Can't have who I want as godparents as they aren't my religion....

[karen99]

Hi all, I'm hoping for some advice please. We are hoping to get our ds baptised this autumn, however, after speaking with the Reverend she said that the godparents must have been baptised themselves. With many of our close friends coming from a different background to ours it's been very difficult to find someone to fill this role and we have resulted in choosing our own siblings (ds' aunt and uncles) as godparents, solely as they have been christened/baptised. We feel they will already be a big part of ds' life and we really wanted two of our closest friends to be 'godparents' even though one has been christened and the other a buddhist. We wanted someone beyond family to fill this role.

Is there another type of ceremony (religious or not religious) that we can hold (aswell as the baptism) to show them how much we'd like them to be part of ds' life? Any advice on this would be appreciated.

when we christened our dd, we had 2 godparents that had been christened themselves and 2 'sponsors' (at the vicar's suggestion) who were not christened / different religion. They stood up in the church and did everything the godparents did but they were not given the Godparent's certificate thingy so I gave pretty cards to all of them from dd to her 'godparents'

Hi Karen (again!)

We didn't have ds christened for the reasons in the DB site you posted. It's ds' decision to make, not ours although we're both committed Christians, but we really did want some kind of celebration that he was here.

We had a dedication service at our church. We chose the songs and I had a CD played of a song that meant a lot to me and dh. The pastor prayed for us as a family for help and wisdom in bringing ds up and also a big thank you that he got here safely.

We had a buffet afterwards and a big white cake. Both families (not church goers) were fascinated by the whole thing, but eventually got the idea that this wasn't a christening. Most relatives even tracked down dedication/thanksgiving/celebration cards instead of traditional christening ones which we appreciated.