Thanks Dandy, Totally, Madangel. Was a bit worried I was just pissing everyone off with annoying atheist-on-an-Alpha-course questioning. But if you are still interested let's keep going.
So it sounds like the Adam and Eve question is a red herring in terms of thinking about god as creator. I guess what I am really asking about is how you as theists (as well as Francis Collins etc..) reconcile belief in a creator god and what we know about evolution.
The basics of Christian theism then are that God (1) created the universe (2) is good (3) has a special relationship with human beings as individuals. Is that right?
And if you accept evolution the idea is presumably that god somehow lit the touchpaper, set the underlying laws of physics and watched it unfold (at the same time being all-knowing, non linear etc..presumably knowing how it would turn out?)
My problem is, not as you say Dandy with with waste of sperm (!) or even with loss of species, but with the pain, anguish and misery routinely felt by sentinent, conscious, compassionate individuals. This is not just an accident or contingent on human choices. If you believe there is a god who chose evolution as his mechanism to create us then it is part and parcel of the design.
Humans would not have evolved as good parents if generations of individuals hadn't suffered the death of an infant. Humans would not have evolved as inventive problem solvers if so many hadn't died of hunger, humans would not have evolved as loyal community builders if we didn't live in environments beset by risk, conflict, predators and limited resources, humans would not have evolved to care for our bodies and for the sick and weak if illness wasn't horribly painful (this doesn't suggest that these are reasons why individuals should be made to suffer in this way, our goals as individuals are not to further the evolutionary process, and if it was really masterminded by an all powerful god that loves us as individuals surely he could have gone about it another that way...?)
Similarly rivalry, infidelity etc.. are not just not just human choices, they are key mechanisms that have driven evolution. Without them 'we' wouldn't have turned out like this. So to say that god 'created' us this way through evolution but actually had strong views that we really should act in another way seems to set up an inescapable contradiction.
Why would a loving god create a world like this? It seems quite sadistic.
Dandy you say that this may be the only physically possible option. But that does beg the question who made the rules like this. It just seems inconsistent to say that a god who can create the universe, read minds, perform miracles, extract personalities and memories from the physical brains that give rise to them etc... is so constrained by the laws of physics (who created them?) that they could not create humans without torturing them in the process.
Or you say (Dandy) again that without pain and suffering life would be a Truman Show style sham. Well maybe so, but then isn't that true also of heaven - which theists argue is more important and lasts infinately longer than life on earth ? Or indeed, with that reasoning, what is the point of industrial progress, medicine etc...by that reasoning would we be better off with more suffering?
I don't rcognise your picture of 'ultra darwinists' not valuing human life and well being or thinking that people should be driven by the demands of 'the selfish gene'. That would mean you could use that argument to condone rape for example, or killing of sexual rivals ('i was furthering my genes' interests, your honour') I don't see any 'ultra darwinists' doing that.
Theism says that the mechanism of our creation and the source of our sense of meaning and moral code come from the same place (god). Thats what gets you into this pickle. Evolution does not explain 'the meaning of life' just how it came into being. We make our own meaning. Without an idea of god there is no need to try to read morality into natural history. In reality the universe is neither cruel nor kind. It just is, and we are here by happy accident. Totally, you seem to be saying that in your post, but then just totally partioning this knowledge from what you think about god.
Just because the process that led to us being here was not conscious or moral or forward thinking doesn't debase the fact that we are.