Hygeine when washing wee-soaked clothes

[GoldenSnitch]

OK, so it's not really nappies but I figured real nappy users would be the best people to ask for this one....

DS has recently been wetting himself a LOT after being potty trained for 9 months. He's almost 3. We think it's either down the arrival of his new sister or possibly a urine infection as it smells very strong and he's going a lot more often than usual.

This leaves me with sometimes close to an entire load of wee soaked washing everyday as he wets multiple sets of trousers, pants, socks and sometimes even t-shirts!

I've been putting them through a 40 degree 'wash plus' (uses extra water and washes for longer) in our machine using our normal non-bio washing liquid but I'm wondering if this is actually the best way to clean them.

Obviously, if he does have an infection then it's important that I kill the bugs and even if he hasn't, it's all a bit gross and I want to be sure his clothes - plus our clothes and especially his 5 week old sister's things which may be in the same load and will definitely be in the same machine - get properly clean too. I can't wash them hotter as 40 degrees is the maximum temperature for most of the items in the wash.

Do I need to be using a bio washing powder then rewashing in a non-bio maybe? Do I need to run the machine on a hot wash after every urine soaked load to kill the bugs?

Any advice would be really appreciated.

No infection so it is just a reaction to DD.

I'm glad he's OK and not in any pain although I do feel bad that it's my fault he's wetting himself not an easier to fix infection.

Back to the potty training and lots of love and cuddles and fingers crossed he feels secure again soon.

oh no don't start looking for who is at fault! it's really normal for little ones to go through phases of wetting anyway, even if there is nothing new going on in their life - and if it is a reaction to new baby, then it's good you're aware of him being perhaps a bit stressed, and can help him out

I thought we'd prepared him though. We made all changes well in advance, read books, talked, got him a doll, organised for him to go to his favourite babysitters while I was in hospital, organised more activities, just for him afterwards....

I don't know what else I could have done and yet he's taking it all so badly.

Seeing HV today so will talk to her about it

well, someone once sent me a great analogy of what it must be like for a child when a new baby arrives

imagine you have this lovely husband and you have been living happily together
suddenly he tells you he is bringing home a new wife - a younger, cuter wife - but don't worry! he will still love you just as much, and YOU will love the new wife too

I had heard that one Franny but not the "younger and cuter" bit. It makes sense though, it must be very hard to wrap their little heads round.

Wednesday was totally dry btw and yesterday, we only had one incident after dinner when he was tired - so tired, he feel asleep as DH dried him after his bath!! It's getting better slowly.

my ds1 went a bit round the twist when ds2 was born, and he was 5
it took about a year to get any kind of normality! then of course the little one starts walking and all hell breaks loose
anyway glad all is going a bit better