I have a 4 week old,am exclusively breastfeeding and I'm really struggling to follow the advice on feeding cues - to respond to early signs before she starts crying - especially at night . The NCT etc advice says to look for head turning stirring etc, but responding to these would mean I could never put her down to sleep, she'll always move about. I went to a local support group and the mentor there pointed out cues she displayed like opening her mouth, sticking out toingue etc and seemed to suggest I should be spotting these even through the night. There is no way, even though I sleep with my head next to her in a next to me crib, that I can see/ hear this, i keep the room dark with just a little nightlight and, if I do manage to be asleep ,I'm not going to pick up on small noises, and to be honest when drowsy I'm often confused and just don't respond quickly, not always clear what's real and what's a dream etc. So it will end up that she'll be starting to cry before I respond, and then, at least some of the time I'll change her nappy first so she'll cry through that - she will poo in the night so don't want to leave it hours and hours. Is it really that bad for her to get to a state of crying and how do people square responding to cues with getting any sleep at all?