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What does it feel like when the first one goes to school?

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PrettyCandles · 11/07/2005 21:16

Ds starts Reception in September. He is so very ready intellectually and emotionally to go to school, and I don't have any problem with that, I love to see him growing in all ways, but I'm not ready to give him up for most of the day, for most of the week.

I'm a full-time mum precisely so that I can dedicate my time for the children. For the last 6m or so since dd joined ds at part-time nursery we have arranged the week so that ds gets one morning a week when he doesn't have to share me with anyone else. And our relationship has absolutely flourished with this dedicated time. I'm just not ready to give that up .

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Aimsmum · 12/07/2005 21:28

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MrsGordonRamsay · 12/07/2005 21:28

Janh

Yes I suppose it is, never thought about it like that.

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mandyc66 · 12/07/2005 22:11

I remember being really positive about my first going to school until he started talking about his lunch and it suddenly hit me that I didnt have a say and I wasnt looking after him and miss Askew although wonderful had taken over my role...she knew everything it seemed!!!

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ChocolateGirl · 12/07/2005 22:33

PrettyCandles,

my ds1 is coming to the end of his first year in Reception. He has really enjoyed it. I was worried about him going in as he is one of the youngest in the year and he has some speech problems.

I wanted to cry the first day in the school yard where he just followed the line into the classroom, with this unknown teacher who was going to have him all day. He was carrying his lunch-box (which he couldn't even open by himself but he insisted on having that one) and he looked so little and vulnerable.

I think you have hit it on the head... I have missed him loads. I just didn't bargain realise much I would miss him. I still miss him now at the end of the year! And feel almost jealous of his teacher that she has his company all day! Especially now when I've got him to an age when he's really nice to be with, why should she benefit from his company and not me!!!!!!

But I guess it is a part of life... you have to feel proud that he is coping by himself, making his own friends, learning stuff, I guess.

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PrettyCandles · 13/07/2005 14:05

Oh thank you all for your responses. I don't feel like a selfish person now that I know that others feel the same way. I'm sure ds will settle in well, and I wouldn't in a million years want him to feel at all bad about going to school. These feelings are mine, internally. Externally and internally I'm nothing but glowing pride at the ease with which ds now joins in with groups, holds his own and isn't afraid to speak up.

Like you've said, I'm jealous of the teachers. At the parents' meeting which we attended last week I met his forthcoming teachers and could feel myself bristle internally "She's not good enough for my son". I'm sure she's a perfectly good teacher! I guess I also resent the fact that the time I will have with him will be at the end of the day, he will be tired and there'll be things that have to be done, rather than having time to do things.

And I worry, too, how he will cope physically. He still naps 3-4 times a week, and needs those naps. I remember napping in Reception, but it's not done anymore.

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Maddison · 15/07/2005 13:21

Just to follow on....

My 4 year old DS1 has left nursery this morning I cried when I dropped him off and cried again when I picked him up, luckily both times I managed to hold it in until I got out of the school gates! I really don't want him to go to school, I'll miss him like crazy but I know I have to let go

Other people assume now that I have Ds2 it won't be so bad, but it just won't be the same without him.

I haven't had time to read this thread but I WILL read it to see how the rest of you are coping/have coped.

GetMakosiorVanessaorOrlaithOut · 15/07/2005 13:50

Ds1 is on his second visit this afternoon - he has another next week where the parents also go for a meeting. Once I buy uniform it will hit me.

No question about it, I'll cry like a baby on the first day (and I've still got 2 at home!).

joanna4 · 17/07/2005 22:52

Aw it gets no better as they grow my son leaves primary school on thursday he is off the age where they are trying to become more independant but still needs guidance.I will worry myself daft when he goes to secondary although it is sorted that he will travel with a friend.He had a visit which he loved so fingers crossed.

Tortington · 18/07/2005 01:09

it feels chuffin excellent!

Skribble · 18/07/2005 02:13

In our area they do half days for the first term I think it is more for the parents than the kids. I decided to enjoy the freedom and went walking most days until I could find a job to fit in.

It is strange going from 24/7 at with kids to them being all day at school. It will soon feel normal but you will probably go through the "oh no I should do home schooling" moments.

mumbee · 26/07/2005 09:31

Hi everyone just read this thread. Reduce me to tears. DD goes into yr2 in sept, DS goes in to reception.

I hated it when DD went to school same feelings as everyone else, not looking forward to son going. Even though he has been at nursery FT time for the last year -I spent a lot of time helping at his nursery school(training as a Teaching Assistant). DD school have not being very encouraging about coming in to help. Making it very hard to send him.

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