Talking to DD about my boyfriend moving in

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After much consideration my boyfriend and I have decided it’s time for us to move in together. We’ve been together for 4 years, in an ideal world I’d rather this would have happened once DD is fully independent but I don’t think it will happen in the near future due to the general state of the economy etc and this summer it will make sense for a number of reasons. DD22 has made great improvements recently, seems in a much better place than a few months ago.

However it’s been just us since childhood, so I’m a bit nervous about having the Big Talk. Any words of wisdom? Anything I should take on board, consider, mention?

I feel like she knows it’s coming but obviously it will be a big change so I just want to make sure I get it right. She’s never had any stepfathers/any men around really since I was widowed (10+ years ago!) and she gets along with him, but I am aware daily cohabitation will feel different.

TIA!

What do you mean she’s in a much better place than a few months ago? Did something happen?

@WhatAMarvelousTune it was more like a prolonged issue with her at home, just generally being inconsiderate to an extreme, something I had struggled with for a number of years really, including smoking weed in the bedroom while flat out denying it.

At the time I even tried to get some advice here, had some big talks with her etc and to her credit she’s been absolutely fine, no weed in sight either, looking after her things, etc.