Do you think younger brothers and sisters should be invited to class 6 leavers party?

[RTKangaMummy]

We are organizing a party for the class 6 on their last night ie at the end of their time in junior school

It is for all of class 6 {11 year olds}

It is a disco

most of the parents with younger children think that it is NOT for them cos their time will come in few years time

Which is what we think but we don't have younger ones

BUT one mum was really bitchy when we gave out the details today saying that she thought it was a family occaision and that the younger DD should be allowed to come

ERRRRRRR no it is for all the class 6 children not for class 3, 2, 1 or reception

What would you think?

Would you be annoyed and expect the younger ones to go?

I just know that she is going to bitch about me and DH now all around the class. There will be one other family that will think the same as her but I think most of the others think that it is a party for the class 6 leavers.

After all we have done all the organization booking hall etc and she has done nothing to help.

What do the court of MN say?

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Its for the leavers, not the ones that are going to be there for the next 2 3 4 years. Leavers do. End of.

The court says - that woman is a silly twunt.

Forget about her.

Deffo only for the older ones. At least you are in the majority

Can't understand her problem? It's a leaving party for 11yr olds - why should they have little kids at their party?

No, the disco is for the leavers, no their siblings. The woman is a fruit. Both DS1 and DS2 had a yr6 leaving disco at their Primary school, it was done for the leavers by the teachers. We as parents just rocked up and picked them up at 9 when it finished. The kids had a more formal leavers assembly where families (including little ones) were invited.

She is very influencial and talks to everyone and thinks she is the bees knees

And people listen to her

There is a special lunch/picnic tomorrow and I know my ears will be burning

She will try to sway them over to her point of view

If there are birthday parties she expects her DD to be included too

But for DS birthday party which was also a disco DS friend {the brother in class 6} came but did not invite the little sister

But for other parties she just turns up and stays {she is in class 3 so about 7/8 years}

She must annoy the others though plus why should the party be according to her when it's for the 11yr old leavers? Good luck with this.

There is formal stuff at school but this is been organized by DH and me and another mum in a local church hall

and I put on the info sheet that if they had someone to look after the younger ones AT HOME then their help would be very welcome

The party is from 6 - 8pm

And the people who run the church hall were very specific on how many children and what ages

so DH said it was 25 x 11 year olds

if all the siblings come it raises it to 37 children

Thanks guys for your support

you are deffo brill

I was feeling guilty because she is probably thinking cos we don't have other children that we were vitimizing the younger ones or the families that do have them

iyswim

No way, and I suspect the older children won't want therin younger brothers/sisters gatecrashing their party!

Don't worry about this woman. She sounds nutty.

No it would swell the numbers too much. The year 6's shouldn't be out-numbered - it is their special occasion.

She's being a silly moo. Ignore her. Party should be for Yr 6 children only.

RTKM, my view on this FWIW is that I feel really sorry for her dd1, she is 11 years old and never allowed to enjoy a friends party or occasion without her little sister there. IMO it is important for children of her age to be able to have thier own bits of fun and feel grown up without siblings.

I wonder what will happen when it is her dd2 turn for a yr6 leavers, do you think dd1 will be invited to that too? (after all it is a "family" ocassion).

Stick to your guns, she clearly has some odd ideas (IMO!) and shouldn't be allowed to ruin this for you or teh children who are looking forward to it (oh and her dd1 will probably thank you for it too )

Thanks guys

She has a DS1 who is about 16, then comes DS2 -- 11 years then DD1 who is 7 or 8 years.

But DS1 {16 year old} has an attitude and wouldn't want to come even if he was asked

I would have a bad attitude too if my mother had such cloying family values!

Smile sweetly and stick to your guns, you're right.

and anyway YOUR PARTY FOR THE LEAVERS = YOUR RULES!

yes probably why he does

She is soooooooo powerful in the class deffo alpha mum

Lol @ alpha mum

I said that to DH it was our idea and she knew about it months ago but did nothing to organize it

So yes IMHO it is our rules but I don't want people to be bitchy about it all

no. its an occasion for yr 6 and the other mother is a knob

our yr 8 leavers party is in our garden. Def no siblings and even my own younger 2 are going to Granny for the night. Its their special night, they have enough of younger siblings the rest of the year!

No way. It's not a family occasion at all!

This morning she smiled at DH and this afternoon I was talking to another mum and she spoke to the other mum and I spoke to her and she did answer me

DH was talking to another mum with a younger brother in class 2 and she deffo was on our side

Haven't had a reply from the other mum who would be expecting her younger DD to join in

RITE OF PASSAGE is deffo brill phrase

Thanks for all support