nail for you. Are you even able to prepare yourself and J with all your belongings and do a "midnight flit" - or certainly a time when he's not around so you can just get out without having to deal with it all. Just leave a note saying you know everything you do? You have plenty of offers on here and I'm sure some of your RL friends would help you out, even if you haven't seen them for years. They are probably just waiting for you to come to your senses!!
Everyone else - will come back and post later, just really wanted to address this for Crumpette for now.
xx
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mistletoekisses ·
28/06/2010 10:03
Morning to everyone else also.
New - you won't poison J, I promise! I made some chicken stock on the weekend and am adding that to the veg so that Nico gets used to the taste. I saw that Heinz have bought some stock cubes out specifically marketed for giving to babies;no salt or rubbish in. Or just boil some red lentils for about 20 mins(they are one of the easier lentils to digest), whizz them up and add a little of those to the veg.
I am doing purees. BLW sounds great but DS1 was great with purees, and Nico is the same. I have also read an interesting article where a small study has shown that BLW is only advised if bfeeding/ ff on demand. It said that with BLW, a baby doesnt actually digest many nutrients, which is fine, because milk supplies all they need right now. But Nico is now on a routine, and am not feeding on demand. So even if I was thinking about it, that ruled it out for me.
Re Jack fighting sleep, he is over tired by the sounds of things and hasn't a clue what he is doing (wait until they are toddlers for that! ). In your shoes would now start a combo of PU/ PD and controlled crying. He may also be a little happier on a daytime routine; it will help you to know what he needs and he will also learn to pick up cues on what is coming next. I know that on the days I am out and about with Nico - he is a lot more unsettled. But as I said before a lot of it depends on what works with your lifestyle.
SWH - glad the parsnip helped. With the sweet pototo, I found that mixing it with baby rice in the beginning helped to get him used to the texture - it is very thick.
ali - how is jacob after his milk strike? how is your DD?
Lottie - hope all is well with you, you havent been on in a while.
Well we are fab. Was way too hot for even my liking yesterday. I thought I was in for a very unsettled night last night with the heat. But think the introduction of proteins is helping, I got a 7pm - 5.30am night! So am finally (touchwood) getting there.
Crumpette - do come back and vent please! I'll be lurking on and off today.
CantThinkofFunnyName ·
28/06/2010 11:10
Morning everyone. Well I've had a busy busy week and weekend, hence limited posted on here! I have to confess to being with SWH though. Whilst it is nice to have a summer holiday and cook for a couple of weeks, I much prefer the cooler seasons when at home. Our house is usually cool in the summer but not so much this year. I've resorted to fans in every room now!
Babies. I just LOVE this stage. Strangers keep telling me just how beautiful and happy Olivia is and I burst with pride. She smiles all the time and at anyone. A real little charmer. She is a real wriggle bum now too and is trying desperately to get to a sitting position from lying down and to get up on her knees. Changing her bum is quite comical.
We had our first night away on Saturday to attend a gay civil partnership. Actually I should say full on wedding as it was the most traditional wedding I have EVER been to . Quite bizarre. 4 tiered cake, bridesmaids, ushers, tails, first dance (ballroom styly), favours, balloons, the "happy couple" leaving the venue in a limo and passing under a sea of hands, jazz band during the reception, band and disco in the evening, ceremony in a CHAPEL! Thought it was going to be a great day, but actually because it was sooooo formal, everyone was very reserved, not very drunk and therefore not much action on the dance floor in the evening, despite the numerous professional gay dancers in the room! MIL looked after Olivia and she slept from 7pm to dream feed at midnight (because MIL was watching something on TV and forgot to do earlier), then she woke Olivia at 7.30am. I asked if she wanted to stay every night because she hasn't done that for us!!
Started on more lumpy purees now and trying a wider variety of foods after DH did a mammoth cook up on Saturday. Olivia is 6 months old tomorrow. I must say though, I think banana or mango is not going well with the digestive system. Each time she has had either she's been really really sick afterwards. So they are both off the menu for the foreseeable future.
Next week is again going to be manic. We have my stepchildren coming over from Ireland on Friday night and Olivia's christening on Saturday with 70 family and friends coming along. The following week we have various meetings for DS's new secondary school and his school production which he has a leading role in. Think I'm going to be out every night and busy helping the school in the daytimes! Stepchildren broke up from school at beginning of June and think they are going to be quite bored here that week, although trying to figure out what jobs I can give them at the school production to help out!
Right - Percy is at grooming this morning, having a major shave/haircut to help him out in this hot weather. Olivia has just gone to sleep. I have to empty dishwasher, tidy house, go to pub to sort final christening details with the caterers, at some point, try to manage some ironing , collect Percy from groomers, collect kids from school, be back here for 4.15 when the lady comes every Monday to observe Olivia (psychotherapy degree) - she posted on here around December and I agreed to be the guinea pig, then take DS to cricket training, collect him hour and half later and take Percy to his final dog training session. Manage to get back at 9.30pm and drop into bed. Every bloody Monday it's like this. Wednesdays are now very similar.
Still, will be better in a couple of weeks time I think.
hope everyone else ok.
x
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alibobins ·
28/06/2010 11:27
crumpette I really don't know what to say to you I really think you need to break away he is really bringing you down you can tell from your posts that you have had enough
You can come and share Ds1's bedroom 
Jacob is still really wheezing he has got a follow up with the consultant on wednesday so he might change his medication.
Dd had a pain above her eye again last night but think it's the sun as her eyes are sensitive she's got an appointment on 7th.
New we will have to try to meet somewhere before I go back to work we can sit and moan ;)
Mk Jacob still isn't interested in his milk he had 4 bottles yesterday so a bit more but only had 16oz and wasn't eating either. Glad weaning is going okay
Newbeginning1 ·
28/06/2010 22:01
How are you doing? Please get in touch with someone so that we know you're ok. I'm so sorry that your P is an absolute t**t and has done that to you. I second what others have said around the fact you deserve much better but i need to add that not only do you deserve better but so does J and so does your DD and her memory. I'm sure some part of you still loves him and hopes that one day the man you fell in love with will return but I hate to say it but i dont think he will and i'm not sure what else he can do before you give in to that iyswim? Please dont shoulder any blame with your P about his affair or behaviour. You haven't driven him to it, you haven't provoked him, you were dealing with the loss of your DD and although i'm sure he was dealing with his grief too but it's the time to strengthen a relationship and not go off with another woman.
Sorry, i know you dont need anyone else telling you this and the only reason I and everyone else do it is to help you because we all care and want the best for you and J. If you want to take ctofn up on her offer but need some more moral support then Jack and I are always up for a road trip and would be happy to come down. In fact, i'm meant to be going to Cambridge later this week and it's not that far so if I can help let me know. My spare room is always available and im sure Jack would love having J here.
Have a look at this as they offer a lot of support but there are also refuges around London but i'm not sure if you would want to stay. I read on one of the sites that even though she was in an abusive relationship she didnt want to leave but had an outreach worker who she could talk to that helped her make sense of stuff and also was her "witness" if that makes sense.
Anyway, i really hope you're ok. My number is 07506 746009 so if you need a chat or anything let me know. (I don't expect my number being put up in any phone boxes everyone else
) Don't forget as well to cover your tracks when you're searching for help on the internet in case he checks up on you if you get what i mean.xx
CantThinkofFunnyName ·
29/06/2010 08:12
OK I'm going to take a risk here on internet forum and publish my mobile number in case anyone wants to offer their services. I'm going to be offline for this morning as have to take car for service (bloody timing)! So text me, VeryCherry and anyone else who's able or willing to travel and help if needed.
07740676773 eeek, what have I done??
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alibobins ·
29/06/2010 09:29
Unfortunatly I am too far away to be of any help
I can offer baby things and if she really needs to get far away I can offer a bedroom.
I am really worried and for crumpette and hope she has the strength to do this we are all giving you our strength.
cant you are one amazing woman x x
CantThinkofFunnyName ·
29/06/2010 13:13
SuperParty . Got your text thanks. Re your post on other thread, pretty much what I put but I said the F word a few times telling the poster to F off, she was Fing clueless, that she was damaging the advice and she made me really Fing angry. My post got reported by someone and deleted .
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