Buzzy - i'm really sorry about your friends dh. Its so so sad. I hope the funeral is OK tomorrow.
This is very long... but I need to get it off my chest....
We were in teh UK at the weekend for my cousins wedding. For me it ended up being a nightmare weekend !
It started badly on Thursday evening (before we had even left) when I innocently forgot to validate my ticket when I got on the bus. Of course it was the only time I have ever seen a ticket inspector , the thing that really winds me up is that I had a ticket, I had just forgotten to stamp when I got on the bus. To add to it they get you off the bus, surround you with police, fine you (about £40 annoying - not that bad), the bus doesn't wait of course, so I had to wait in freezing -3° for half an hour for the next bus knowing that Niklas was waiting for me to pick him up at nursery and dh wasn't answering his phone so I had no one to complain to about it ! I was still stewing about it when I went to bed that night.... tnen the next day the flight was delayed, normally I wouldn't care, but it just added to the stress especially when already very tired. Then we got to the wedding 'hotel' and teh room we had was SO tiny that there wasn't enough room to put up Niklas's travel cot and the bed was so small there was no way we could sleep all 3 in it. At £70 a night I was a little annoyed, I had expected a bit more and after having had several very bad nights with Niklas teething I needed a decent bed and a good nights sleep. The place didn't ahve any bigger rooms so we tried to find somewhere else to stay, but couldn't. On returning to the 'hotel' there was some discussion because they had given our room away even though she had promised not to until we told her if we had found somewhere else , she was then very rude to us, which was absolutely not the right thing to do with someone who is stressed, very overtired with sleep deprivation. I made my point to the woman (we should have been told the rooms were not suitable for families when we booked and that it wasn't unreasonable to ask for a bottle of water, extra sheets adn towels for the baby) in quite a strong way, my mum was there (she for some reason has a problem standing up to anyone or asking anyone for anything and would rather be uncomfortable) and tried to intervene which made me really lose my temper . This was really bad as I already have a very bad relationship with my mum at the moment and I was hoping the weekend would do us some good.
After moving all the extra bits of furniture out of the room we did get Niklas's cot in, only to find that it was so draughty on the floor (its a travel cot) that he was too cold sleeping there os had to sleep with us anyway!
After the wedding dinner I had to keep running to the toilet (I was the only one that had vegetarian food so not sure if I had a bug or bad food) and ended up going to bed around 10.30 as I felt so ill. The next day I had to put up with my stupid mother, aunt and uncle telling me what I had missed, how I should have pulled myself together and enjoyed it blah blah blah..... how dh (who went to bed with Niklas at 8pm - his own choice because he was so tired) had missed seeing what a proper English wedding was... who the hell cares, there will be another one and Niklas will be older, we won't be so tired etc..... i was just disappointed not to spend more time with my brohters, sisters and children. my mum couldn't gracefully accept my apology for losing my temper but had to go on about how I had to learn to cope with stress better .... what the hell does she know about me or my life, everytime I lose my temper she seems to be there....!!! I do lose my temper sometimes (doesn't everyone????) but I really have to be pushed, dh has NEVER seen me lose my temper before and I was really upset that he had seen the worst possible side of me. Luckily it he still loves me though !
I am so happy to be home! But now I have a bad cold and Niklas cried when we left him at the nursery this morning !
On the good side, everyone thought Niklas was adorable, his top tooth is almost through and he is much happier (but still slept very badly last night) and as I had a dodgy stomach all weekend I hardly ate anything and have lost 1.5kg ! And I bought Calpol and Lemsip in the UK - can't get either here !