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Girls’ school at sport

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Franny1 · 05/09/2025 06:19

Sorry, meant to say GIRLS’ SPORT AT SCHOOL!

Has anybody had any experience where school thinks your child is worse at sport than they are? We’ve had something quite upsetting happen and I’m worried it’s going to really put off our DD:

In year 3 our junior school divides the kids into different groups for different days of sport based on swimming ability. DD has been put in the less able group even though her swimming reports have so far always said she’s strong at it. Also, our DD has done swimming externally until very recently and her teacher has always said she was really good too. My DD isn’t someone with a lot of self esteem at the moment and is very sensitive, and I’m honestly worried it’s sending her the message really early that she’s not good at sport, particularly sad since she (and we) all thought she was a really decent swimmer. (This bit isn’t the school’s responsibility but it doesn’t help either that literally all her friends are on the other day.)

I’m going to ask the teacher why, but in the meantime I wonder if anyone has any advice? It’s so important for girls not to be put off sport!

(Incidentally my older son was also out in the worse group for sports but somehow it didn’t matter so much because he was just obviously not that good and so it never bothered him - he worked hard on improving some specific sports and now has a couple of things he enjoys. In fact the whole thing with DD seems so unexpected and weird that we’re wondering if the school is sort of assuming DD won’t be any good because of DS? Unlikely I know but it’s just weird…)

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Rocknrollstar · 06/09/2025 09:42

My PE teacher had a view of me based on what I could achieve in the gym (very little). I was too small to be good at netball but I was very good at tennis. However I was never included in a school team at any age because of how she saw me.

CurlewKate · 06/09/2025 10:09

limescale · 06/09/2025 09:36

No, it’s a safety one.
Big difference in potential outcomes if a child can’t catch a tennis ball vs can’t float on their back or swim to the side.

Perfectly sensible to group swimming lessons by swimming ability. Not sensible at all to group tennis lessons by swimming ability.

limescale · 06/09/2025 12:04

CurlewKate · 06/09/2025 10:09

Perfectly sensible to group swimming lessons by swimming ability. Not sensible at all to group tennis lessons by swimming ability.

I was referring to the point suggesting that to sort swim groups by ability is discriminatory because not all children are able to access lessons.

I don't think it's common for primary schools to have ability groups for PE, generally they group for swimming and then other PE lessons are a free for all are whole-class groups. Certainly in year 3 anyway.

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CurlewKate · 06/09/2025 12:12

limescale · 06/09/2025 12:04

I was referring to the point suggesting that to sort swim groups by ability is discriminatory because not all children are able to access lessons.

I don't think it's common for primary schools to have ability groups for PE, generally they group for swimming and then other PE lessons are a free for all are whole-class groups. Certainly in year 3 anyway.

The OP makes it clear that at THIS school they are set for PE. Not my experience or yours, but hers.

Bluedenimdoglover · 07/09/2025 21:57

All the reasoning you have given on Mumsnet is what you should be saying to the teacher. You can't second guess why the decision was made. Just ask and give your reasons for disagreeing.

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