elderflowerlemonade - how are you doing? I think that everyone who has posted here has been genuinely trying to help, and I think that everyone has something to offer...
I do have faith, and I do believe that God cares about your situation, and loves you, as saturn says, for yourself and as yourself - not only if you follow some sort of pattern of model behaviour. As springy says, we all mess up all the time, but I believe that God's love is unconditional and (luckily) doesn't depend on what we can offer Him in return.
At the same time, I also believe that God works through the people we have around us in the here-and-now. That's why I don't think that it's anachronistic to reply to your question about whether God can help you, by suggesting counselling, ADs, or whatever... because it may be that these are the things that God's offering you right now as a way forward and a first step towards feeling better. Likewise posting on here... if people, of faith or otherwise, can offer a hand of friendship and care, one way of thinking of that might be to see it as one of the ways in which God Himself reaches out to you.
In other words, I think we are all saying fundamentally the same thing, though we may be coming at it from different directions. Let's keep the debate elsewhere and see if we can be supportive here. I hope you don't mind, but I've given you a mention over on the prayer thread too. Thinking of you!