September 2014 - Into the new year!

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Shiny New Thread for a Shiny New Year.

Holls I can see Jessica's first tooth just below her gumline, and she's only 4 months too, so I don't think it's that unusual. xxx

I mentioned that he was teething and got told it was highly unlikely.

My BIL had his first tooth at 7 weeks. Some babies are born with them. My HV with 25 years experience says that although the general wisdom is that it is later she sees a significant percentage of babies with symptoms of teething from 3 months onward. She said in no uncertain terms that it wasn't unusual.

The long and short of it is this. Some babies may suffer for longer periods than others before a tooth finally appears, because like adults they are all different and may have different pain thresholds and teeth may appear at different rates.

Your GP is talking bollocks imho.

as soon as I told hv he had woken up screaming she said teething. I trust her totally she is great. also not sure the gp got the thrush thing right as I think the white she was looking at might have been bepanthan. oh and I mentioned bruise on willy and she forgot to look so I had to mention kt again and she couldn't see it but there is!! grrrrr. upshot is I rang HV and am seeing her next week. infuriating.

"Teething" is the 3-6 month version of "reflux" for 0-3 months.

Some babies have reflux. Some babies start teething early. But both terms are freely used as a poor excuse for not actually diagnosing anything more than an unsettled baby. In a "maybe it's teething..?" kind of way.

I'm sure he is teething as is my hv.

That's a controversial thing to say Fate; teething is not a sickness; reflux is (under-development or sickness...) I don't know how other babies are diagnosed for reflux, but in my experience your statement is completely wrong. Ds was checked out for more than an hour in hospital by two paediatricians; he screamed after each feed really badly, struggled to feed, was refusing to feed for around 6 hours when we went to hospital and was losing weight- after diagnosis, the simplest reflux medicine has changed everything; his screaming, his feeding and his weight gain. Poor excuse for not diagnosing what is wrong with an unsettled baby? I think not.

But this is my experience; maybe you have other personal experience ...

As for teething, the problem is it may take weeks and months for the actual teeth to appear; some babies may or may not suffer to different extent during this whole time...

Sorry totally off topic, but one for my fellow West Wing/Josh Lyman fans:

HOW much does Josh bat his eyelids??

Another off topic here; or rather late; cause I forgot to comment on my favourite subject before: Ikea

The thing about Ikea is not about its scandinavian design only, it is about this genius idea which made the GOOD & clean design and the comfort available to many people who could not afford it otherwise. How? By very carefully designing flat pack furniture which you could assemble yourself. They worked out that a big portion of the furniture cost is the time spent by workforce to assemble the furniture and this does not come cheap; whereas if you are to use a piece of furniture for say 5 years you prob don't mind spending 2 hours or even one day assembling it but paying a lot less then.

Don't assume designing flat pack is very simple; it is not; and ikea does it excellently. They are pioneers in bringing flat pack to masses and cutting the cost by not assembling; by easier transport and by mass production.

Yes they suck the life out of local furniture makers; as do the supermarkets from local shops; but at least they help very many people to make their home look nicer and feel more comfortable, many of whom could not afford it otherwise...

Yours is clearly a baby who has reflex Nazly. Lots do. My comment was not meant personally to those who do have reflux.

Sorry another question here: Do any of you have babies who are very clingy? Where I've barely left Jessica since she's been born (and especially since DH hasn't been able to do much with her since his back op so I do basically everything for her not that he did much anyway) Jessica now screams as soon as I leave the room, even if I've just gone to the loo. It's sweet in a way but I really don't want her to be this fixated on me being there the whole time as I'm hoping once DH is a bit better to start to have a bit more of a break (that massage voucher I got from my Mum for Christmas is looking at me longingly....) and that I might finally be able to have a bit of baby-free time again. However I don't like the idea of going out and her screaming for me the whole time. Anyone been through this and have any tips? Oh, plus eventually she's going to have to go to nursery when I go back to work full-time (shudders) and I think that'll be a harder transition for her if she is used to me being here the whole time. Any tips?

Apples..Josh could bat his eyelids at me all day
I am loving Scandal BUT am hugely confused by lack of WW cast except for Will Bailey who is not (obviously) Will bailey. also the way the Chief of Staffs office is set up is NOT how Leo/CJ had it.

holls I'm with you on that!

Kitkat I was worried about leaving dd as she's ebf and we've never really been apart, but DH bought me a massage voucher for my birthday and I took the plunge and left her with my mum for an hour or so. She was absolutely fine. Apparently there was a moment where Mum thought she'd realised I wasn't there but she just distracted her and dd was fine. My sister also has a really clingy baby and he's fine when she's not there, just super clingy when she is. Perhaps it will be the same for Jessica?

Nazly what is your first language? I always really like the way you phrase things in English

I'm lucky in a way as Ems not clingy at all, but she has regularly been held, fed and generally played with by lots of my friends so as long as they smile at her, she will smile back and not worry what I'm doing, which is really good as im back to work the week after next and I'd hate to think she was upset without me. She's going to family which is nice too. I've also been leaving her with her dad for a couple of hours 4 days a week while I go to the stables so she's really happy with him too and he's fab with her.
I am a lucky mummy though she is a very good girl

KitKat

Your husband should be able to interact with her, despite his op. Playing, talking, smiling, shaking rattles - that kind of thing. He could also bottle feed, cuddle, rock - even when she's screaming and crying he could try.

Some babies and children are clingy but they really should be able to be calmed by Mum and Dad at least.

Maybe think of ways to help your DH so that he and Jessica become closer?

You need to be prepared to let go as well. I know how hard it is when you know you could settle baby easily, but you need to let other people (ie your DH and Mum) try too. They will make mistakes, they will have bouts of lots of screaming. But they will get a massive sense of achievement when they manage to calm baby themselves.

If your DH isn't prepared to try with things, then really he just needs to be told to crack on. He's going to need to start doing things to solve this.

DS isn't too clingy, although I've noticed he is more and more staring at me when other people hold him. I do try and encourage other people to hold him and I've left him with my in laws frequently. He seems happy enough there. I don't think I'd leave him with anyone else yet. I'm dreading having to drop him at nursery and that's going to be in the same building where I work and not until September!!

So I've just spent a small fortune on Amazon in preparation for weaning. I want to do blw so bought a few books for recipes and to generally get some more info. Also bought a chair that I can attach to my kitchen table as I don't want a high chair and I understand that a tray is useful so I bought a mat that can go on the table in its place. £80 later...

Oooh honey what have you bought to get ready for weaning? I'm desperate to start but need to wait 6 weeks so buying something has got to be the next best thing

Just had a nose at the September 2015 antenatal thread - they have a spreadsheet with their stats! How very organised. I vaguely remember having that sort of free time!

I've looked in on that thread a few times. It's nice to remember the time, even though early pregnancy was stressful for me. It's nice to be able to look back and remember without the anxiety of living through it

Haha i clicked on the ante natal thread accidently earlier in the week. Stupidly got a little upset that it wasn't me, but then looked at A trying to have a conversation with me and realised how glad i was that he was here and the early pregnancy worry was a distant memory.

I sometimes cant believe that I was pregnant. and it's like all the panic of that time never existed. weird.

we had a v disjointed day yesterday and b had about 200ml less than usual - and threw up on me . I was a bit worried so rang 111. they said it would b an hour and a half before someone rang. 4 hours later I got a call apologising because it was v busy as it was a weekend. in the end I cancelled ring back. he was asleep - shall keep an eye on him today. that's twice I have tried 111 and had the sorry it's taken so long do you still want a doc to call phone call. in thr end I called a friend and everything she suggested made sense. the boy has has a v loud night...lots of dream like moans but when I check on him fast asleep. just been in and he was awake so hsd a cuddle and got a smile. he has gone back to sleep now!!

Sorry you had a negative 111 experience holls. I've always found them very helpful and have been given immediate assistance before. Perhaps it was because your query wasn't too urgent? Babies are sick all the time, was there a reason you were worried enough to call 111?

I bought a few things on Amazon! They are:

highchair

placemat

And a few books, a yummy discoveries one, the BLW cookbook and also an an annabel karmel meal planner one.

I've phoned 111 3 times about DS, twice they've put me straight through to nurse to decide whether he should be seen (once telling me to go to hospital, once making and out of hours appointment for me). The other time they phoned the pharmacist to check after DS ended up with his liquid medication possibly in his eye. I was happy with the service, maybe depends what the problem is or who you get through to!