We must not negate our emotions nor dishonor anyone else's grief no matter what the cause.
Our astral body is the vehicle through which we humans have the ability to experience all manner of SENTIENCY. Emotions are merely one aspect of our human experience of SENTIENCY.
We must, and MUST is the critical word here, make the choice to experience each and every emotion in the immediacy of the moment and EXPERIENCE IT 100% for any residual emotion not fully experienced is ALWAYS placed within our PANDORA'S BOX which we keep safely guarded within our mental aura. This harboring of unexperienced emotion within this PANDORA'S BOX is the cause of all manner of disease and ill coming to us.
A key factor in experiencing our emotions in the NOW is that we have the opportunity to get it over and done with RIGHT THEN! And, the "RIGHT THEN" is the TIME/SPACE whereby we learn our greatest lesson from the situation which is causing us to be IMMEDIATELY OVERWHELMED by our emotion. To postpone the full 100% experienced emotion is the surest way to lose the knowledge gained from our experience. Allowing our lower, rational mind to chew on our suppressed emotions only aides and abets planetary negativity to be magnetized to our aura. By our choice to ignore and/or bury our emotions until such time as we THINK we can better handle them, we create the very thing we despise the most - our own victimization.
This is not advocating that we become raving mad or uncontrolled maniacs while experiencing any of our emotions - for I am not. To really experience any emotion, even the most vile of them all HATE, one need only RECOGNIZE it as existing within our BEING - right THEN AND THERE - and LET it just BE. Feel it, LET it exist 100% in that MOMENT and not one moment more.
When we do that, experience 100% whatever emotion we are being OVERWHELMED by, we are in control, we are in our CENTER OF POWER and from that point of CONSCIOUSNESS, we choose to LET it expend itself completely within that MOMENT OF TIME/SPACE. Sometimes we feel that we need to experience the emotion for a longer period of time but that is merely our own SELFISH need to get something more from the experience than what was to be learned.
How can one realistically in this dimension of consciousness impart this information to someone who has pain/grief?
As difficult as this may be to understand, it is a truism, we cannot ever "reason" with anyone who is CENTERED WITHIN THEIR ASTRAL (EMOTIONAL) BODY. There is no reasoning with anyone when they are choosing to experience their emotionalism. It is a physical impossibility for their MIND is no where to be found in that STATE OF BEING. We can only "reason" with a person when they, themselves, have made the choice to cease living within their astral vehicle as their only reality. Once a person has made the choice to become responsible for their thoughts, emotions and actions, then we can reason with them and teach them how to healthily experience their emotions - even their deepest grief.
There is also another misconception, that is to think that one can never again experience grief, anger, etc. over a situation. Since we are at the stage of our human development whereby our lower mind has the unique ability to "re-call" or "re-member" specific incidents of pain - such as the grief over the loss of our loved ones, we are prone to our astral vehicle being thrown IMMEDIATELY into the emotion of grief at the mere thought of our loved one. It is absolutely "OK" to experience "anew" another MOMENT IN TIME whereby we need only RECOGNIZE it as existing within our BEING - right THEN AND THERE - and LET it just BE. Feel it, LET it exist 100% in that MOMENT and not one moment more. It's tantamount to having a really great sneeze and feeling so good after it is done!
When the grief OVERWHELMS and simply LET it BE experienced 100%. When the grief is completely expended, you can have a great little chat about love and life´s lessons.
There are times of short temper and impatience that have OVERWHELMED and the emotions run amuck. Every single time that these emotions are not honored, experienced 100% in the immediacy of the MOMENT, the astral vehicle became the bully in ones life. To gain control over it and its need to dominate the consciousness, don´t feel GUILTY over the slip up. Do not feed it any negative type of thoughts or thought forms to sustain its bully control over life. Each and every time those slip ups occur, jump back and chill out over the mis"use" of astral and mental substances - laugh at how easy it is to start "braying".
Monitoring our thoughts and emotions by being the Master of them both is exactly what life is all about in the first place. If we cannot truly control our astral body and our mental body and make our CONSCIOUSNESS the MASTER of them both, then we cannot ever attain the title of SHAMAN or MASTER OF THE WISDOM. We are in our POWER when we make the CHOICES of which thoughts and emotions by which we live our lives.
Neither our astral body (for it has an elemental consciousness of its own which is also egged on by many differing kinds of entities residing within the astral realm) nor our mental body (it, too, has an elemental consciousness of its own which is also egged on by many differing kinds of entities residing upon the lower mental realm) are to be the CENTERS OF POWER in our Earth life, they are to be merely vehicles of expression whereby we SENSE life through them and their special attributes. Our CENTER OF POWER is in our higher MENTAL BODY - that part of our SOUL which resides within the CAUSAL REALM. It is through our higher MENTAL BODY, our INTUITIVE mind, that we EXPERIENCE and EXPRESS our DIVINE POWER.
An instinctual trait which we lost was the ability to COGNIZE - RECOGNIZE the "frequency" subtleties that are occurring within the astral realm. INSTINCT IS AN ASTRAL BODY FUNCTION and has nothing to do with mind. It is our greatest asset for KNOWING what is occurring around us in the etheric and astral realm - if we recognize it, honor it and ultimately use it correctly. The problem, however, is that from early childhood we have been programmed to dishonor our "gut" chakra sensations (instinct) and many have lost the ability to RECOGNIZE it as it is occurring daily in our lives. What has been lost is the ABILITY TO RECOGNIZE ? not the instinct itself.