Can't understand or help 26 year old daughter

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I wonder if someone could offer some advice or perspective.

My 30 year old daughter married recently . A few months after the wedding she started saying she had made a mistake . They have now separated. No reason except she now says she doesn't like him

They had known each other for 7 years . How can it go wrong so suddenly

I wouldn't say we 'push ' marriage .
I'm originally from a Mediterranean country so a traditional culture yes but generally liberal . They lived together for years and we supported them in that . No issues .

There has been a lot of inconsistency , which is why I am worried .Sometimes ( not often admittedly ) she is singing his praises and at other times she says she dislikes him and has made a mistake .
I have been honest with her about my own marriage and have repeatedly told her that if there was any hint or abuse to leave immediately .

You don't really need to understand the reasons why, so just give her whatever support she needs.
It can't have been an easy decision, and nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors in someone else's marriage. There might be any number of reasons, some of which she may not be ready to talk about, or feel able to tell you (or indeed anyone).

Have they seen a councellor? Could you offer to contribute if they can’t afford one after the expense of the wedding?

We had issues right after our wedding when certain things came to light, it improved for a while, it’s rubbish again now. I wish we’d talked more honestly when the problems first arose in those early days.

At least there are no kids involved yet unlike me!

Or could she see a therapist on her own even?

Yes I've suggested a therapist . Either alone or together . She saw a counsellor for her depression but she said the experience made her worse.
I will suggest it again though

Also for reference ;

My friend was married for one year and divorced , aged 30 . Turns out it was DV but she felt so ashamed to tell anyone for a while . Even her family didn't know .

Never assume

Thank you for that name

Quite worrying though.

Oh that’s a shame. Maybe try a different one if that therapist was not suitable. It can feel a bit worse initially though when going through the issues, although she could say that she wants to focus on moving forward rather than dwelling on the past. Some more traditional therapists will spend more tome on the past, I find.

Thank you for those thoughts