December 2012: Everyone loves nap time.

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Started a new thread for us before we run out of room.

all gone quiet finally! Hope he has at least another 30 minutes otherwise he'll be a grotbag all afternoon and I want to get to the bank and the market

hales nothing like hearing that to make you appreciate what you've got.
I'm not entirely happy about stopping feeding as T loves it so much still but she's just not getting the night weaning so it looks like it's all or nothing. I really really need to get some decent sleep so it's got to go. Monday morning is my no more boob goal.
pidj hope R had a good nap.

WL it has to work for both of you

R had 10 more minutes, and I've been in 3 times in the last half hour even though he went down a dream at just gone 5

Oh no pidj hope he settles soon

Nappy twice (one messy one just wet), calpol, one just switching Ewan back on and teething powder. Have just put a dummy in a cup of boiling water in case that works. Oh and i've opened one then the second window in all my trips up there. Have also got ibuprofen in the arsenal for later, but I'm reluctant to medicate because I don't think he's actually ill just being a grumpy overtired little grotbag

Daren't hit the I need my wits about me tonight

How's everyone else doing?

Hi, long gap, just catching up. halesawful for your friend, but hurrah for the first family home!
wl sorry to hear about struggles with boob. I went cold turkey with O at 13 months and it took a week but then he just got it. 14.5 months and he was sleeping through, and settles himself. No need for cc, we just switched boob for a bottle at night and I think he wasn't as fussed about it.
pj also boo to sleep difficulties. When I read about development with R I then to note it happening to us in about 6 weeks!

O has canines just coming but is okay so far, aided and abetted by calpol.

One of my closest school friends whose daughter is 3 months younger than O is pregnant too, so our next two will be 2 months apart! Woo

In other news I am slightly anemic according to the doctor, which hopefully explains why I had a hideous crying fit on my mother after a perfectly nice afternoon. Just feel like I'm cocking up my work-life balance at the moment, doing a crap job at both, and we hardly get any family time down to me. Won't bore with details but hopefully I'll manage to clear some deadlines by the end of July and the iron will help.

pidj I genuinely feel for the poor wee over tired ones as I know that when I get overtired I can't sleep and can feel physically ill (like now!). I hope R manages to get into a good deep sleep.
I think I will have to feed T in the night tonight when she wakes as I need some sleep before I can take on the battle and I have a school mtg tom eve that I need to be awake for and means T will be late to bed. Think I'll try to dodge the morning feed and aim to not feed at bedtime from fri. It's the last vestige of my body as a baby making machine. Think there will be tears and sadness.

utopian try to be kind to yourself. Working is ultimately for O too and no one can be all things to all people. That said, I know its an awful feeling - I was there before I left my job when dd1 was about 18 months old. Imagine you are looking at yourself as a friend would - would you be such a harsh critic?

Being pregnant makes things seem a lot worse utopian as hormones are a devil.

I really struggled when pregnant with dd compared to ds and the pressure of work really got to me which eventually led me to change specialities- big change and still in the process but there's now light at the end of the tunnel and I know that like wlmum I'm working for both me & the dc's future.

Grammar in that!!
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Like wlmum said
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For mine & dc's futures
At least that what I think I meant- dd up most of the night so brain half asleep. Still in the 18 month regression! Although think the hot weather not helping either of the dc as dd asked for milk which she never does so ?thrist woke her one of those times & ds has been having nightmares whenever it's a bit stuffy overnight.

Sounds tough utopian try not to be hard on yourself!

Ds woke at 4:30 but dp dealt with it then he slept until 7:15.

Beasty (and anyone else who cares) I've spoken to my friend who's a primary school teacher and she asked her head where I stand re dd starting full time, she said:

My head says... That she has never heard if a school refusing to let a child start full time in sept unless there is an SEN reason, and as this is the case , they haven't got a leg to stand on.

Id tell them again what your reasons are, that you are sure she won't be overly tired, that she will cope and that she will be starting full time in sept, you can go to county to complain if they still won't agree , as they do have to accept them all now unless it's a properly valid special needs reason. Sure they'll say ' well we so find that the young ones get very tired' and they do but, there's no choice! You can tell them that they can always call you to pick her up if she's falling asleep in assembly or something!
Good luck- let me know know how it goes- she has the right to start full time so they are not playing by the rules if they still say no.

So there we go. I'm going to go in and just tell them that dd will be starting full time in September, with a smile on my face, and hope I don't gave to put up a fight!

Go for it spotty!! Your Dd just turned 4 a couple of months ago right? So won't even be one of the youngest.

Ds turns 3 in August so will always be one of the youngest --although compared to what everyone said to scare me- ie he'll struggle with everything etc, actually you can't tell him apart with regards to speech & things he can do compared to his friends & cousin who at the beginning of the year!
He starts preschool in sept & they've said he can just do mornings but they expect that by the time he starts proper school sept after when just turned 4 that he should have no issues with going full time.

On the other hand can see for teachers with a class of 30 can be difficult if some young ones get a bit tired & grouchy. But don't think you can just assume this will be the case

She turned four a week ago. It's a mixed reception/year one class as it's such a small school. She will be tired, but she'd be tired whenever she started. Plus some children are in nursery 8-6 five days a week from six months!

Hello old friends! I don't know why I keep losing track of this thread but hey ho, here I am. And here you all are!

Sorry to hear of some difficulties - Pidj, I hope R had a good long decent sleep. Haven't seen you for ages - how is your partner going? I think about you a bit, now and then, and what a tricky time you had of it.

Utopian, when are you due? My husband and I have just started TTC again - after it happening so quickly last time I'm a bit anxious that this is the difficult part. But I am excited for you! And don't worry about the whole home/work balance, I wonder if it ever feels right.

As for us, things are going well. I stopped breastfeeding when C was 16 months and she never looked back. Also finally started walking at 16 months too so is getting much more confident with that. We had two weeks away from her (eep) while we went to a wedding in Europe, and she was with my parents. They - and she - loved it, and while she was a bit dark with us when we got back, she's been pretty delightful since then. Except the tantrums have started (oh joy).

Anyway - I will try hard to keep up on this thread! Hope you and all the little ones are well.

Mama ds was 16 months too despite crawling at seven months and cruising at eight. He's now 19 months and can jump on the trampoline

Utopian mummy guilt sucks, i dont' have a work-life balance because I stay home with R but it still gets me fairly frequently

Spotty get your stubborn head on! You know what's right for dd and your family :) FWIW DN is very late August born and coped with full time school absolutely fine, is even ahead of the average. I've worked in KS1 a couple of times and it's quite normal for there to be a kids curled up in the book corner feeling tired/poorly.

DP is doing well, thank you. Working away at the moment which sucks big time R took his first steps at 11 months and didn't get confident till 14, and now like Spotty's is bouncing around on trampolines :o He will happily walk to and from Lidl or church which are half a mile away, with playing in between

R eventually settled at 12:30. I gave him a cuddle and some cows milk and left a dummy in there for him but I think something just clicked back into place because he then slept till 7:30, yay! He happily went down for his nap at 11:15 and is still there so fingers crossed for a decent sleep. He's been mostly cheerful this morning - and got a little wee in the toilet half way through the music class i run - so I'm feeling a bit more positive... for now

Dentist in an hour. I hate it and I feel like I'm about to cry dd has an appt too so I need to be brave a cheery

How was it Spotty?

R has been settled since I left for work at 6... He also ate well at dinner time... I have my fingers crossed and really out to throw the disgusting wine away and go to bed instead

H is still wide eyed and we have to be up amd out before 7:30am

Spotty i hope the school let you DD do full days.

Mama, hello hope your all ok. Nice to have you back.

Pidj i hope R's sleep settles again soon.

Ugh, dentist spotty. Ugh ugh ugh. I am well overdue, and should take C along for a visit.

Anyone else's little ones making weird attachments to things? C has had a monkey for bedtime since 6 months but in the last month she is obsessed with it, and also with another cuddle toy she has. She carried around 2 polystyrene packing peanuts this morning and cried when I took them away, then carried around a hair elastic for a while longer. She is oddly obsessive about stuff at the moment.

Dentist was fine I didn't need anything done, although for my £18 I don't even get a polish he said dd's teeth were really, really good and he was really pleased.

Ds has a monkey that he generally likes but he does get thrown on the floor as soon as we get downstairs in the morning!

Dd very attached to her soft toys now- has a stash in her cot and cuddles them to sleep. Takes one to nursery as it comforts her. She's become obsessed/attached to odd things too- her brothers hand me down Thomas the tank wellies, her hat etc. even in the boiling heat she has been walking around in those wellies at home and if you try to remove them a tantrum follows!

Also becoming possesive over toys- meltdown if another child tries to play with something she feels is hers. Embarrassing when at someone else's house and she decides on of their toys is hers

I'm such an idiot. All this stress about dd starting school, not only is my friend a teacher my step brother is a deputy head at primary and his mil a head. Also my bil's girlfriends mum is a recently retired primary head. Why have I only just remembered all these people?! Dd's at school now she was so excited!