Sleepover at MIL

[Mum2be0523]

Im just after some other people’s opinions. Im a single Mum as partner has very sadly passed away. Im a devoted Mum and as you can imagine just want to be with my little boy and not be on my own.

recently I was put in the awkward position of my MIL stating to my sister in law that she is doing a bedroom out there ready for sleepovers which my SIL passed onto me. Its immediately sent my anxiety raging as I think this is beyond disrespectful to even do this. Im certainly not letting my little boy sleep there and certainly not any time soon I would never sleep in my house on my own and not now for sure so im not sure why she would do this. I also think it was done in a symbolic way as though to say iv done a bedroom as he will be sleeping with us. Im not sure if anyone else feels this way but im just not for sleepovers and I certainly wont be letting my little boy sleep there not now or probably ever, its just a boundary that I wont be crossing, she also never really looks after him to suggest that id let him sleep there is a little confusing? and I wished shes discussed this with me so I could have told her not to waste her money on doing a bedroom. Does anyone else feel like they

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At some point you are going to either want or need childcare or help. Why not build up to the mil being able to look after him sometimes to give you that break. It doesn’t need to be sleepovers straight away but why not. Few hours here and there and then maybe sleepovers in the future.

it is not healthy for either you or your son to never be apart.

I have such fond memories of staying with my grandparents as a child, my gran is my last living grandparent she's in her eighties and we're still so close, she comes and stays with me and DS adores her. DS starts with grandparents overnight a couple of times a year, we don't need it but it's nice for all of them and it's nice to have an adult weekend once in a blue moon.
Your situation sounds very raw and I understand why you want your child close, as he grows up he will need to develop a little bit of independence and a night at granny's is a very safe way to do that.
I also agree that your son is your MILs link to her son, none of us expect to outlive our children and this must be very very hard for her too. Unless there's a huge back story I'd think she thinks it's a nice thing to do and is also probably thinking there may come a time when you want a night to yourself.

I'd agree with that.
Even if it starts with a couple of hours for a hair cut, or time for a visit to the dentist.

There will absolutely be times when Op will need support. Whilst it's probably natural to turn to her own mum first, you just can't have too much support around you, especially as a lone parent.