my 5yo takes ages getting ready in the morning and that’s with constant reminders and me helping her. If I don’t help her or give her constant reminders, it’d take her much, much longer.
today it took 50mins.
10 mins to decide what she wants for breakfast. She avoids answering what she’d like and then deliberately tries to pick arguments - “but today I don’t need a drink because I’ll drink the milk in my cereal” me: “it’s important to stay hydrated so we all need to have a drink in the morning. What would you like?” Her: no answer despite asking her a few times so I got her water. 5minutes later: “wahhh! I don’t want water”
ate breakfast. She gets distracted chatting to her brother so it takes a while.
then get dressed. I laid out her clothes. She can physically get herself dressed but if I leave her unattended she gets distracted; lying on her bed, chatting to herself, playing with something. I have to break it down into small steps and may ask her to put her pants on, for example, 8 times before she does it. And even then I often end up just helping her get dressed or we’d be there forever.
brushing hair and clean teeth. Similar story. If I ask her to go to the bathroom she’ll often get distracted en route even though it’s opposite her bedroom.
I try to be patient but it all takes about 3 times longer than it needs to. No concerns about her hearing. She gets lots of 1:1 attention and love.
is this what some 5yos are like?
her brother was getting dressed and ready quickly and largely independently at age 3.