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Shirley's Party Advice Part 7 - how did they all get so big...

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stealthsquiggle · 26/09/2013 14:45

Part 7 - link to previous one to follow!

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Blatherskite · 27/01/2014 10:06

I agree with Stealth.

Assuming they're not doing anything majorly messy beforehand, I would suggest it but not push it if there were easy facilities nearby or maybe stand with a bottle of alcohol gel and try to get everyone with a squirt before/as they sit down.

I think I'd avoid place cards too. It would be fun at a smaller party when they're all 'next' to each other but at a big party, you're likely to get lots of seat swapping if they feel like they're not next to their best friends.

I tend to do 3 jugs of drink for parties - 2 of weak-ish orange and blackcurrant squash and 1 of water. This seems to cover most kids and I've not had any complaints yet.

Stealth - for Science lunch, I'd be tempted to bag up a packed lunch in a paper bag and label it "Lab Lunch" or something rather than serving things in petri dishes. I am a bit uncomfortable about serving things in lab equipment too. I think if I do it, I'd have about 10-12 max. I'm already nervous about controlling them all as it is!

Party bags - I'm not sure. Will have a look....

Someone was raving about bowling parties the other day - so tempted to wimp out.

slp123 · 27/01/2014 22:10

Hi,
just starting to think about planning DD's 5th birthday party (April) and I am sure I will have lots of questions but tonight I was thinking about putting the food in a party box.

We went to a party on Saturday where they did this and it all seemed to go fine...have had a quick look on eBay and it looks like it would cost about 40p per box, which then seems a bit silly to spend 40p (x20 children) for the boxes to then be thrown away as soon as food finished. Also it is a lot of rubbish too if you see what I mean.

Does anyone have any other ideas, tried anything else that has been easy like the party box idea?

Thanks

Blatherskite · 28/01/2014 20:01

I've never done party boxes. I was a bit put off by the waste too. Could you find a cheaper alternative? We've all become fans of using paper take away style bags for party bags as they're cheap and easily customisable. Could you use something like that instead?

Blatherskite · 28/01/2014 20:30

Right, I have to sort DS's party out soon or everything is going to be booked up.

I've been through the options with him tonight and he's said no to pretty much everything. We're down to 3 options I think:

  1. The only one of my options he liked was the suggestion of a bowling party. The local lanes will do a party for 6 kids for less than £70 that includes an hours bowling and food. I'd have to do cake and party bags.

Pros - It's cheap. It's easy. He likes the idea. It avoids me having a house full of kids. It feels like a 'party'. A friend went with their Son last week and said the staff there were really, really good (they didn't have food)

Cons - As stealth might have seen on FB, this is the party where the lady on the phone automatically suggested "Jugs of Diet Coke" as a suitable alternative when I asked if they could have something other than Fruit Shoots!. It feels like a bit of a cop out. The food is the standard pizza, chips, chicken nuggets type stuff that these places usually serve and could be awful. I have no idea what I'd put in party bags or what cake I'd make.

  1. DS's suggestion which I think is unworkable - Going to the cinema to see The Lego Movie. I'd guess he Hot Dogs and sweets to eat.

Pros - Fairly simple to do.

Cons - DS's birthday is a month after the movie comes out. He is desperate to see it so not only would I have to string him out for a month to see the movie, but I'd have to hope his friends hadn't seen it either - assuming it's even on for that long! One of the little boys I am sure DS would want to invite doesn't cope well with the volume and darkness in the cinema and tends to only go when he can accompany his cousin to an Autistic screening. There is 1 of these screenings a month and it unlikely to be the right movie even if it ends up being near the right day. It's expensive.

  1. DS is also desperate for The Lego Movie video game and we were thinking of buying it for him for his birthday. This is out in February too but I can probably make him wait until his birthday for it. It would be his birthday present from us. If we buy this and 1 more controller (and it's 4 player!) he could have 3 friends over to play the game for an evening. I thought maybe I could do food for them and maybe spend the money saved on having a big party on a reasonably sized Lego model from the movie for each child. They can build it when they arrive as it's a descent staggerable activity for late arrivals. I'll feed them and then give them an hour on the video game before sending them home with the toy in a goody bag with a pack of sweets - hell, I'll probably even be able to get themed sweets by then!

Pros - Cheap. Easy-ish. DS has been asking for a party at home since DD had hers - he really enjoyed having everyone over and thought the party was brilliant. I can legitimately keep it to 3 friends without feeling mean. I don't have to try to crowbar DD in somehow. We can have it whenever we want.

Cons - I have to have them all here. It doesn't feel like a 'party' somehow. Would that even work as a party?

Ha! That was long! I really need to decide soon though. Help!

Blatherskite · 28/01/2014 20:58

Update - The Lego Movie game is only 2 player so that wouldn't work. We could potentially use his other favourite - Minecraft - though. You can get Minecraft Lego or I could stick with sets based on the movie.

stealthsquiggle · 28/01/2014 21:46

Option 3 could work for 5-6 if there is a part of the general which is fairly short and sharp and they could play each other in a round-robin, with non-players either watching or working on their models?

No science party then Sad?

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stealthsquiggle · 28/01/2014 21:47

General? Game.

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Blatherskite · 28/01/2014 22:02

Not this year. Couldn't sell him on it.

If this Lego game is anything like the others it'll be a long winded story to follow so no option for quick games against each other. 4 player Minecraft is probably the best bet.

slp123 · 28/01/2014 22:36

thanks, I used the take away bags for party bags last year. they looked great.
I've actually hit another hurdle as local hall I was hoping to book is unavailable so now trying find reasonable venue or there won't be a party! !Sad

stealthsquiggle · 28/01/2014 23:27

True - all the Lego games seem to be the same. Minecraft it is (that has passed us by)

I will be putting together the "science party in a box" for you for next year from all the leftovers from DD's then Grin.

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slp123 · 29/01/2014 22:39

Hooray have found a venue!

Any unusual/quirky invitation ideas?

ThanksSmile

stealthsquiggle · 30/01/2014 07:03

Do you have a theme, slp?

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slp123 · 30/01/2014 14:00

No theme at the moment. She loves Disney Frozen (at the moment) but am thinking this could be too specific and also there will be at least 9 boys there.
The entertainer is very good at adapting to the things she likes i.e. Princesses, TV shows etc
Last year we wrote on a blackboard something like 'Please come to my birthday party', she held it up and we took photo that we turned into invite.
I was just thinking something a bit more interesting/different from the normal invite but maybe we need a theme first?
Thanks again

stealthsquiggle · 30/01/2014 21:33

All of my more "inventive" invitations have been tied to the theme - so rolled up invitations in test tubes for science party, decorated wooden spoons for cooking party, scratch art dragons for dragon party, mirror writing for secret agent party, slabs of clay with details embossed in for pottery party. What this basically means is that I am incapable of coming up with interesting ideas without the theme. Trouble is, if you "theme" the invitations then you are creating an expectation of a themed party Grin

Scratch art was quite fun - you could get some random scratch art kits from Baker Ross (whichever ones are cheapest) and scratch the details into those - I did then laminate mine, though, as I was afraid they wouldn't have any details left by the time they got home otherwise.

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themessyapron · 03/02/2014 16:39

For my not-a-wedding party we sent postcard invites. No need for envelopes! It helped that DP is a designer. They were designed to look like chalk boards on the picture side with a black/grey back and different fonts for the lettering in white. On the back we stuck the line in to separate writing and address and printed the email for rsvps. Then hand wrote the invite bit to personalise each one. I really like them.

Quick opinion please folks - we want to get the first round in at our party which is next Saturday. Have discounted champers as not everyone likes it (fools!) and was worried about regulars in the pub trying to stick drinks on a tab. Are drink tokens ok? eBay have some fun looking drink tickets - they look a bit like raffle tickets/old fashioned cinema stubs. Do you think it'd be ok to stick them in a bowl with a little blackboard sign saying 'have a drink on us'? Or is it a horrid idea? I suggested it to DP and he's already ordered some online!

themessyapron · 03/02/2014 16:40

Oh and if it is ok is putting them in a bowl ok? Not sure how else we can 'present' them.

Am also worried we're forgetting loads of stuff for the party...

slp123 · 03/02/2014 21:14

Ok so we have a couple of options (DD's 5th) and I am after some advice...
a) party starts 2pm, entertainers do 45 mins, quick drink break then 45 mins followed by party tea, cake and home (this is as suggested by entertainers)
b) party starts at 2pm, entertainers for 1hr, party tea and cake, we do last 30 mins or so - pass the parcel maybe.
c) pay entertainers to stay for two hours, 1hr games etc, food (entertainers still there), they do last 30 mins

We are happy to pay the difference but not sure which best option. Also how do you signal the end of party so the children leave swiftly rather than racing round large hall etc.

Thanks Smile

slp123 · 03/02/2014 22:51

meant to ask if it a bit strange to have food right at end and then that it?

Tinkerisdead · 04/02/2014 22:14

Hello all.

I'm in the midsts of messy play party week and the landlord of this "new" house has served notice cos he wants to sell. Not even been in 6 months yet! Arghhh

Anyway, I'm in the middle of making a playdoh effect slice of cake, cake. And my house is full full full of sensory tubs, flour, playdoh, paint etc and then dd2 says "me have party soon, me wait for my pizza to cool down," arghhh she's thinking she's getting a pizza party too!

Right, I've tried skim reading who's having a science party I'm confused.
Blathers for Lego film party does your cinema do private viewings that you could have a smaller group and make it autism friendly. They bring the lights up and dip the sound a bit.

Tinkerisdead · 04/02/2014 22:17

Messy apron I've done drinks tickets at many old works do. You ideally need to give a set number by hand to each person otherwise you get some idiots taking ten each.

Have you got a "best man/usher" type bod that can be trusted to hand them out? It's a great way of getting everyone a drink though.

Paintyfingers · 04/02/2014 22:19

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Tinkerisdead · 04/02/2014 22:21

SLP I've always done your option b. saves me money on the entertainers costs. After entertainer I've gone food, cake and candles, (someone takes it away to cut up) games. They have a five minute go mad slot at the end of the games to which you bring out party bags with the cut up cake and they all ransack you and leave.

Tinkerisdead · 04/02/2014 22:23

Blathers I just re-read your ideas. Have it at home!!! More intimate. Less pressure. Home!!

themessyapron · 04/02/2014 22:43

No we don't have anyone like that TheDoctors... Was just going to let people pick one up each.... Maybe I'm being naive not trusting our friends?!

Lynx27 · 05/02/2014 13:51

Hello

Really love this thread. Getting tons of ideas but would appreciate an expert opinion on a couple of things

I am planning my DD's 5th birthday party in April. I have booked a local hall and think we will have about 25 kids.DD asked for a mermaid cake so am thinking of an Under The Sea theme. She loves octonauts and the aquarium too...

I would like to do a craft activity as part of it because DD loves that kind of thing. Do you think it is over ambitious to do sun catcher painting with this age? I think DD could do it but I know that is her forte.. It looks like I have to bake them too???. Would I be better doing painting mini treasure chests or making sea creature masks? (All on Baker Ross site)

Are there any photos of the pirate ship table mentioned on here a while ago? Sounds a lovely idea I might nick!

Have to do more thinking about games but if anything brilliant occurs to you, please let me know!

Thank you v much