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honey our daughters coughing

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Frizbe · 22/01/2005 02:28

well, thanks for waking me from my nice deep sleep to tell me and what do you think I can do about it that you can't dearest dh.......ooooh take her a drink.....umm that seems to have worked, hello dh, are you awake... no thought not.....MEN

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hercules · 27/01/2005 18:32

well said custardo. I couldnt bear to have an extra child in the house and dont know why some women put up with lazy arses.

fuzzywuzzy · 27/01/2005 18:48

Does everyone here iron their dp/h's clothes, get their lunch for them and do all the baby stuff?????? I ask because although my dp has never yet remembered my birthday (a whole other thread), he sorts his stuff out for work, I do get his breakfast and pack his lunch but on days when I'm too tired I don't and he's yet to complain. Strangely dp loves taking care of the girls although he's incapable of doing the housework and take care of the girls (being a man and all apparantly multi-tasking is beyond him, and looking after two girls is the absoloute limit of his abilities poor thing ).
Can one not sit down and explain slowly that we are partners in the relationship, not master and skivvy (unless he wants the latter position)!!!

colditzmum · 28/01/2005 14:59

You have to be quite forceful with some men ie;

"If you do not help me I will leave you, never come back, and start proceedings to have you removed from the house."

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noddyholder · 28/01/2005 15:07

my favourite is when dp asks'Are there any socks?'that makes me boil!!!!!!!!!

scotlou · 28/01/2005 15:42

But it all goes to show we're the superior species, doesn't it!!! When I came home from hospital with dd2, dh said he would see to ds bed and bath and walk dog that night - but that I would need to start doing my share ASAP! I think they genuinely do not know what to do - and can certainly not multi task! When I was working one day and dh had a day off, he looked after ds (dd still had to go to granny's!) The house was in a tip when I left but dh promised that he would see to it. When I got home - guess what - still a tip. His excuse - it's too difficult to do stuff when you're looking after kids!!! Men!!!!!

crunchie · 28/01/2005 15:44

Oh I love the 'where are my socks' type comments!! In the f'ing washing basket is my usual reply Oh otherwise on the floor stagnating where you dropped them

I have to say dh is getting better however and I think it is becasue I have lowered my standards!! Nowadays if he has the kids I don't expect a hugely tidy house too. And I have found the more I 'allow' him to do, the more he does. I put 'allow' like that as I realsied a while back that part of his total apathy was my fault, I allowed him to get away with doing sod all, so he did sod all!! He is now a part time Househusband and I have let him organise himeself and teh girls and it is sooo much better. OK he doesn't really 'do' washing (will use machine when instructed) he does help with cleaning/tidying and he can look after the kids.

hercules · 29/01/2005 13:35

I cant understand sweeping statements about men not being capable of things or unable to multitask. They are capable, they choose not to, probably because they know someone else will do it for them.
My dh looks after the kids and if not too tired (works nights as well) cooks dinner, housework etc. When he isnt tired he is more than capable of running the house, look after the kids and study for an OU course.

Men are not children but equally responsible for their kids!

hercules · 29/01/2005 13:36

Whhy would the fact that you are an equal partner need any kind of an explanation even in a jokey way?

californiagirl · 29/01/2005 22:20

I think there are some men who are genuinely incapable of multitasking, and many who find it more difficult than women do. My DH is not a good multitasker. Nonetheless, DH and I both agree that a man who can do things on the computer while watching the baby can also put in a load of laundry or empty the dishwasher -- and that a person who's watching a baby can't do very many other things, so he doesn't expect me to be able to hold down a full time job, take most of the baby responsibility, and still do more than half of the barest necessities in housework. I do tend to put away his clean socks, but only because I find them while looking for mine. And he does do some of the baby stuff, but for a host of reasons most of them nothing to do with him I end up with 75-90% of it. He does understand that the baby must be changed, dressed, delivered to daycare with food for the day, brought home, changed, and
dressed for bed, and her food things and the pump must be washed every single weekday and that this is tedious and time-consuming and he has to participate.

As for ironing his shirts, as he points out, he is much better at ironing shirts than I am. The army saw to that.

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