Our DS has returned home , planning to stay with us for 6 months until he moves back to London. We have been paying his rent for the last year , and have supported him financially in other areas, so around 600 a month.
We moved home last year so the first time he is at home with us in our new house for any long period.
We are very (read extremely..:-)) clean and tidy and want our house kept like that. Our DS isn’t , and doesn’t want to comply with our requests to keep his room tidy, keep the house and kitchen tidy.
Big argument the other night, he was cooking dinner for us, but we got annoyed as he was making a mess, using food we had planned for other nights etc. HE stormed out of the kitchen and said he gave up and we can cook it.
The thing is , we know we are ultra clean and tidy and house proud, and don’t expect him to be the same, but at least have some respect and consideration, eg dont leave cups and plates in the room, wipe the bath down, keep his room relatively tidy. When he cooks , be careful and clean. But he doesn’t.
He works pastime while he is studying but doesn’t contribute to anything, drinks all beer and wine, eg bought 8 beers and they were gone in 2 days , he drank 6 of them. Helps himself to gin and tonics etc.
We know we could approach things , maybe more sympathetically, but his general attitude (and other things he has gone ) puts us on edge.
The way we see it, we know we are overly houseproud, but its the way we are, we have worked hard to have what we have, and he should respect our wishes, he is an adult at 23 , and living with us and paying no money.
Is this fair?