Jan 2010: Weaning, sleeping crawling too...at least we've moved on from discussing poo

[CantThinkofFunnyName]

Roll up roll up - let's get chatting...

[CantThinkofFunnyName]

New - took one for the team!!! Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha PMSL! Good for you! However, your ex sounds like a complete sh*t too - so just make sure it's only sex OK!!!!

SuperParty - yes, I know it's the wrong name but that's how I refer to you in my head! I was in high risk group being over 40 and had all the soul searching that you do about the tests. In my case, I decided I would terminate if gross abnormalities were found. It was very much an unplanned pg and I decided I wouldn't want to burden my other DCs with LOs care, should anything happen to me or DH later in life.

So I had the early scan and the blood tests that go with it and my results came back fantastic. With that, my mind was completely at ease and I worried no more about "what if".

The tests are really fine - but I think you have done absolutely the right thing in firstly analysing what you would do if diagnosis was not good. The only thing I would say about early diagnosis is that it gives you time to get your head around it rather than perhaps having an anti-climax immediately after birth. However, it's completely a personal choice and as you say for Erin you didn't and went through the soul searching then. Why bother now - it's not that long after is is?

OK for me today(and apologies I haven't addressed other posts) I'm off to take Olivia to her last swimming lesson of the term and get a photo of her swimming underwater . Then make supper for kids to put in microwave later, get ironing (or at least some of it) done before school run and take 3 girls to horse riding. Get home at 6pm. We call it "Mad Wednesday".

Oh - and I'm going to attempt to call Crumpette in a mo too.

x

[superwoman25]

Ha Ha new I'm so glad your not broken, just be careful, look what happened to me

cant I also worry about how it would affect the others, I never did with 1-4 its weird isn't it, but I do also think If it was 1 in 2500 or 1 in 10 I could still be that 1 its just the odds are shorter, they estimate it will be about 1 in 125, which is less that 1% chance and the chance of miscarriage with amnio is 1-2% so the risk is higher that I'd lose the baby having the test. Ohhhh why did I even mention it, it drives me insane, sorry rambling I know!!!

Enjoy your busy day

tell crump we're all thinking of her x

[mama2moo]

Morning all. I hope you are feeling better today crumpette and looking forward to your new life with your ds

So, I moved babymoo onto hungried baby milk and stopped all breast feeds yesterday - Last night she slept from 7pm (just after last bottle) and I had to wake her at 7.30am this morning!!! I feel like shite though! I am not used to un broken sleep!!

Super How pg are you now? Are you showing at all yet? When I was pg with babymoo I was in maternity stuff at 8 weeks!

I so want another but it means everything would change so I think I have convinced myself not to

Everyone else ok?

[whensmydayoff]

I had a quick look at the other post (although there is 20+ pages) and am horrified at some of the stuff and don't understand them.

Why is someone going on about child porn ????????

Why is someone questioning what Crumps DD died of - it was a liver thing - right?

If any of the above are true, just give me crumps number and im going to drive from Edinburgh right now to get her??????

[CantThinkofFunnyName]

WMDO email me at CantThinkofFunnyName at googlemail dot com

[jardins]

Dear SuperParty your questions re: antenatal tests triggered strong memories dating back to July last year. DD2 is my third DC and when she was born this January I was 41 (and in fab health of course ). Having just arrived in a new region at 11 weeks pregnant last summer we were given the name of an excellent specialist who performed the 12 week scan and who told me the nuchal skin fold was excellent and in his opinion I shouldn't go for the triple blood tests as my age inegrated in the results would give me a high risk result. Here in France they take it all VERY seriously and so my DH and I trotted off to see a genetics specialist at the university hospital who bombarded us with figures and stats. I opted for the blood tests which, lo and behold, came back high risk (1/189) and it being a Bank Holiday in France I had 24 hours to decide whether I would have an amnio or not. It was a really hard decision to make Super as my DH and I didn't feel strong enough to bring up a special needs child and we like you wanted to preserve our other DCs. But I had suffered a miscarriage just before this pregnancy and I knew that I wouldn't be strong enough to terminate this pregnancy. My head said to do the amnio but my heart said no. Thankfully my DH put into words what my heart was saying: 'no to the amnio'; our wonderful ultrasound specialist booked us in for a detailed 18 scan and reassured us that the baby looked great: no 100% guarantees of course but he was nonetheless reassuring.

sorry this is a long post: as I said earlier your post touched a senstive spot in me. My humble advise would be to follow your heart on this one. It's not easy, ey? But once you make the decision you will indeed be able to enjoy your pregnancy. Have faith in yourself. Hope this makes sense.

[Newbeginning1]

ctofn - i'm glad i can make you and super laugh. It's definitely only sex and it was nice to have cuddles but DS woke up and he didn't even attempt to settle him so i had a glimpse into how things would be if we were together. It's always nice to have a bit of male attention though isn't it and he could answer the whole 'is it different now i've had DS' question. It really is a scary question to ask but i was happy with the answer TMI?!I hope when you get home after mad wednesday you have a big glass of wine

super - i agree with what ctofn has said around the impact it would have on everyone else if the test showed DS as in how much attention would Erin get if the new baby had DS etc but as you say it wouldn't alter how much you loved any of your DCs. I hope that makes sense x

mama2moo - how are you feeling about doing your last bf? I've been cutting down with DS but still want to keep going hopefully until a year but i got sad at even trying to drop down our 7/8 feeds a day to a reasonable amout. Yes, DS is a chunky monkey

mk - how are you and Nico getting on?

ali - how is Jacob and your DD?

I hope everyone else is ok. It's been one of those days today and i'll be glad when i get into bed and can start tomorrow afresh.

[CantThinkofFunnyName]

New - when I had DS 11-1/2 years ago, I was in a very similar position to you! I had "casual sex" with DS's biological father a few times after DS was born - basically because I was worried about what everything was like. "Hole like a bucket" springs to mind . Anyway, like you, I was told it was all just fine .

That prompted me to be quite happy about meeting DH 9 months later and not at all squeamish about all the fab sex that later took place with the new partner!!! Time for some of that now though would be nice .

[Newbeginning1]

ctofn - Hippos mouth was a phrase he had heard his mate use so hence my worries!!! Maybe you need to rediscover the joy of a quickie To be fair though you are always on the go so you probably dont even have time for that

[superparty]

hey all. hope you are well. I have changed my name for the last and final time, promise (well until christmas/easter/birthdays/saturdays/sundays)

Thank you jardins your post was really nice to hear IYKWIM, that we all have the same worries. I'm 37 at mo will be 38 in december so hopefully bubba don't come early. Maybe I'm naive but 1/189 sounds good to me thats like 1/2% isn't it, I wish they were as keen over here, it just seems like they couldn't care if you have the bloods don't or not, just lots of shrugging shoulders and basically its up to you, they won't even advise me. I think I will ring Janet, the mw who knows me and see what she thinks or if there are any other tests i can have earlier, I won't tell dh though[naughty emotion], might just tell my mum and then she will have sympathy for me instead of probably ringing my neck

WMDO Crump said she saw him looking at porn on his laptop but he shut it really quickly and denied it, she also heard a ladies voice left on his phone and he went crazy and hit her, and DD did die from a liver problem but he had been rough with her and he was the cause of the infection through an affair/something he caught that he passed onto DD (I really hope I've got all that right and am not speaking out of turn crump)

at new and cant for having casual sex, you naughty minxes, superparty can catagorically state that she has never done anything like that ever OMG @ hippos mouth, don't know if to laugh or cry, with all thetraffic thats been through mine

[verycherry]

Am on tenterhooks obsessing over whether ds will sleep through (ish) tonight bet I don't bloody sleep again!!!

new glad all undercarriage in order, how's jack sleeping going?

Now I can never keep up with this thread as can currently only mn from my phone as teens have taken over my pc, has a meet up been arranged for July?? Would love to come if arranged/I'm allowed?

[CantThinkofFunnyName]

Well LondonLottie is in London from Tue-Fri next week. I can only make Tuesday so have suggested that day to Lottie and others who emailed me saying they were up for it.

Just need to think about where to lunch now!! Tbh am up to my eyes next few days as we have Olivia's christening at the weekend, plus stepkids arriving from Ireland, cricket match for DS, shed load of ironing that STILL hasn't been done.. blah blah.

Anyone fancy googling some baby friendly inexpensive place to meet up that has easy access to train station servicing the north?!

[verycherry]

Can do tues, I'll google no prob which station/s will people becoming into?

[verycherry]

Well I'll google when I've wrestled ds1 off MY computer

[CantThinkofFunnyName]

Thanks VC. Well I'll be doing tube or taxi so no worries for me. New and Ali will be coming from Nottinghamshire so I presume Euston or Kings Cross St Pancras - but they of course can correct me....

MK is coming from south of the M25, presume Waterloo or Victoria...

[mistletoekisses]

Morning guys!

Just popping on quickly. I wont be able to make the meet up. Have emailed CTFN. DH has next week off, we are doing a staycation -but off seeing friends in Kent on Tues/ Weds. Boo! But am sure you lovely ladies will have a great time.

Right off to do nursery run/ shopping

Hope Crump is ok.
xx

[mama2moo]

new at hippos mouth At the mo Im feeling ok about stopping feeding. I think the fact that she is sleeping 12 hours straight at night now is helping But, I was loosing a lot of weight - 1/2lbs a day doing my low carbs diet. Since stopping I have lost nothing - Gutted! Babymoo is loving formula though and isnt looking for more after a feed. I feel proud that I fed her for 5 months.

[CantThinkofFunnyName]

MK - Boo indeed! I was looking forward to meeting my text buddy . Another time perhaps.

News on Crumpette. She has been blocked from MN and can't log on! She is hoping to make the meet-up though! x

[verycherry]

What about meeting up in one of the parks? would that be easier for people to find? If the weather is still good? Will email you further thoughts as you have everyones contact deets don't you? I can then email if you pass them on.

What does everyone else think? Picnic in the park kind of thing or cafe or ????

[CantThinkofFunnyName]

Noooo - cafe or coffee shop or nice lunch place we can have space for buggies. If we do picnic in the park it means we have to take picnic stuff as well as our paraphernalia of baby stuff and can you imagine us all going up to different groups of people trying to figure out if their MNetters or not? Parks are v big places - oooh the shame of it. . Or am I just trying to save on my own potential embarrassment here?

[verycherry]

ok, did think of potential embarrassment but was thinking of having some secret squirrel code words

Thats fine will endeavour to do my best!

[mistletoekisses]

CTFN - we can defo meet up another time. I am within the m25, so we can easily meet up in the middle somewhere.

Now - re meeting places. Depends how far you want to meet from the train station and whether you are happy to do tubes etc.

Hampstead high street (my old stomping ground) is lush. easily accessible from euston and kings cross. tons of places to eat and lots of lovely little shops to mooch around. Marylebone High street is also lovely - busier but even nicer shops. Both have Giraffe cafes which are so baby friendly, lovely food and reasonable prices. So you can have a natter and a little shop. Regents park also has a cafe, the hub but is in the middle of the park so a bit of a walk.

HTH ladies. If anyone actually wants to make a day of it in London and brave Oxford Street, then the mamas and papas cafe above the store is amazing. The only place where you can actually spend hours nattering while the little ones play on the playmats they have.

[Newbeginning1]

ctofn - are we all going to be wearing pink carnations carrying a copy of the Guardian with a yellow balloon attached to our pushchairs so we can find each other

vc - ali and I will be coming into St Pancras from Nottingham but my sister has said I could stay at hers in Cambridge the night before so we dont have as far to go Let me know if you need a hand finding a venue. Jacks sleeping is just not good. He woke up at 10pm and screamed and screamed even if someone else held him because he just wanted me and i finally got him back off at 11.58pm

mama2moo - you should be very proud that you breastfed for 5 months. It's hard work but i also think it takes courage to stop because its marks the beginning of a new part of your relationship with your LO rather than the end if that makes sense?

superparty - at casual sex. To be fair though it has been about 11 months so it's very casual You remind me of the Mum in Cheaper by the Dozen who says that after the 6th child or whatever number it was that they just walked out

Has anyone heard from Crumpette today?

I started reading the fussy baby book last night by Sears and its made me Its basically saying that i need to be with Jack a lot because if i dont address his needs now it can affect him when hes older but then on the other hand it says if you begin to resent your LO for how much youre giving to them then you need to change things but im yet to get to the chapter that tells me how so wish me luck with that

[CantThinkofFunnyName]

Am loving the sound of Hampstead High Street or Marylebone High Street or of Mamas & Papas on Oxford Street. However, thought of dragging bubs around in buggy on tube is urrggh.

However, taxis will be aplenty!

So - I guess it's LondonLottie, VeryCherry, Newbeginning, Crumpette and me... anyone else?

[sockmonkey]

Morning Ladies.

A trip to london does sound appealing, but hard to fit around the school run. Hope you have fun.

Had a bit of bad news, my mum has just been diagnosed with breast cancer. They have caught it early, it's treatable, and she should have had the op within the next 3 weeks. She knows quite a few ladies who have had it, so she's very possitive. It's just a bit of a shock for us all. My poor Dad is going to have to learn to cook! He said they can eat out or get take-aways. I've had my Dad's cooking, and I can see wisdom in his plan .