This is a difficult one to explain and I'd love to hear your thoughts. I have 1 DD who is 12 months. I work full time and she is in full time nursery and we are all happy. We earn decent salaries, have a large mortgage and are comfortable enough but money is tight - we are now spending a little more than we earn each month, and there are no real areas that are easy to cutback on. But - my problem is that any childcare or parenting discussions that DH and I have are boiling down to the fact that whatever I would like can't be done cos we can't afford it. For example, I am conscious that I work full time and don't want to spend the weekends cleaning so we had agreed to get a cleaning lady for a few hours but now it seems we can't afford it. Also- when baby no. 2 comes we'll have to take DD out of nursery and get a cheaper childminder and possibly not have her attend playschool/montessori etc (cos of the cost)...which I really want her to do. Also - deep down I think I always thought that after 2 kids I would work part time but I think there is no chance of that now. I'm just dissapointed that all the things I wanted or I feel are best for my kids will be curtailed by cost. I know everyone is in the same boat (mostly)....but I feel that my priorities differ from my DH's here. So many other peoples DH's seem to agree that the childs interests should come first and spend their money on good childcare etc rather than house stuff or holidays etc. I'm rambling but it has helped to put my thoughts down. anyone else any thoughts like this ??
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