I think the world would look quite fundamentally different if there was a benign God. For example, why all the reproduction and death? Surely a benevolent God would create a fixed number of intelligent beings to live in a paradise, that he/she/it would love dearly and have a personal relationship with, who wouldn't have to suffer, learn hard truths and then finally die. I just don't buy that free will or a meaningful life demands the savagery we see in the natural world (by which I mean, the world as it is apparent to us).
I have young children, in a way I'm their God - to them I'm omnipotent, omniscient and the most important relationship (alongside their dad) in their lives. They have free will though I'm still the boss. Just because they sometimes do things wrong doesn't mean I would ever willingly expose them to the kind of cruelty and death that exists in the natural world. If I could make the world a better place for them, make it so they didn't have to lose loved ones and eventually die themselves, I absolutely would. I also have 3 of them. If it was possible, I wouldn't choose to have 7 billion children because why that many? How could I even know them all? So if God is meant to exist, what's the deal?!
So I'm guessing, to think that a benign God makes sense, I would have to be made aware of a paradigm shift in what the world is. For example, if it was established that there are only a limited number of consciousnesses, that are immortal, we spend nearly all of our time with God being loved in paradise, and we just get recycled through this mortal coil so we have something more to talk about in paradise - like playing a video game. But even this is hard to rationalise - there are billions of us, why would God create so many? Our population is expanding, where is all the extra consciousness/ souls coming from and why would God have a desire to make them? Where do other sentient but not as sentient beings such as ourselves come into this? For example dolphins, dogs, elephants? Why aren't humans just better - less cruel, less petty, less tribalistic etc? These feel like survival traits in a natural selection model, not the best kind of sentience that could be created by an infinitely wise and kind God. And what about lives that just don't make sense in this model - ones that are not only terrible, but also boring and lacking in meaning. For example, surely there is no point to reincarnating as one of those poor children in the Romanian orphanages, who died without even developing language because of appalling neglect?
I think those who have a belief in a benign God have more questions to answer than those who don't, respectfully. I can understand the concept is comforting but it doesn't make a lot of sense.