@Flangelica
If you don't mind me asking, as a Christian in a same sex relationship have you had any negative experiences in your church community or from other Christians, or is everyone very open-minded and accepting?
I've not had any negative experiences in my church community, though I'm not openly 'out' (my partner vary rarely comes to church). Those who do know (including the vicar and readers) have been nothing but affirming and including. I'm not naive enough to think everyone will be the same. Given the demographic of the church, it's likely there will be some in the congregation who will disapprove, but I can live with that. As long as the message 'from the top' is that all are welcome, and they're prepared to stand by that and actually mean it, that's ok.
Negative experiences from other Christians? Yes - and generally evangelical christians. That's why I don't go to that sort of church!
I was wondering if you don't take yhe bible literally, where do you personally draw your information from - how do you decide which parts to take literally and which to not? Do you take any of the bible literally?
You say a little further down in your post that you were always taught to take the bible very literally, and I'm wondering if that really is true. Is it just the new testament you take literally, or the old as well? Would you and your husband take the verses in Lev 15:19-33 literally, for example? And if not, why not? Where do you decide to draw the line?
I'm not trying to be sarcastic or argumentative here; I don't think anyone takes the entire bible literally - it would be nightmare, for a start! We all make decisions on where we draw the line, even those who claim to take it literally.
(There's a really good book on this I read earlier in the year called 'The year of living biblically' by AJ Jacobs, a jewish chap who tries to live literally as per the bible. It's really interesting to see what he wrestles with, and how the laws set out in the torah are explained and expanded through the talmud, and may not actually mean what we (as christians) think they mean on first reading).
I think it needs to be remembered what the bible is, when it was written, by whom and for whom. Paul, for example, when writing his letters, was not thinking 'one day this will be scripture and people will read it in hundreds of years time'. He was responding to quite specific situations in churches or writing to them about their circumstances.
Does that mean they should be discounted entirely? No. I think it's a bit like someone reading letters my grandparents wrote me when I was a kid. Some of the stuff is specific to that time - talking about a christmas present they gave me, for example, or somewhere I'd been, but other parts of it are more 'universal'; that nature is lovely, how to look after plants, that God loves us (my GPs were christians).
I think the bible's like that. Some of it is specific to a particular time (like the stuff in Leviticus about periods, or Paul talking about women praying with their heads covered (I don't know any women who does that these days). But a lot of it, about how you should treat people, loving one another, social justice, generosity, mercy, humility and so on, are more 'overarching' themes and threads which are relevant to us today, imo.