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notasheep · 2006-01-14T20:43:30+00:00

dd had 6th birthday party today,great time and saved a fortune. I bravely didnt do party bags and only one guest(out of 19) said WHERES MY PARTY BAG?!!!!!!!! Look,I am not a meaney,just hate the things. Any body else manage to avoid them?

KBear · 04/02/2006 21:47

I must have evolved in the 80's - at my birthday parties in the 70's we had a piece of cake wrapped in a serviette and be lucky! It was always nicely squashed by the time you got home too!

jennifersofia · 04/02/2006 22:04

So, two things: can someone explain the cake in the bag thing to me? Do you blow out the candles, serve out slices of cake and later put another slice in a bag for each child to take home? Alternatively, does each child get one slice only which goes right in the bag? If so, does that mean you sort of do the cake thing at the end of the party - blow out candles, slice up cake and thanks for coming, see you later?
Also, the thing I am worried about with the no party bags ('cos DH is rabidly opposed) is not so much the children but what the other mothers would think. If your child didn't get one (and possibly went into one because they were overtired), would you think it odd, or that the mother was stingy?

jennifersofia · 04/02/2006 22:04

So, two things: can someone explain the cake in the bag thing to me? Do you blow out the candles, serve out slices of cake and later put another slice in a bag for each child to take home? Alternatively, does each child get one slice only which goes right in the bag? If so, does that mean you sort of do the cake thing at the end of the party - blow out candles, slice up cake and thanks for coming, see you later?
Also, the thing I am worried about with the no party bags ('cos DH is rabidly opposed) is not so much the children but what the other mothers would think. If your child didn't get one (and possibly went into one because they were overtired), would you think it odd, or that the mother was stingy?

KBear · 04/02/2006 22:09

I have spent £20 on a hall, £60 on an entertainer, £50 on food, spent all day making two birthday cakes. I don't think they are going to bedgrudge me not doing party bags.

Their children will bounce out of the party with their posies and their squashed cake in a napkin and bore them rigid all the way home about what a FANTASTIC party Kbear threw for her DD.

She hopes!

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notasheep · 04/02/2006 22:11

Sing Happy Birthday,blow out candles,wrap up cake and put in a party bag.Dont give them 2 slices.

Do not worry about what the other Mothers think,its their problem not yours!

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KBear · 04/02/2006 22:12

oh and yes to ...."you sort of do the cake thing at the end of the party - blow out candles, slice up cake and thanks for coming, see you later?"

jennifersofia · 04/02/2006 22:32

Oh, right. Thanks. But don't people want to sit down and enjoy the lovely cake that you made?
Notasheep - what a liberating way of thinking about it!

moondog · 04/02/2006 22:36

Gawd,we've been invited to a party tomorrow that goes on for three and a half hours!!!
Zzzzzzzzz

I thought it was an ujnwritten law that kids' partieslast two hours max??
(I always say to dh that I love the way that noone gets pissed and outstays their welcome.)

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notasheep · 05/02/2006 09:30

OMG 3 and a half hours,thought 2 hours was a written rule!!!

Depends on age of children though-dd is 6 so i would drop her off and get some time to myself to maybe read the sunday paper!

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Enid · 05/02/2006 10:04

I like party bags

I do them when they are little

older kids get a lucky dip as they leave with a decent present inside

cupcakes · 05/02/2006 10:12

I love doing party bags too. They don't need to be expensive. It's dd's 3rd birthday next week and her party bags will include
notepad
pencil
stickers
jellybeans
cake in a napkin

I think it's nice for dd to give gifts to her friends to thank them for coming - and to stop all the present emphasis being on her.

dexter · 05/02/2006 10:31

I hate the idea of party bags! WELL DONE you brave guys who don't do them, and have the confidence to think for yourselves!

I'm not a meanie either but I think kids ought to be expected to go to a party to celebrate the birthday of the other child - it's a treat enough to go, experience the fun of a party, have special food and cake. It's good that we learn that some days are for treats for OTHERS not always us - we all have our turn at being the one with the birthday!

KBear · 05/02/2006 19:05

Well, the flowers went down a storm - the girls (mostly around age 7) felt very grown up going home with a posy and the mum's thought it was a great idea too. Phew! I just gave them their cake wrapped in a napkin as they left and DD handed out the flowers.

Her party was three hours but mostly the ones that she goes to are two hours.

I am EXHAUSTED and glad that is all over for another year.

littlerach · 05/02/2006 19:15

Well doen, think flowers are a fab idea.

Also the lucky dip idea.

DD1 has her party next month and is already debating the contents of party bags. We were at a party today and I skilfully dumped the lollipop and Haribos before they could be spotted!! Thought here was a lovely pencil sharpener in DD1's which is in the shape of a house. she has fallen in love with it.

Moondog, we were invited to a party that was yesterday and was lasting 4 hours .
We lasted almost 2 hours then we left sharpish. It wasn't a birthday party (J Witnesses), so involved 15 5 year olds screeching round a house, completelu unsupervised by the mother.
Unfortunately, became rather hellish and we left!!

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notasheep · 05/02/2006 21:07

KBear-Well Done

Moondog-How are you?!

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