Bed wetting / night training

[Sunnyday14558]

My son is 3.5 and has been out of nappies for almost a year. We started night training a few days ago and I’m looking for advice!

the first night I followed the Oh Crap book and woke him up twice so no accidents. I then read that it’s wrong to wake him up so let him be and we had one accident the second night and two accidents last night. Is this normal?

wondering if anyone has any advice and how long we can expect the bedwetting to continue for? Thank you

At 3.5, he's too little to be fully continent at night. Night pullups are your friend. Keep telling him if he needs to go wee week to go to the loo, and leave a small light so he can find his way while half sleep.

I used to leave the bathroom light on every night when training my children to stay dry. Little munchkins are often scared of the dark.

There is honestly no problems with pull ups, they are easily available at the supermarket and I went nearly mad with all the washing and drying. If you are constantly waking them at night or having them wake up wet in the night then sleep deprivation will affect both them and you.

When ds1 was 7, in his class at primary school there were at least 2 other children who were wet at night.

Just put a pull up on him. It is hormonal. My ds was reliably dry in the day, before he was 3yo, within days. He wasnt at night until he was 7yo. You cant 'train' it, its physiological. Stop giving yourself more work to do, no one gets a medal for it.

Just wear pull ups, it'll make your life a lot easier than washing and drying duvets etc. It's also far too soon to consider alarms and such, my dd got dry at age 10, the specialists wouldn't even consider an alarm until she was 7 (we didn't use it regardless) and even then they were suggesting that night time wetness isn't a 'worry' until age 16 ish. One night dd went to bed and she's been dry every night since.

We are in the same boat with my almost 6 year old. Wet every night. Was potty trained at 18 month and did amazing. Just the bed time. Weve tried absolutely everythinf and nothing worked. She will also wee threw her nappy most nights on to thr bottom sheet and duvet. Weve just discovered some junior nappies at Tesco from around 6-7 year and above and so far they have kept the bottom sheets dry!

I echo the pps who say you're making a lot of work for yourself... Mine was toilet trained during the days at 2.5 and she wore pull-ups till she was dry at night, maybe 3.5. We encouraged her to go for a wee at night and a wee in the morning and that was about it beyond praising a dry night and being nonchalant about a wet one. I think we waited for her to be dry at night for a month before moving to knickers. I found the nights section of the Oh Crap book absolute madness. The only person I know who did those night dream wees was taking their child for a wee at 2am for something hideous like 4 years.

DS1 dry in day around 2yo
wore pulls ups until almost 7yo.

family friend is a paediatrician and told us not to fret until DS was 7yo. But it was resolved by then so no follow up required. Phew!

DD not quite dry in day yet but dry at night for a few months now after using the alarm. She is 9yo. And yes has had some bladder issues and is under the incontinence team at the local hospital.

im a very experienced mother with this topic!!!

Just try pull ups.

no point night training until they are dry for a few nights consistently.

we also tried an alarm. From Amazon.

No drinking for 2h before bed (avoid dehydration by drinking enough in day - monitor this)
double void before bed.
Go to bed with 2 pairs of pants on. Sensor attached to outer pair. Bed mat on bed over sheet.

parents and child discuss the action plan before bed so child knows what is going to happen. Demonstrate alarm going off.

parents go to bed with a baby monitor next to their bed.
Alarm goes off with any sense of dampness. Child gets up and goes for a wee on the toilet. with parental assistance.

if child is dry within 2 weeks, continue as is for another 2 weeks (but should be without parental assistance at night)
then discard alarm.

if child is NOT dry in 2 weeks. Abandon plan. Stick with pull ups. Try again in a couple of months or when pulls up are dry more often than not.

fwiw many kids are still not dry at night until the age of 7. And in fact it is not considered an issue until then if the child is dry in the day.

(mother with lots of experience here!!!)

Just leave it. They stop on their own.
I didn't even bother potty training until they started having dry nappies every morning and took that as a sign they were ready.
It was still a nightmare to get them to stay dry in day but nights were never an issue.