Wearing hijab/ headscarf and modest clothing , if not Muslim

[Charliescar]

I am 40 and love the idea of being modest , like Muslim women .
Would you be offended if your were a Muslim and I dressed like this ?

The only caveat would be to ensure you weren’t wearing ‘modest dress’ to actually draw attention to yourself!

@bsc ‘how happy does HM look there!’ She outside and probably looking at a horse! 😁

Bookmum - just to add a lot of orthodox Jewish women actually wear headscarves and wraps too, not just wigs

Suggest you wear a headscarf like Pakistani women used to before 9-11 made Wahabbism black / white burkhas and abayas all the rage. Loose, airy, preferably designer, and casual - less of a hair / head covering and more of a throat / chest covering.

Alternatively you could wear it Indian style pinned on the shoulder.

If my jeans are not loose enough, does that mean I am dressed immodestly? Do I need to be showing primary/secondary sexual characteristics to be immodest, or does anything hinting at my body shape do it?
In other words, have a fashion called loose clothing if you want, but the minute you call it modest you are opening up a whole can of words about what you think of other women.

OP if you're interested in head covering there's an amazing Facebook community called wrapunzel. They welcome everyone - so there's Muslims, Jews, Christians, witches, people who cover for medical reasons like chemo and alopecia and those who just want to try it because they like it. Lots of people wrapping for a lot of different reasons. It's really welcoming and interesting

It's your head. You can wear what you like.

Thanks all .
I like the look of modest clothing . I am not religious . I actually think people look better with more clothes on 😂
I really love the hijab an Abaya

I am also quite a private person and I like to keep me for me !
I do worry about what people would say ! I live in a small city

As someone who suffers from alopecia I've looked into hair wrapping in the event I loose it all (so far it's just been patches but that day may come). Many woman wear head wraps for a variety of reasons - religion, health, cultral or simply a bad hair day. So go ahead and give it a go. Be prepared though that some people may think you are doing it because you have cancer though especially if they know you beforehand. It's usually the first thought that comes to most peoples mine

If you're worried about what people will say why not invest in a nice coat, scarf and hat? Will suit your wish for modesty but isn't connected with a particular religion or culture. Ditto a maxi skirt, palazzo pants, blouses, long cardigans and maxi dresses.

I am a Muslim. I wouldn’t be offended; lots of people dress modestly anyway.

Modesty in clothing is one aspect of the Arabic term which is translated to the English word ‘modest’ (haya)- and we all ‘observe’ it in different ways...from looser clothes to Arabic dress, varies between cultures.

At a certain point in my life I used to wear a hijab/scarf over my hair on fridays (jummat) as a way to promote religious tolerance.

I think my colleges thought I was a bit crazy but I didn’t care.

LotusInspired - I think that was quite brave I of you! wearing hijab can be daunting for many Muslim girls/women who are worried about what people might say!

OP - in our faith, although dressing modestly (headscarf/clothing) is a part of our faith, we also believe it stems from a person’s innate nature to incline to be ‘modest’.

It wouldn’t be considered cultural appropriation (in any case Muslim women from around the world dress differently according to their country etc) You would be viewed as someone who is connected/in tune to their innate nature (‘fitrah’).

I wore a full on burkha veil etc when I was hiding out from my ex husband I got loads of looks but surprisingly no abuse from his family and friends he didnt "bump into me on accident" it was very peaceful

I think each to their own - if you want to dress modestly then go for it.

Personally I'm agnostic- I think if there is a god who created us then they would be proud of their creation & happy for the body to be shown off.

I can’t imagine anyone being offended if you wear a headscarf.

And frankly in the UK in February, being covered from head to foot is just common sense.

Wouldn't be offended at all. It's your choice of clothing.
The UK wore similar clothing. I saw a video about it recently. A headscarf, loose, long clothes.
I also saw a video/podcast by a lady who went to the church and read the Bible and wanted to wear a headscarf to be like Mary peace be upon her. They were not happy with her choice and said it's not for today's times and that's what led her to Islam but she didn't even know about Islam when she chose to wear a headscarf.
If you want to wear it, it's your choice and no one will judge you.

Dressing modestly (although surely the meaning is subjective) is done by people from many cultures and religions and so is head covering, if you want to do it go for it. But if you are not Muslim I don't think you should call it hijab, it doesn't just mean a headscarf to us.

I've always dressed modestly, I was brought up that way and don't feel comfortable showing flesh.
I wouldn't cover my head for anyone though, I spend too much at the hairdressers. I want to show it off.

“Modest” is subjective.

It sounds like you mainly want to wear a hijab or similar? But without being part of a culture where many women do so.

Op, feel free to wear what you want. If you come across idiots ignore them and enjoy the clothes you feel comfortable in. Be aware of health and safety issues, when putting on hijab pins.

In this strange world some Muslim women are shunned for wear the hijab and others for not wearing it. I personally know few people in both camps. It is mainly other people trying to control what a young woman is wearing. Wear what you want within reason and enjoy.

I see burka making a temporary come back instead of wearing a disposable face mask, or something similar for those environmentally concerned (or pay check dictates).

"Modesty" has nothing to do with how you cover yourself. You just want to cover yourself in a lot of clothes because YOU think it signals virtue. You are free to do whatever you like.

My church considered their required ‘modest clothing’ to be baggy trousers (full length) not at all shapely, or a full length baggy skirt. Items preferably to be teamed with baggy over-blouse or baggy cardigan or jumper. Nothing fitted anywhere basically. Jeans were considered too tight and banned. Arms to be covered as well as legs.

I just felt frumpy the whole time.